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View Poll Results: Send flowers to a good friend of 40+ years when her parent dies?
You pick up the phone and call your friend. 11 64.71%
You send a sympathy card. 10 58.82%
You send flowers. 12 70.59%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 17. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 12-12-2011, 01:43 PM
 
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You are GOOD friends for 40 years, and your friend's dad dies.
He was a real nice man and you liked visiting, and being at your friend's house. All good vibes.. do you personally call, send a card, or flowers?
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Old 12-12-2011, 01:52 PM
 
Location: Louisiana
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Had a childhood freind whose father died early in a car accident. And the way I handled that was I simply told her I was sorry about her loss and did my best to be there for her for emotional support at the time. Other than that, I kept myself away from the family matters. I didn't want to impose unless she specifically wanted me to do something. That's he best way to handle it imo.
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Old 12-12-2011, 01:52 PM
 
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I think all three are appropriate, a phone call, a card and flowers sent to the funeral.
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Old 12-12-2011, 02:22 PM
 
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All three
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Old 12-12-2011, 02:24 PM
 
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I would do all three and also offer to help her with anything she needs.
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Old 12-12-2011, 02:36 PM
 
Location: Oxford, England
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All three seem appropriate. You call your friend to express condolences and offer support. You call your friend's Mother if you knew her to do likewise. You send a sympathy card to both. And you send flowers unless it is specifically mentioned that flowers are not wanted .


And go to the funeral if you are able.
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Old 12-12-2011, 02:43 PM
 
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Call as soon as you know!! and also send flowers for funeral,
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Old 12-12-2011, 02:45 PM
 
Location: New York
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All three. If I could only pick one choice, then I'll choose to call.
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Old 12-12-2011, 02:48 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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Call, go to funeral, if possible . . . make donation to family's favorite charity.
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Old 12-12-2011, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Canada
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All of the above, for a good friend of such length of time...although sometimes I prefer donations to charity over flowers.
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