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Old 11-26-2011, 12:06 AM
 
Location: The Mitten
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I was really upset about leaving some friends sense I'm moving. I wanted to stay or stay in touch, but moving doesn't seem to want me to enjoy what had. One friend in particular I wanted to stay in touch with because she has done a lot for me.

But I made a fool of myself the other day. My dad called her and put his foot in his mouth. I only wanted to be friends, she was someone I needed. To talk to, to confess to. She needs me too, friend-wise.

I think just leaving her alone for a while will be a good idea. I don't want to cancel the friendship but knowing what her and my dad said, I can't help but wonder if it has already ended.
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Old 11-26-2011, 12:35 AM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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I was really upset about leaving some friends sense I'm moving. I wanted to stay or stay in touch, but moving doesn't seem to want me to enjoy what had. One friend in particular I wanted to stay in touch with because she has done a lot for me.

But I made a fool of myself the other day. My dad called her and put his foot in his mouth. I only wanted to be friends, she was someone I needed. To talk to, to confess to. She needs me too, friend-wise.

I think just leaving her alone for a while will be a good idea. I don't want to cancel the friendship but knowing what her and my dad said, I can't help but wonder if it has already ended.
I guess I don't quite understand your post. Why would your dad call your friend? Why would a conversation that he had with her affect your friendship with her? Regarding your last sentence, why don't you just talk to your friend and let her know that you still wish to maintain the friendship? I find that openness is best in any relationship.
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Old 11-26-2011, 01:21 AM
 
Location: Louisiana
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No need to cancel anything. This seems like something that is resolvable as your father is the one that caused the issue not you.
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Old 11-26-2011, 05:15 AM
 
Location: The Mitten
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Thanks guys and gals. She is one I would hate to let go. As I said, she has done a lot for me.

My dad tends to "jump the gun" a lot. After telling him I hated him for moving, he took it upon himself to talk to the one person I confide in. I don't know what was said exactly; however, he said that our relationship was never anything above friends. It kind of hurt me when he said that, but I knew that already. He also said that I was trying to move in with her, which wasn't true.
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Old 11-26-2011, 05:41 AM
 
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Thanks guys and gals. She is one I would hate to let go. As I said, she has done a lot for me.

My dad tends to "jump the gun" a lot. After telling him I hated him for moving, he took it upon himself to talk to the one person I confide in. I don't know what was said exactly; however, he said that our relationship was never anything above friends. It kind of hurt me when he said that, but I knew that already. He also said that I was trying to move in with her, which wasn't true.
How old are you and how old is she?
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Old 11-26-2011, 06:42 AM
 
Location: The Mitten
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How old are you and how old is she?
Old enough. I was staying with my dad to help him out and go to college. I knew her before and have worked for her.
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Old 11-26-2011, 06:57 AM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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I don't understand the question

IS there a question ?

If there is, and you want an answer, then you'll have to give us more details
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Old 11-26-2011, 10:56 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Old enough. I was staying with my dad to help him out and go to college. I knew her before and have worked for her.
You don`t sound like your "old enough" just by reading your posts/thread.
Just talk to this friend, and be nice to your Dad. Maybe he didn`t have a choice to move.
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Old 11-26-2011, 11:48 AM
 
Location: Bellingham, WA
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I don't understand either. You make it sound as though you viewed the relationship as more than friends and are upset because your day told her that it wasn't.
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Old 11-26-2011, 12:14 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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You sound very young, moving is a fact of life. My friends are all over the country now, I've lived in 3 different cities in the past 3 years and I still keep in great contact with all of my friends. Nothing has changed and we all still have common interests and its always fun to go out drinkin again. Don't worry about moving, its simple. Hell , I still talk to my friend that moved away over 15 years ago..
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