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Old 08-18-2011, 10:27 AM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Ya know....
It's threads like this that help you help you.
I like it.
It's super easy to be bitter and mean.
Easy to fall into that trap.
Thanks to the OP for opening the door.

Continue.....
Disagree, they're made with good intentions but it's usually the same "stop being bitter" or "seize the day" advice. Might as well tell someone who's sad to "stop being sad."
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Old 08-18-2011, 10:30 AM
 
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and I have come in contact with several the past year, women and men.
Usually older than myself......


Lighten the f*** up and learn to relax and have a good time.
Life is too short to be bitter. Enjoy it while you are still here.


Some people actually look forward to the end of their lives.
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Old 08-18-2011, 10:49 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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I agree, but life isn't flowers and roses and there's nothing wrong with being affected by the myriad bad stimuli on the planet.
I agree.....my OP was directed at people who spend most of their time being bitter. Now, some might say what made some of them like that is alot of trauma in their life and I can understand such cases. But an effort to change, Is what I'm encouraging.
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Old 08-18-2011, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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I agree.....my OP was directed at people who spend most of their time being bitter. Now, some might say what made some of them like that is alot of trauma in their life and I can understand such cases. But an effort to change, Is what I'm encouraging.
Not to rain on your parade too much, but a lot of the "bitter" people you're denouncing might be clinically depressed, which is not something that's easy to just "snap out of."
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Old 08-18-2011, 02:28 PM
 
Location: USA
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and I have come in contact with several the past year, women and men.
Usually older than myself......


Lighten the f*** up and learn to relax and have a good time.
Life is too short to be bitter. Enjoy it while you are still here.



I wish it would work like that. Just say it, they do it and it's done.

Unfortunately, bitterness is like a decease inside, which will need to be healed or a surgery will need to be performed.

Why do people feel bitter? Becasue they continuously experienced dissapointment after disappointment, experienced lots of pain and lost hope. It's the people who have no abilities to deal with pain as good as others can. It's the people who are in trouble.

Yes, it's hard to live with them. They don't usualy react to people in a nice way. But it can't be fixed just like that. Otherwise, they would be first to stand in line "to get fixed". Becasue life sure is unpleasant when you are bitter.
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Old 08-18-2011, 02:30 PM
 
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and I have come in contact with several the past year, women and men.
Usually older than myself......


Lighten the f*** up and learn to relax and have a good time.
Life is too short to be bitter. Enjoy it while you are still here.



I wont enjoy anything until I'm 6' under.
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Old 08-18-2011, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Louisiana and Pennsylvania
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and I have come in contact with several the past year, women and men.
Usually older than myself......


Lighten the f*** up and learn to relax and have a good time.
Life is too short to be bitter. Enjoy it while you are still here.


I agree. Why?..Because I've been there and it sucks. Instead of seeing adverse and negative situations as obstacles like I used to, I now see them as a means to learn and be stronger. I look back and certain events that I thought should have transpired that fell through, well, I'm glad they didn't.

I'm happy now that I did not get certain jobs or relationships that I thought I SHOULD have years ago. If I did, I would't be where I am today. In fact, I don't know WHERE I would be, lol.

EVERY thing happens or does not transpire for a reason. However, we are too busy with instant gratification to see the larger picture.

In closing, bitterness can be detected a mile away and no one wants to be around you. I know first hand. Life is too short for that.
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Old 08-18-2011, 02:46 PM
 
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I wish it would work like that. Just say it, they do it and it's done.

Unfortunately, bitterness is like a decease inside, which will need to be healed or a surgery will need to be performed.

Why do people feel bitter? Becasue they continuously experienced dissapointment after disappointment, experienced lots of pain and lost hope. It's the people who have no abilities to deal with pain as good as others can. It's the people who are in trouble.

Yes, it's hard to live with them. They don't usualy react to people in a nice way. But it can't be fixed just like that. Otherwise, they would be first to stand in line "to get fixed". Becasue life sure is unpleasant when you are bitter.
I really like your post. I do think life's experiences affect people and how they see life.They may become more fearful of life. I think bitterness really is a form of fear...it's a way to harden you from more disappointments because you have this facade of a thorny shell around you.

It's sad because in reality it just makes life miserable for everyone.
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Old 08-18-2011, 02:55 PM
 
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and I have come in contact with several the past year, women and men.
Usually older than myself......


Lighten the f*** up and learn to relax and have a good time.
Life is too short to be bitter. Enjoy it while you are still here.


If the populus could refrain from the 'F this and F that' language and attitude....I and alot of others who remember whats right from wrong, wouldnt be so bitter and uptight ! Lifes too short to think you can relax and act/talk/behave anyway you feel like because the person thinks they are at the center of the universe in importance and authority. Plan for eternity...its ALOT longer than down here.
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Old 08-18-2011, 02:56 PM
 
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I really like your post. I do think life's experiences affect people and how they see life.They may become more fearful of life. I think bitterness really is a form of fear...it's a way to harden you from more disappointments because you have this facade of a thorny shell around you.

It's sad because in reality it just makes life miserable for everyone.
I wonder if you could consider shy people bitter? They're shy because they're sensitive to rejection and disappointment just like those that are bitter. However, unlike bitter people they don't bring everyone down with their negativity they just don't socialize with people out of the fear of facing more pain.
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