A message to all bitter people (husband, children, romance, person)
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This may be the strangest way I've ever made someone happy.
If I meet someone who gains happiness through men stomping on there nuts, that might top that, but until then, this..This is the strangest way I've made someone happy.
Quite a sweeping generalization. I've known plenty of hard-working people who were bitter, usually because of a tragedy that occured in their life (which has nothing to do with being lazy). I work with a man who lost his home in a mountain fire, I work with another whose son was murdered accidentally by the police, I know someone else who is dying of leukemia. I would characterize all three as "bitter" to varying degrees but I think they have the right to feel this way, considering their past history.
Yeah, my aunt is the hardest working person I know and she's extremely bitter. I love her to death but she just wallows in it--a little too happily I think.
But that brings me to a related point to this one: it's not so much laziness as a feeling of being stuck. Stuck in a rut, stuck in a relationship that is no longer working, stuck in past memories, you name it. A lot of us are stuck in jobs that are demeaning and below our education level, esp with the economy, and I see a lot of bitterness where I work and I'm experiencing a lot of it myself. I think that bitterness will be a thing of the past when I get unstuck, but I'm trying really hard to not make it a habit of mind, esp since it's unappealing and will make it harder to get unstuck. And the problem is, that when I'm feeling bitter about being stuck in a dead-end job that I'm overeducated for, I start to blame lots of other people and things in my life that I would have left out of it if I were happier with my situation.
Quite a sweeping generalization. I've known plenty of hard-working people who were bitter, usually because of a tragedy that occured in their life (which has nothing to do with being lazy). I work with a man who lost his home in a mountain fire, I work with another whose son was murdered accidentally by the police, I know someone else who is dying of leukemia. I would characterize all three as "bitter" to varying degrees but I think they have the right to feel this way, considering their past history.
I didn't really take the OP as being bitter due to these sorts of tragedies in life.
I took it as, if you're healthy and fit... and the worst thing that has happened to you is that you feel some person did you wrong, enjoy life for what it has to offer.
You'd be bitter too if you were confined to a hospital bed for the entire 3 months of summer never seeing the light of day and STILL have to deal with crap that your work gives you, except that they make it hard for you to get anything done because their policy is to revoke your privileges and internet communication while you are on medical leave, while everyone talks about how lucky you are that you get so much time to lay there all day relaxing and doing nothing assuming that you are watching tons of movies (when you are wrangling with insurance paperwork and other administrative nightmares) as your muscles atrophy and you start getting body aches from laying in weird positions and you have to eat all your meals and drink all your fluids laying down spilling food all over yourself and nobody is around to help you so you have to secretly break rules and get up to do stuff while living in mortal fear of having a bad outcome and you have no sleep because the entire experience is anxiety inducing and you have lost all your vacation and sick time for the next 2 years and you no longer even care about that cuz your future is in limbo.
And you have to constantly hear how lucky you are to be excused from work for 3 months while everyone else is apparently working so hard, when in reality every moment you miss has to be made up double time when you get back to work only 3 weeks after major surgery. Tired of explaining to people that no, it is NOT relaxing, it is NOT "free time" for getting stuff done. Wish they would shut up.
Yep... bitter! Doesn't make me treat others poorly though. You can still be a nice person but bitter to the core.
Well, here's the thing. By the time you're 40, with the exception of dread diseases or acts of God, it's always a good idea to assume that your position in life is the sum total of your own decisions. Bitterness is really laziness. Because the bitter person rarely stops to consider what he did to create his own mess of a life--or lacks the courage.
Sure, you might have caught an unlucky break, but who hasn't? At the same time, there's not a single person who, as an adult, hasn't had to deal with most of the problems you have, and a few that you haven't.
Anyone who doesn't get annoyed on a daily basis doesn't read the news.
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