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Old 07-02-2011, 12:36 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Have you ever wondered why some friends stick around and other friends disappear after awhile?...I think some people enjoy the "high" of a new friendship when everything seems new and exciting. But when the novelty wears off they decide to move on...This happens with "love" relationships too. Have you noticed this?...What makes people decide to stick around? Common interests? A bond that takes some "roots?"
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Old 07-02-2011, 12:44 PM
 
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Have you ever wondered why some friends stick around and other friends disappear after awhile?...I think some people enjoy the "high" of a new friendship when everything seems new and exciting. But when the novelty wears off they decide to move on...This happens with "love" relationships too. Have you noticed this?...What makes people decide to stick around? Common interests? A bond that takes some "roots?"
That is a good question. I have two friends who have stuck around and our relationships were "tested" and for some reason, we believed each other.
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Old 07-02-2011, 12:47 PM
 
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I stick around until the other person contradicts themselves.

Kind of like when they tell my friend that they pity me because I have no friends. Or says real friends stab you in the front, not the back, but go behind your back to tell your friends, that she says you don't have, stuff.
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Old 07-02-2011, 12:48 PM
 
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I stick around until the other person contradicts themselves.

Kind of like when they tell my friend that they pity me because I have no friends. Or says real friends stab you in the front, not the back, but go behind your back to tell your friends, that she says you don't have, stuff.
Yup, weeding them out takes a while .
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Old 07-02-2011, 12:53 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Have you ever wondered why some friends stick around and other friends disappear after awhile?...I think some people enjoy the "high" of a new friendship when everything seems new and exciting. But when the novelty wears off they decide to move on...This happens with "love" relationships too. Have you noticed this?...What makes people decide to stick around? Common interests? A bond that takes some "roots?"
The thing that makes people "stick around" is a shared history.

If you haven't been friends long enough to really bond over a particular event or time in your lives then it's easier to walk away when the common interests fade.
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Old 07-02-2011, 12:58 PM
 
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Yup, weeding them out takes a while .
Only takes a month if you have true friends that you can trust helping you.
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Old 07-02-2011, 01:05 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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I'm leery when people seem to come on like "gangbusters" in the early stages of a friendship. A lot of times these people end up disappearing before too long without any explanation...So I am "on guard" when people move "too fast!" How do you feel about it?
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Old 07-02-2011, 01:11 PM
 
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I do think I come on like "gangbusters" sometimes.

I disappear when something big goes wrong or I sense I may not be wanted.

It's only fair. I don't want anyone intimidated by me or accusing me of stalking. I have read up on stalkers and I figure if I fit the profile of something I look up, that it is best that I stop. And by stop, I mean stop all contact.

Of course if you are seeking office or are an elected official, I'd be pretty passionate about the campaign or going against your campaign, so expect me to preform extraordinarily when ti comes to volunteering.
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Old 07-02-2011, 01:29 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Have you ever wondered why some friends stick around and other friends disappear after awhile?
If I don`t have anything in common with my friend, then naturally I am going to move on. Makes sense.
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Old 07-02-2011, 01:45 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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It's just nice when there is some type of an explanation when someone decides to move on...It's like "now you see me, and now you don't but I'm not going to bother telling you why!"...This only applies when someone has played a big role in our life and been in constant contact..."Once in awhile friends" are different...There are no real expectations with "once in awhile friends." But people who "come on strong" and stay in touch all the time seem different. When they disappear all of a sudden it can be worriesome. Are they ok? Did something bad happen to them?...What happened?
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