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I think personality is just a default answer someone gives to describe why they like (or don't like) someone. I'm not talking about friends, I'm talking about someone liking (or not liking) someone as romantic relationship material.
When I think about it, I've never heard someone explain why they like/dislike someone's personality. They just say "I like his/her personality"
Is this just something people say when they can't think of a reason? Or is it just hard to put the reason into words, so that's why they say personality (if that's the case, I can somewhat understand)?
If I say that about a woman, Its just saying whether I find her physically attractive or not, the friendly way she behaves and treats people, is. When it's a guy, its about how cool and easy to get along with he is, without always having to prove he's harder than everyone, which I suspect is really insecurity.
Is this just something people say when they can't think of a reason? Or is it just hard to put the reason into words, so that's why they say personality (if that's the case, I can somewhat understand)?
Don't know about others (don't care much about knowing either) but for me its 50/50. Personality does go a long way, and to be honest the slightest thing in a personality can turn me off.
For example, I'm a bit complex in this regard but when someone of the opposite sex uses profanity of any kind or any vulgar word, it really turns me off, don't know why but it really does. I also don't like gutter minded personalities either, where perverted jokes and all that are funny and stuff. To me it just comes off as "unhygenic" or so, and its just a turn off for me at least.
So yes, now that I've described why personality matters (to me at least) I can answer your question saying, yes personality (again for me) really does matter.
This just reminds me of when I was a high school freshman and my classmates said they liked a girl's personality when really they were just lusting after her and they didn't want to admit they only liked her for her looks.
I think personality is just a default answer someone gives to describe why they like (or don't like) someone. I'm not talking about friends, I'm talking about someone liking (or not liking) someone as romantic relationship material.
When I think about it, I've never heard someone explain why they like/dislike someone's personality. They just say "I like his/her personality"
Is this just something people say when they can't think of a reason? Or is it just hard to put the reason into words, so that's why they say personality (if that's the case, I can somewhat understand)?
Google, "personality" and you'll find all the information you seek. If you've seriously never heard someone explain why they like/dislike someone's personality then you've not got out and about much or else just haven't asked the question. Next time the phrase comes up with respect to any one individual then ask the person who said it why they came to that conclusion. Pretty simple.
I like Jane Doe's personality because her sense of humor appeals to me, her optimistic outlook on life appeals to me, she's an interesting woman who's been around the block a few times and is very nice to be around, etc.
I don't like John Doe's personality because he whines all the time about how life has treated him so poorly, has a list of pet peeves a mile long which he repeats incessantly, is an incessant talker but not a listener and generally is very boorish and negative, etc.
I think some girls might use personality as a reason to reject a boy because they think there's something else wrong with him but they just want to sound nice
Is this just something people say when they can't think of a reason?
No, of course not. Personality is the reason. When you're planning on spending a lot of time with a person, his personality is the biggest thing, really.
People's attraction to someone else's personality varies for each individual. What I would consider a complete A**wipe might be appealing to someone else I know.
It's easier to describe this way. Many women have cosmetic surgery on their appearance but some have their heads filled with helium and she spends considerable amounts of time talking about herself. Yeah, she looks good, but her personality sucks.
A person can be highly educated and knowledgeable about something but their attitude and deliery of that knowledge is really in your face - that person may be smart but their personality sucks or they are just too abrasive in your opinion. Another person may be more in tune with that person's personality and never see it the way you do.
Personality requirements, much like physical attributes, are tailored to each individual and their likes and dislikes.
Google, "personality" and you'll find all the information you seek. If you've seriously never heard someone explain why they like/dislike someone's personality then you've not got out and about much or else just haven't asked the question. Next time the phrase comes up with respect to any one individual then ask the person who said it why they came to that conclusion. Pretty simple.
In high school, a lot of people used personality as a reason they liked someone, but they never gave an explanation.
I didn't want to ask because that might sound confrontational, especially if they didn't have a reason and they were just saying personality because they thought that would be a reason they wouldn't need to explain
This just reminds me of when I was a high school freshman and my classmates said they liked a girl's personality when really they were just lusting after her and they didn't want to admit they only liked her for her looks.
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