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Old 12-14-2011, 07:15 PM
 
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Yet somehow I don't think so...!
Amanda, is that you?
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Old 12-14-2011, 07:18 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Amanda, is that you?
Ha-ha!
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Old 12-14-2011, 07:28 PM
 
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Do unto others how you want done unto you.

God Bless!

You came here asking for input. You received it. If I asked for input, I would want people to be honest with me when they provided it, and that is what I have done with you.

You're welcome.

And the truth shall set you free.
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Old 12-14-2011, 07:54 PM
 
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And who knows maybe 10 years from now she'll have time to meet in person.
No, no, you're still doing it.
You haven't been in touch with each other for I'm guessing about 6 years. She let messages you had been sending to her since her birthday pile up before finally responding. In 10 years she'll never know you existed.
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Old 12-14-2011, 08:15 PM
 
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No, no, you're still doing it.
You haven't been in touch with each other for I'm guessing about 6 years. She let messages you had been sending to her since her birthday pile up before finally responding. In 10 years she'll never know you existed.
She'll know I exsisted, but it can go either way in 10 years. We may still not meet up in person or we may finaly end up meeting in person. Anyways for the mean time, I'm laying low in regards to asking her to meet up. Yes, she didn't notice the messages from me( which is possible) until recently.
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Old 12-14-2011, 08:18 PM
 
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You came here asking for input. You received it. If I asked for input, I would want people to be honest with me when they provided it, and that is what I have done with you.

You're welcome.

And the truth shall set you free.
I didn't come here asking for anyone to be rude and berate me. If you can't give your input in a constructive manner than don't do so at all.

I'm asking God to forgive you as you know not what you do.

God Bless!
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Old 12-14-2011, 08:21 PM
 
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She'll know I exsisted, but it can go either way in 10 years. We may still not meet up in person or we may finaly end up meeting in person. Anyways for the mean time, I'm laying low in regards to asking her to meet up. Yes, she didn't notice the messages from me( which is possible) until recently.
You sound like a good guy so i am going to give this another shot. Stop running after this chick that has made it clear that she has no room in her life for you at the moment. As i (and the others) have already indicated...she could turn up later in life and if you have nothing interesting going...fine. But as of this moment, i'd suggest you focus your energy on the cute choir girls in church. The Lord does work in mysterious ways...so you better keep an eye out for a sign
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Old 12-14-2011, 08:26 PM
 
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You sound like a good guy so i am going to give this another shot. Stop running after this chick that has made it clear that she has no room in her life for you at the moment. As i (and the others) have already indicated...she could turn up later in life and if you have nothing interesting going...fine. But as of this moment, i'd suggest you focus your energy on the cute choir girls in church. The Lord does work in mysterious ways...so you better keep an eye out for a sign

I'm going to lay low, meaning I'm not going to bother her anymore about it for quite awhile. Thanks for your kind words.

God Bless!
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Old 12-14-2011, 09:11 PM
 
Location: East of Eden
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Hey Kittycat,

I feel for you. I went through the same thing not too long ago. Thanks to advice from people on this forum, I realized that actions do mean more than words. Some of the advice seemed harsh but it really helped me to learn this very important lesson to pay more attention to what people do, not what they say.

You know, you didn't do anything wrong. You tried to reconnect with an old friend, a person that you feel a connection to. It is unfortunate that she does not feel the same way. She is not in the space to reach out to your offer of friendship. You have to accept that she may never be. There is nothing you can do to change her mind.

Also, she may be backing off because she senses that your interest in her goes beyond mere friendship. In any case, she is not interested. If she was, she would make an effort and would meet you part of the way.

Again, you did nothing wrong. You like her and feel a connection to her so it was good that you tried to befriend her. It is sad to look back on your life with regrets about not trying to connect with people who seemed like decent good people who you got along well with.

If I were you, I would not contact her again. Save your energy and your attention for people who will want to be friends with you.
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Old 12-14-2011, 09:15 PM
 
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Hey Kittycat,

I feel for you. I went through the same thing not too long ago. Thanks to advice from people on this forum, I realized that actions do mean more than words. Some of the advice seemed harsh but it really helped me to learn this very important lesson to pay more attention to what people do, not what they say.

You know, you didn't do anything wrong. You tried to reconnect with an old friend, a person that you feel a connection to. It is unfortunate that she does not feel the same way. She is not in the space to reach out to your offer of friendship. You have to accept that she may never be. There is nothing you can do to change her mind.

Also, she may be backing off because she senses that your interest in her goes beyond mere friendship. In any case, she is not interested. If she was, she would make an effort and would meet you part of the way.

Again, you did nothing wrong. You like her and feel a connection to her so it was good that you tried to befriend her. It is sad to look back on your life with regrets about not trying to connect with people who seemed like decent good people who you got along well with.

If I were you, I would not contact her again. Save your energy and your attention for people who will want to be friends with you.
She has a boyfriend. I never want to insinuate that I wanted to replace the boyfriend because I don't. I just wanted to rekindle a purely PLANTONIC friendship. Do you think she thinks that I want to meet up because of romantic reasons?
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