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Old 12-17-2010, 06:45 PM
 
Location: Portland, OR
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Is there anyone on this board who has someone in thier family that they haven't spoken to? How do you cope?
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Old 12-17-2010, 06:53 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Yes, my father. He died while not speaking to me and my sisters for a number of years due to issues with his second wife. She made his dying days as well as the funeral very difficult on us. Difficult enough that I don't tell the full story anymore because it's like dropping a turd into the punch bowl. It ruins everyone's day. I think I am supposed to feel bad about him dying prior to our reconciling, but I don't. But that took a bit of work on my part.
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Old 12-17-2010, 06:53 PM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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Are you referring to a fallout or family you never see or talk to for whatever reason?
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Old 12-17-2010, 06:54 PM
 
Location: Portland, OR
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Are you referring to a fallout or family you never see or talk to for whatever reason?
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Old 12-17-2010, 06:57 PM
 
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I don't talk to any of my family anymore. My brothers, no. My cousins, no. My aunts and uncles, no. My mother, yes because I feel sorry for her and I shouldn't because she's not nice to me (that's another story). Anyway, how do I cope? Very well, thank you.
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Old 12-17-2010, 06:59 PM
 
Location: Pa
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My mother is the culprit for her not talking to my father's side. Yet I talk to them. They are my Aunts and Uncles along with cousins who haven't done me wrong. She is just a hard person to get along with.
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Old 12-17-2010, 07:00 PM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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The only issue in my family didn't affect me directly as it dealt with an uncle I saw maybe five times in my life, twice at funerals. My fathers half-brother was a drunk, junky, con-man, all around seedy character. My grandparents were the only ones that had any contact and that was only because they felt obligated. When this uncle died no one in the family attended his funeral, that is if he even had one.
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Old 12-17-2010, 07:04 PM
 
Location: Portland, OR
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The reason I ask is my small family seems to cause nothing but drama. My cousin is a nosy, bossy "B" who does things and take no responsibilty.She also like s to gossip about people behind thier back She is married to a bully who has a daughter from a previous marriage that is scared to death of him. My mother drives me up the wall because she is way too dependent on other people. I just feel like I've had it anymore.
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Old 12-17-2010, 07:05 PM
 
Location: Austin
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I don't talk to my sister or dad anymore. I cope by realizing that they are never going to change and by releasing any expectations of it even remotely possibly happening. It took a long time to get there but I'm there. Sigh, some things in life just don't have happy endings.
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Old 12-17-2010, 07:13 PM
 
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I have a sister that I have not had contact with in probably 17 years now. I don't really know what you mean by "cope." You just deal with it and move on. I wouldn't know, nor would I care if she was no longer living at this point. She is a ghost to me.
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