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Good point. Sometimes I feel staying out of their way is the best idea. They are the overprotective kind.
How dare they be protective of their unstable (one that needs meds) child. I mean they've only raised you from the diaper stage til now. Dude, you better STOP making excuses (take your meds) for your silly behavior and START treating your parents like you have some sense. How in the world is staying in your room going to make things better. For someone that is on the verge of graduating from college you sound very immature. Wait til you have kids of your own and then, you'll understand the attachment issues some parents have when it comes to letting their child(ren) go into the real world.
If i were you, i'd play nice and do what it takes to maintain peace in the household (NOT LOCKING YOURSELF IN A ROOM). What if they lock up the pantry, kitchen, living room or better yet change the locks to the door..how would you like that? THINK!!!!
First of all, if you are taking meds to control anxiety, then that still doesn't get you off the hook for learning coping skills that allow you to filter your responses to other people and react appropriately when others are engaging you in conversation.
You should not be taking meds without a therapist helping you to learn to COPE with other people. If your parents nag you and the only way you can avoid escalating the conversation into a dramatic encounter, then bad on them for nagging you . . . but bad on you for not taking responsibility to learn how to answer queries, even those that you think are impolite or none of their business, in a manner that does not escalate the conversation into a screaming match.
Perhaps the only coping skill you have developed is to go to your room and avoid contact. That is very sad indeed, b/c you are creating your own prison by not being able to cope w/ your parents.
I am not trying to put you down. And I don't mean to imply your parents are "off the hook" if they approach you in an aggressive manner. I am concerned that the medical system will recognize that patients need assistance w/ anxiety and hand them a pill - but never do anything to help them develop the coping skills necessary to deal with their lives.
Is there any way you and your parents could go to a counseling session with someone in order to come up with better ways to communicate so that you do not feel cornered (or whatever it is you feel)?
This is important b/c once you get out of school, you will want to start a career . . . and there are just gonna be other people around you at times who are gonna cause you anxiety. Learning how to deal with conversations (and especially confrontations!) without immediately resorting to that "fight or flight" feeling is essential in the work place.
I wish you the best with all this and am sorry that you feel you must isolate yourself from your parents to have some peace in your life.
First of all, if you are taking meds to control anxiety, then that still doesn't get you off the hook for learning coping skills that allow you to filter your responses to other people and react appropriately when others are engaging you in conversation.
You should not be taking meds without a therapist helping you to learn to COPE with other people. If your parents nag you and the only way you can avoid escalating the conversation into a dramatic encounter, then bad on them for nagging you . . . but bad on you for not taking responsibility to learn how to answer queries, even those that you think are impolite or none of their business, in a manner that does not escalate the conversation into a screaming match.
Perhaps the only coping skill you have developed is to go to your room and avoid contact. That is very sad indeed, b/c you are creating your own prison by not being able to cope w/ your parents.
I am not trying to put you down. And I don't mean to imply your parents are "off the hook" if they approach you in an aggressive manner. I am concerned that the medical system will recognize that patients need assistance w/ anxiety and hand them a pill - but never do anything to help them develop the coping skills necessary to deal with their lives.
Is there any way you and your parents could go to a counseling session with someone in order to come up with better ways to communicate so that you do not feel cornered (or whatever it is you feel)?
This is important b/c once you get out of school, you will want to start a career . . . and there are just gonna be other people around you at times who are gonna cause you anxiety. Learning how to deal with conversations (and especially confrontations!) without immediately resorting to that "fight or flight" feeling is essential in the work place.
I wish you the best with all this and am sorry that you feel you must isolate yourself from your parents to have some peace in your life.
First of all, if you are taking meds to control anxiety, then that still doesn't get you off the hook for learning coping skills that allow you to filter your responses to other people and react appropriately when others are engaging you in conversation.
You should not be taking meds without a therapist helping you to learn to COPE with other people. If your parents nag you and the only way you can avoid escalating the conversation into a dramatic encounter, then bad on them for nagging you . . . but bad on you for not taking responsibility to learn how to answer queries, even those that you think are impolite or none of their business, in a manner that does not escalate the conversation into a screaming match.
Perhaps the only coping skill you have developed is to go to your room and avoid contact. That is very sad indeed, b/c you are creating your own prison by not being able to cope w/ your parents.
I am not trying to put you down. And I don't mean to imply your parents are "off the hook" if they approach you in an aggressive manner. I am concerned that the medical system will recognize that patients need assistance w/ anxiety and hand them a pill - but never do anything to help them develop the coping skills necessary to deal with their lives.
Is there any way you and your parents could go to a counseling session with someone in order to come up with better ways to communicate so that you do not feel cornered (or whatever it is you feel)?
This is important b/c once you get out of school, you will want to start a career . . . and there are just gonna be other people around you at times who are gonna cause you anxiety. Learning how to deal with conversations (and especially confrontations!) without immediately resorting to that "fight or flight" feeling is essential in the work place.
I wish you the best with all this and am sorry that you feel you must isolate yourself from your parents to have some peace in your life.
Thank you. I appreciate your well thought out, kind post.
Sorry to be the contrarian here, but I think some ppl are being excessively hard on OP here The fact that his parents are his parents, does not automatically give them a green light to breach polite protocol in dealing with their son by being verbally or emotionally abusive. OP is an adult, and should be treated so, by his parents. The parents should still observe reasonable boundaries. Also I think some ppl may perhaps be forgetting just exactly how hard it is, for young ppl to just "move out" and make their way with a snap of their fingers, in this current global economic recession.
I admit I may be biased here, if only b/c the situation is kinda reversed for me (my non-spousal / immediate family of adult parent and adult sibling are financially-dependent on me, but are sometimes very disrespectful and frequently try to micromanage me and tell me what to do, if I don't put my foot down when necessary).
Sorry to be the contrarian here, but I think some ppl are being excessively hard on OP here The fact that his parents are his parents, does not automatically give them a green light to breach polite protocol in dealing with their son by being verbally or emotionally abusive. OP is an adult, and should be treated so, by his parents. The parents should still observe reasonable boundaries. Also I think some ppl may perhaps be forgetting just exactly how hard it is, for young ppl to just "move out" and make their way with a snap of their fingers, in this current global economic recession.
I admit I may be biased here, if only b/c the situation is kinda reversed for me (my non-spousal / immediate family of adult parent and adult sibling are financially-dependent on me, but are sometimes very disrespectful and frequently try to micromanage me and tell me what to do, if I don't put my foot down when necessary).
Bottom line my friend, it's his parents house.
Parent's house - parent's rules.
Their attitudes and ways of communicating with him are neither here nor there.
His failure to do his part to stay mentally healthy is what is responsible for the altercations that they have had.
Remember, he said when he is on his medication the fights are "nonexistent".
When you are a guest in someone else's home you act like a good guest or you'll be asked to leave eventually.
The choice to be allowed to stay is still up to him, but he must do his part.
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The fact that his parents are his parents, does not automatically give them a green light to breach polite protocol in dealing with their son by being verbally or emotionally abusive. OP is an adult, and should be treated so, by his parents. The parents should still observe reasonable boundaries. Also I think some ppl may perhaps be forgetting just exactly how hard it is, for young ppl to just "move out" and make their way with a snap of their fingers, in this current global economic recession.
