Personality (children, attractiveness, conversation, college)

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by city_data91

The personality that's attractive to me is a good girl that likes me for who I am. But looks are also important.

And also someone that has a lot in common with me.

Well now darn those shallow girls anyway, eh? If you require certain looks, why would women be terrible for requiring certain looks? Just curious as to this double-standard.

For heaven's sake, grow up. You keep on digging and digging and digging to "prove" how girls aren't saying what they mean, how their deal-breakers are cruel, etc., etc. -- yet *you* have a looks requirement. Are you kidding me?

As an aside, the continuous "See??? See?!?" jumping-on-people stuff and the whining victim mentality are serious turnoffs. Serious serious turnoffs. Just trying to help, and I mean that honestly.

[city_data91]

Originally Posted by Thursday007

Atually, you're a little bit all over the map here and for the sake of clarity I do not understand the specific question You wanted to know if this is just something people say. And people have addressed that so, in the next post you negate that statement and say you aren't debating whether personality is a good reason? Okay, given that, are you just making statements or is there an actual question.

I think personality is a good reason if you truly like someone's personality.

But I'm saying sometimes I think people use personality as a default reason when they either can't think of a reason or don't want to say the real reason.

I also acknowledged the possibility that maybe the reason is hard to put into words, and I can understand/relate to that.

[city_data91]

Originally Posted by JerZ

Well now darn those shallow girls anyway, eh? If you require certain looks, why would women be terrible for requiring certain looks? Just curious as to this double-standard.

There's nothing wrong with girls requiring certain looks. In fact, I'd be quite the ladies man if looks were all they cared about!

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by city_data91

There's nothing wrong with girls requiring certain looks. In fact, I'd be quite the ladies man if looks were all they cared about!

Not with all the whining, hon. Seriously. Not if you looked like Brad Pitt. NOBODY can take hidden accusations, continuous needling on one repetitive subject, suspicion ("you're not REALLY saying what you mean") and the like for long. It's so unattractive. And it's kind of embarrassing.

[city_data91]

Originally Posted by JerZ

For heaven's sake, grow up. You keep on digging and digging and digging to "prove" how girls aren't saying what they mean, how their deal-breakers are cruel, etc., etc. -- yet *you* have a looks requirement. Are you kidding me?

As an aside, the continuous "See??? See?!?" jumping-on-people stuff and the whining victim mentality are serious turnoffs. Serious serious turnoffs. Just trying to help, and I mean that honestly.

This is not just about girls not saying what they mean. It's also about boys not saying what they mean.

And a lot of girls are bad girls that want a bad boy, so that's what I mean when I say their deal breakers are cruel.

It's hard to find a good girl that wants a good boy like me.

[Dewdrop93]

Originally Posted by city_data91

I think personality is a good reason if you truly like someone's personality.

But I'm saying sometimes I think people use personality as a default reason when they either can't think of a reason or don't want to say the real reason.

I also acknowledged the possibility that maybe the reason is hard to put into words, and I can understand/relate to that.

Honestly, I can't think of a guy that I wasn't interested in because of his looks - but I can think of plenty of guys that I wasn't interested in because of their personalities.

If someone is really funny, intelligent, and talented - chances are, I find them attractive no matter what they look like.

[city_data91]

Originally Posted by JerZ

Not with all the whining, hon. Seriously. Not if you looked like Brad Pitt. NOBODY can take hidden accusations, continuous needling on one repetitive subject, suspicion ("you're not REALLY saying what you mean") and the like for long. It's so unattractive. And it's kind of embarrassing.

That's what I was trying to get at (somewhat). I was saying girls have other reasons to dislike me besides looks. But if looks were the only thing they cared about, I would be a ladies man. Because I'm attractive.

[STT Resident]

Originally Posted by city_data91

I think personality is a good reason if you truly like someone's personality.

But I'm saying sometimes I think people use personality as a default reason when they either can't think of a reason or don't want to say the real reason.

I also acknowledged the possibility that maybe the reason is hard to put into words, and I can understand/relate to that.

So what's the question? There seems to be no reason for the thread other than using it as a platform to repeat your own opinions (which you just did again but of course we realize that in your opinion we just didn't hear you the first time around).

Originally Posted by city_data91

There's nothing wrong with girls requiring certain looks. In fact, I'd be quite the ladies man if looks were all they cared about!

But that's not what they require so you're doomed.

[bouncethelight]

Originally Posted by city_data91

It's hard to find a good girl that wants a good boy like me.

It's not hard for good boys and girls to find each other - they do it every day!

You're having a difficult time obviously, but that's not surprising considering your unusual views on sex and relationships.

The more extreme your views, the harder it is to find a compatible mate...

[Johnny Vanderburgh]

All I know is that I thank God every day that my matinee idol good looks are overshadowed only by my spectacular personality.