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Old 11-02-2011, 11:34 AM
 
Location: Midwest
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I'm not saying he should scream, "Hey, a-hole! Get your mf'in' arse back here to this @#$##$# and see what you @#$%#$# did to my @#$#$# car!!!"

But do what I did when I was sitting by the gym in my parked car, some jerk parked next to me, swung his door into my car (enough to shake it), and then just left it there while he played on his iphone for a second. He didn't even say, "Excuse me," or "I'm sorry."

I got out and said, "Really? Do you see what you have done?" He rolled his eyes and said, "It's no big deal." I told him that of course it was no big deal to him that my car was dented but that manners dictate that a. you be careful with others' possessions and b. you at least excuse yourself or apologize for the transgression.

At that point, a few people were in hearing distance...the guy just dropped his head and walked away and muttered he was sorry. The folks nearby smiled.

Or the time this lady in the line ahead of me was being an absolute BEEYOTCH to this salesgirl and I told her that she was out of line. Everyone else is standing around watching her humiliate the poor salesgirl with her ranting and raving (and I had been there the whole time - she was just pitching a b***h because she could - there was no legitimate gripe). I couldn't take it. I can't take it anymore when people think they can go around and treat other people like the dirt under your shoe.

And you are wrong. These people are neither shunned nor vilified. They grow stronger in numbers and obnoxiousness.

I'm not saying put yourself in a dangerous situation or be a jerk, but sometimes the polite voice of reason has to be heard. Or it's just going to get worse.
You're preaching to the choir, son. I celebrate my 100th birthday in July, trust me, I know how it feels to be marginalized and disrespected in public, as if I'm some mentally challenged orphan looking for a hot meal.
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Old 11-02-2011, 11:44 AM
 
Location: US
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Stupid oblivious people really **** me off too.

I particularly hate the ones in grocery stores that park their cart blocking the whole aisle while they spend 10 minutes trying to figure out what can of beans they want.

Seriously, how hard is it to make up your damn mind? Don't you have some idea what you want before you go to the store? Helloooooo?
You can say excuse me...or sing the jeopardy song at them. I did that the other day to a person zoning out and we both cracked up laughing and they moved.

Its all in how you handle the situation. Whats with all the hate?
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Old 11-02-2011, 11:46 AM
 
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Like he did it on purpose just to be rude to you? It was an accident. Maybe this is a case of your brought it on yourself. You should of just stuck to the facts and checked out both cars and traded insurance info.
He didnt do it on purpose, he was just too ignorant or lazy to put his brakes on before bumping my car. as for me bringing it on myself? i was just standing there pumping gas in my car, there was no damage as said before it was a minor bump.
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Old 11-02-2011, 12:02 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles>Little Rock>Houston>Little Rock
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You can say excuse me...or sing the jeopardy song at them. I did that the other day to a person zoning out and we both cracked up laughing and they moved.

Its all in how you handle the situation. Whats with all the hate?
That's an awesome idea! I'm going to find an MP3 of that song and put it on my iPhone just for this purpose. I usually just say "excuse me" but that would be hilarious.
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Old 11-02-2011, 12:10 PM
 
Location: US
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He didnt do it on purpose, he was just too ignorant or lazy to put his brakes on before bumping my car. as for me bringing it on myself? i was just standing there pumping gas in my car, there was no damage as said before it was a minor bump.
Maybe his rotor is stiff or he needs new breaks and that JUST happened because that is how it is when those things go. Or maybe with the weather change his joints were stiff and he didn't have the power to pump down on the break like he thought he did. Or maybe he just pulled a 14 hour shift at work and his judgement was off. Or maybe he is too broke to afford glasses and his depth perception is off.

You brought it on yourself by assuming he was doing it to slight you and made a judgmental comment. You were not looking at it from the other person's perspective at all. His car got bumped too. Did you even bother to ask if he was ok or see if his transmission got messed up from the bump? No...you just called him rude. And if there was no damage why couldn't you just laugh about it? What is the point of being dramatic? And even though there was no visual damage his transmission could be thrown off.
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Old 11-02-2011, 12:11 PM
 
Location: Midwest
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Stay in the mid west. Don't ever leave it. And stop preaching for everyone to be complacent with rude people and *******s. The more times they get away with it the more their arrogance grows. I'm all for putting an end to it by giving them some of their own medicine.

Care to give us your age? I'm just curious. Either really young or given your "back in the day" comment, really old and sheltered.
There you go, go to battle. That will solve it all.

Because I'm easily duped into these online debates, none of which are "winnable", I am obliged to respond.

I am probably old enough to be your father three times over (judging by your writing).

I've stood in line for hours for a loaf of stale, cold bread, only to walk away empty handed, and no recourse or plan for anything else - only to end up eating "whatever we could catch" at uncle John's farm.

It didn't matter what we had in the bank, or had saved, it was gone. We couldn't even access safety deposit boxes for family heirlooms.

I'm widowed, wheelchaired, and lucky my hands feel remarkably young for my age.

I've known people of all ages, races, socio-economic means, etc., but there is one under-mining cancer I've found all these years - It is everyone for themselves now; everyone treats everyone else with total antipathy and disrespect. (some of them even pretend to be some martyr for the "nice poeple").

But what would I know, I haven't seen a damn thing. By all means, continue your crusade against "the jerks".
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Old 11-02-2011, 12:15 PM
 
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Ha ha...when I lived in another state, my nieghbor HIT my car, in a parking lot of our condo..no police, it was private property. She was drunk. I agreed to just let her handle it, got a quote for repair, gave it to her, she used profanity, and told me I was a sucker. What can you do? Like I have time to mess with something like that...so, my new car is all messed up...by a nieghbor, who drove a Mercedes...no less...
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Old 11-02-2011, 12:18 PM
 
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You can say excuse me...or sing the jeopardy song at them. I did that the other day to a person zoning out and we both cracked up laughing and they moved.

Its all in how you handle the situation. Whats with all the hate?
I taser them in my mind.

Mostly.
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Old 11-02-2011, 01:01 PM
 
Location: Alabama
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It's fine I already hate "most" people.
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Old 11-02-2011, 01:04 PM
 
Location: southeast SD
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Ha ha...when I lived in another state, my nieghbor HIT my car, in a parking lot of our condo..no police, it was private property. She was drunk. I agreed to just let her handle it, got a quote for repair, gave it to her, she used profanity, and told me I was a sucker. What can you do? Like I have time to mess with something like that...so, my new car is all messed up...by a nieghbor, who drove a Mercedes...no less...

grab your pitching wedge and start practicing your chip shots with her windshied as the cup see if you can match the number of dimples of the golf ball on her car-- never said I was nice did I??
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