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I try my hardest to make friends, but it seems like everyone is content with the ones they already have. I've added people i know on facebook and people who i don't know have added me. But yet no one ever wants to hang out. Im really confused and sad about this. Can you good people of city-data please give me suggestions on places where to make friends? Thanks in advance.
well you're right, most people are content with the friends they already have and there's always a risk when you open yourself up to someone new that you will get hurt or have a bad experience. so most people would rather not take such a risk.
also, when we are kids, we often make friends with others simply because we like who they are, but as we grow older, we become more aware of differences such as social and economic status, and also look at what someone can actually do for us. so in that sense the friendships we do make when we grow older are often not true friendships, but just relationships of convenience....of course this isn't ALWAYS true, but i've found that there is a good amount of truth to it
Each town and city is different. A lot of the towns and cities I've been to are very cliquish and people alternate "friends" at a whim. Friends are often disposable if they aren't offering some materialism value. The quality of friendship depends on where you live. If you are a minority it will be really hard to make friends. I have noticed that a lot of people self segregate and they can easily obstruct you from networking and making friends if you are a different color, have a different accent, or have any differences from the majority group.
Real life can sometimes be like high school. Sameness is prized. In high school the morbidly obese women always hung out in their clique, the Mexicans hung out with their clique, the blacks hung out with their clique, the conservative Christians hung out with their own special clique, and you get the idea
In high school the morbidly obese women always hung out in their clique, the Mexicans hung out with their clique, the blacks hung out with their clique, the conservative Christians hung out with their own special clique, and you get the idea
I can't see much wrong with that. In any stage of life we all hang out with people we have something in common with, feel comfortable around, and get along with.
I can't see much wrong with that. In any stage of life we all hang out with people we have something in common with, feel comfortable around, and get along with it.
gota try just a lil harder,
well that would explain why i spend so much time on CDF with the same posters. we are so much alike?
getting to know you, from the king and I--- sing it!!
I try my hardest to make friends, but it seems like everyone is content with the ones they already have. I've added people i know on facebook and people who i don't know have added me. But yet no one ever wants to hang out. Im really confused and sad about this. Can you good people of city-data please give me suggestions on places where to make friends? Thanks in advance.
In addition to big picture issues, such as age differences, consider that some people define friendship in terms of quality. In fact, you might be rich in acquaintances, which other people would consider "friends." Also, consider that there is a lot of pressure from popular culture to be a socialite, meaning you are suppose to define your value by how many people you know and how often you're "getting it." My suggestion would be not to redefine your concept of friendship, develop patience, learn hobbies that you can do alone and find fulfilling, and gradually scaffold from those hobbies into the enriching friendships you crave.
I try my hardest to make friends, but it seems like everyone is content with the ones they already have. I've added people i know on facebook and people who i don't know have added me. But yet no one ever wants to hang out. Im really confused and sad about this. Can you good people of city-data please give me suggestions on places where to make friends? Thanks in advance.
People are uncomfortable with change. If you really want to make friends you can hang out with, get a hobby and join a club.
Do you mind if I ask how old you are? What happened to your past friends?
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