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Old 01-24-2018, 09:08 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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Gosh, just to follow up....Happily retired, not eating cat food, kids are doing well. Grandkids are doing well. Live is good.



Thats great!!!


Yes, life is good.
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Old 01-24-2018, 10:39 AM
 
Location: equator
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I donít enjoy being with bitter people.

But your position in life probably is influenced by where you were born, your familyís income and social position, your access to higher education, your religious upbringing, your overall health, your luck in avoiding accidents or sickness, your first boss, your luck in choosing a mate, and on and on.

I do believe that we have free will, and that we make choices everyday that influence our lives. Being bitter is a choice, as being grateful is also a choice. I also believe that we as humans often do make self destructive choices. So, we do have the ability to affect our destinies. But an awful lot of our choices and opportunities are determined by forces that are outside of our control.
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Now, wait a minute. According to the Retirement Forum----it's all about "a lifetime of poor decisions!"


LOL. Good for you, seeing another POV.
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Old 01-24-2018, 11:46 AM
 
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I donít enjoy being with bitter people.

But your position in life probably is influenced by where you were born, your familyís income and social position, your access to higher education, your religious upbringing, your overall health, your luck in avoiding accidents or sickness, your first boss, your luck in choosing a mate, and on and on.

I do believe that we have free will, and that we make choices everyday that influence our lives. Being bitter is a choice, as being grateful is also a choice. I also believe that we as humans often do make self destructive choices. So, we do have the ability to affect our destinies. But an awful lot of our choices and opportunities are determined by forces that are outside of our control.
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Those choices and opportunities are still in your control, as in you make the best of them. Spend time with kids in a children's hospital. You'll find it's much different than a retirement home. Positive, trust, faith, and the choice to be happy.

Only one person is in control of your own happiness, and that is yourself.
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Old 01-25-2018, 06:29 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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I think bitter people are often disillusioned.

They've negatively reacted to the realization that 'life is not fair'. And rather than accept it, and try to have a good life anyway, they over react in bitter anger.
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Old 01-25-2018, 11:17 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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I think bitter people are often disillusioned.

They've negatively reacted to the realization that 'life is not fair'. And rather than accept it, and try to have a good life anyway, they over react in bitter anger.
Yes. They choose to be bitter. Being constantlly bitter is a choice.
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Old 02-21-2018, 10:32 PM
 
Location: southern california
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That is so funny
Like telling a rape or mug victim to lighten up and get over it
Don’t take it personally
This type of advice giver is either very young and inexperienced or
Lacking in basic human empathy
There is a reason soldiers travel in armored vehicles in Iraq
No it’s not because they are paranoid
They are not bitter they are scared

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Old 02-21-2018, 10:44 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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good point huck. I guess I came off a bit harsh, but it just really offended me to read some of the things on this thread. There seems to be a prevailing attitude that all bitter people are lazy or mentally inadequate in some way. This is extremely offensive to me, because I have found that all the hard work in the world will not change how another person is. You can control yourself, but in this world, that's about all you can really control. Likewise, a person is responsible for their own actions, but not for the actions of others. So when I'm bitter because somebody screwed me over and got away with it, and someone else says I'm stupid for being bitter, surely it is not unreasonable to be a little pissed off?
To anyone who was offended, my intention was only to help you understand.
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Old 02-21-2018, 10:45 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Gosh, just to follow up....Happily retired, not eating cat food, kids are doing well. Grandkids are doing well. Live is good.
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Old 02-25-2018, 06:26 PM
 
Location: PNW
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Well, I'm one of those who is bitter (and can't just "can't forget"), but I've never let that stop me from going out there and enjoying life. Don't assume that everyone who feels angry or beaten down just sits and home and nurtures it.


My mother liked to dwell on stuff and be a bit of a martyr, and sitting home is all she did. But early on in my life I knew that I wouldn't do that ~ in spite of my not being able to fully let go. So for me it's just To Hell with "them" and do as I see fit. I rarely think of them at all and I can't go back and change anything. And, yes, I consider myself very happy.


Pointless thread, really.
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