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Old 11-02-2011, 09:19 PM
 
Location: Middle of the ocean
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You're just starting to hate people? You must be young.

Seriously.... there are buttloads of people who are @-holes. No matter how bad the economy, they are never in short supply.

But think about how ****-poor their lives must be to exhibit such behavior. It's better to have our lives, then their's. They have to marinate daily in such bad thoughts.
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Old 11-02-2011, 09:48 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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I hear ya. I have noticed that even a slight driving mistake (say you didn't see a driver coming and pulled out) is met with fingers and red hot fire faces.
The days of gentlemen and ladies is past.
Oh definitely, I think it's because driving is such a life or death situation we are in constant 'fighting' mode due to the adrenaline this causes.
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Old 11-03-2011, 01:29 AM
 
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Maybe his rotor is stiff or he needs new breaks and that JUST happened because that is how it is when those things go. Or maybe with the weather change his joints were stiff and he didn't have the power to pump down on the break like he thought he did. Or maybe he just pulled a 14 hour shift at work and his judgement was off. Or maybe he is too broke to afford glasses and his depth perception is off.

You brought it on yourself by assuming he was doing it to slight you and made a judgmental comment. You were not looking at it from the other person's perspective at all. His car got bumped too. Did you even bother to ask if he was ok or see if his transmission got messed up from the bump? No...you just called him rude. And if there was no damage why couldn't you just laugh about it? What is the point of being dramatic? And even though there was no visual damage his transmission could be thrown off.
You had to be there as this rude ignoramus drove up with an attittude of "i dont give a s hit" There was no forth coming "excuse me" coming from this guy, he looked like he was used to pushing his rude behaviour as much as possible and relying on his size to back it up,the consumate bully,as i'm a senior citizen i guess he figured i was an easy target for a bit of a power trip,believe me when i say this lunkhead doesnt deserve your devils advocate logic..
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Old 11-03-2011, 09:42 AM
 
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1. American culture has broken down over the past 30+ years (and I'm not sure how much further it's going to go) due to all this crap garbage that passes for entertainment. It has trained people to think it's cool to be rude and disrespectful, and it has trained people to think that something is wrong with you if you chose to carry yourself with dignity and civility.
I wouldn't be that pessimistic, though I have to agree with you on the entertainment front. IMHO reality TV is a cancer on the culture - it glorifies idiocy.

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2. American culture is a anti social, isolationist, hyper competitive, uncaring society that will chew you up and spit you out if you let it. So the only way to survive in a place like this is to be rude, uncaring, and aggressive toward others, otherwise people will mark you as easy prey.
I've found that to not be true at all, depending on what environment it is. I work in a very confrontational business - litigation. I'm never rude (not in real life anyway LOL), don't break promises and I'm always sportsmanlike with my opponents, even if they aren't. The end result of this is I win a lot more cases than they do, because I have a LOT more credibility with the court.

Peter Falk's Colombo and Andy Griffith's Matlock are good fictional representations of this approach. It's worth the effort.

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In other words, this society was constructed in a way where we all compete against each other for basic resources with no end in sight. So it's only natural that all of us are rude to each other, because at the heart of it all, we're all rivals at varying degrees (i.e.,competing to get into collage, competing for same jobs, competing for homes close to good schools, competing for top grades, ect.. ect..).
There are still some places where civility and gentility are the norm. It may be lost in large cities like Atlanta, but in smaller cities in the South it's still there.

There's a reason I live in north Florida and not Miami.
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Old 11-03-2011, 10:03 AM
 
Location: US
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You had to be there as this rude ignoramus drove up with an attittude of "i dont give a s hit" There was no forth coming "excuse me" coming from this guy, he looked like he was used to pushing his rude behaviour as much as possible and relying on his size to back it up,the consumate bully,as i'm a senior citizen i guess he figured i was an easy target for a bit of a power trip,believe me when i say this lunkhead doesnt deserve your devils advocate logic..
Are you an obvious senior citizen? I sorta have cardinal rule myself if there is more silver on top than not...you must be nice to that person.
Too bad we can't do a rewind and replay with omitting the rude comment to see if his reaction was different.

i just find more often than not, comments like that (rude)escalate the situation rather than diffuse it.
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Old 11-03-2011, 10:36 AM
 
Location: Way up high
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What do you think the ratio is of purely pleasant people vs. not-so-nice people?

I am thinking 5/95.

Umm what rock are you living under???
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Old 11-03-2011, 01:49 PM
 
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Are you an obvious senior citizen? I sorta have cardinal rule myself if there is more silver on top than not...you must be nice to that person.
Too bad we can't do a rewind and replay with omitting the rude comment to see if his reaction was different.

i just find more often than not, comments like that (rude)escalate the situation rather than diffuse it.
I hope this moron comes and bumps your car while you are in the process of a fill up,then we can discuss what you would say and how apologetic you will be for having the gall to be in his way.
And i dont need to be treated differently just because i have gray hair,
if i bumped into some one in a similar circumstance a heartfelt apology would be forth comiing before the person pumping the gas could say "thats rude" and i certainly wouldnt give the F u.. ..u look when getting out of the car..
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Old 11-03-2011, 05:36 PM
 
Location: Way up high
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Speaking of A-holes: I'm waiting for my friend at a restaurants bar last night. He was running late so I ordered a salad and some food while having a glass of wine. I had the chair next to me leaned against bar and my purse there saving the seat. Some young guy comes up to me and asks me if I was there alone. I said "No, I'm waiting for someone". He says "Yea right". I said "Excuse me? I really am waiting for someone" He said "I have a sister and she doesn't wait for anyone" I didn't respond. He then said "If you don't want to sit here alone, come sit with us". Again, I ignored him. My friend showed up like 10 mins later. I mean WTF??? I can't stand stupid f-ing people.

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Old 11-03-2011, 05:43 PM
 
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You're just starting to hate people? You must be young.

Seriously.... there are buttloads of people who are @-holes. No matter how bad the economy, they are never in short supply.

But think about how ****-poor their lives must be to exhibit such behavior. It's better to have our lives, then their's. They have to marinate daily in such bad thoughts.
What a depressing way to spend a day, nah!
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Old 11-03-2011, 07:24 PM
 
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We all get angry at these little (or big) things. It's only natural.

Carrying it around for the rest of the day isn't really a healthy thing to do though.

Best to just be Zen about it and move on. The Universe will take care of the jerks, sooner or later.
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