Did you have a very close same sex friendship end, how did it happen?

[imcurious]

Yeah, I did tell one close friend that it was time we "ended the charade" of friendship after I found out that when she moved away she had been back to my area several times, but had never looked me up!!! That was a dealbreaker for me and I sent a letter that had that dramatic phrase above in it and I have never regretted it because it was true. I did value the friendship very much but I guess at some point she didn't (she had a bunch of excuses that I didn't buy for her actions).

[jobaba]

I had fallouts with most of my closest college friends. Mostly it was because they were being douchebags about several things that I can't remember.

In retrospect, I was too sensitive. Should've looked past it and kept in touch.

[Ihatespoiledbrattypeople]

yeah because I got tired of associating myself with Ghetto People, since I stopped talking to them, i've struggled since

[Rei_h]

I had a close female friend, the same sex for about 2 years. We were so close we actually slept together... It ended when she decided to get married to a guy she was seeing that time, and I refused to be her brides maid.

[Lamplight]

I think I've gradually drifted apart with every friend I've ever had, regardless of sex. In more recent years, it's mainly been due to them all getting married and having kids, and now if they ever go out with friends, it's with other couples with kids or with church groups. That whole scenario is so "not me" that I wouldn't fit in even if they did invite me. I don't mind really; whenever I talk to those people now it seems we have practically nothing in common these days. I've changed, they've changed, that's just how it goes.

[Hobokenkitchen]

I am in the process of ending a friendship now. I find it very painful because I take my friendships seriously, really value my friends and it took me a while to find my friendship niche in Philadelphia when we first moved here.

However, she is no longer adding anything at all positive to my life - she is a HUGE taker, snappy to a level that I can no longer live with generally self focussed to a point that I find obsessive. She does have a lot of good qualities, and in some respects I will really miss her. But overall now I am fed up enough of her unpredictable and annoying behavior that I need a break. Probably a permanent one.

I wish her well in her future (she just got married - I was the maid of honor), but just no longer want to be involved in it. It does make me sad though.