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Originally Posted by d-boy-80
Wait Annie, can I ask you some questions?
Why are you going to leave money for your friends? Did you not ever have any children or husband? Were they really that good of friends and why?
Have you ever given money to your friends and have they always returned what they borrowed?
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I have no children. I was married a long time ago. My ex-husband died about 10 years after we divorced.
My two best friends are a gay couple. I have known them for 31 years.
Whenever I have needed help, my friends have always been there for me..........no questions asked and with a good attitude. They even did things for my father........all I had to do was ask.
Years ago, my friends put in my landscaping for me, re-did my bathroom for me, helped me paint, ran right over when my basement flooded.........you name it, they did it..........and never asked for money.
Now, years later, I am much better off financially, {I invested VERY well}, they lost good paying jobs and their income has plummeted, though they still work. They have borrowed money here and there over the years and always paid me back.....without me asking. In the last few years, I have GIVEN them money for emergencies like veterinary care, late morgage payments, etc. I told them they do not have to pay me back because I know how bad their finances are........they didn't ask. They do not waste their money foolishly, I see this first hand.
Whenever I have called my brother for help, I have gotten bitching and moaning. "Can't you find someone else to do it? How much can you pay me?", etc. I took care of our elderly parents with very little help from my brother. He would help when I told him he HAD TO.........and it was like pulling teeth. I took them to doctor appointments and sat in hospitals for hours on end........all by myself. I missed work.......not my brother.
He has a good paying job and his wife works part time, yet they needed money because they were being sued for unpaid bills. They have always had the highest speed internet available, the top of the line TV package, they have always had cell phones for the children, even when they were only 8 and 9 years old.............things I still won't waste money on to this day. They put up a HUGE out building to house two elderly horses that her father had........a small building would have been just fine. Vinyl fencing instead of regular fencing for a big pasture. The children play all kinds of sports and take all kinds of lessons and have all of the latest electronic goodies............things that you shouldn't be spending money on instead of paying your bills.
Bottom line, my friends have always been there for me.......willingly, and my brother never has.
Oh, to top it all off...........even though my gay friends did MANY things for our father.........my brother doesn't like them, because they are gay......... and he is teaching the same attitude to his children.
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