Friend borrowed cash and disappeared. (fiance, mother, money, feel)

[Houston3]

It cost $40 to get a haircut in Brooklyn, NY ?

[Checkered24]

He did use you a little to get some money out of you. You can still feel good about yourself, because you were trying to help who you thought was a friend. Still, don't be fooled when he comes back again. I suspect he will eventually be calling you again when he needs some more money, knowing you gave some before.

[lauramc27]

Originally Posted by JordanJP

Be glad it was only forty bucks and not four hundred, or four thousand.
Just consider it a parting gift.

Totally agree ^^

We had "friends" that we let rent our house. Fast forward to today, we have a judgement against him for non-payment of rent in the amount of $6,600 and change. Still haven't gotten the money and now had to hire an attorney to attach his wages

Call this a life lesson learned. Never loan money or go into any kind of business deal with "friends" or family. It usually always comes back to bite you in the A**.

[Snd485]

Originally Posted by Karianne

Just let it go. He may have scammed you or he may just be embarrassed to talk to you because he can't pay you back. If he is a scammer you will probably hear from him again when he needs more money. A scammer is unlikely to leave before the well is dry. If he is just embarrassed you may hear from him when he gets the money to pay you back. I have found it better to give a gift rather than a loan just to avoid awkwardness.

I completely agree.

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

40 bucks??

40??

I use 40 bucks to light my cigarette up

Geez. Some people! 40 bucks between "friends" is nothing. Some of my friends owe me more than 1000 coz they got under the water in this economy. I haven't spoken one single word to this day. That's why they will always spread the word - "Dude's the most awesome guy"

I have this concept. Never lend. Never borrow. But when asked, part with it. Do not expect back. That's the reason God's put you in a position to give and them in a position to borrow. But be warned, if you are ever in a position where you need money, all these friends will disappear. Don't ask me why. That's how the world works.

As a corollary, if you are so concerned of repayment, never lend. Simple.

[Percentage]

Originally Posted by Antlered Chamataka

40 bucks??

40??

I use 40 bucks to light my cigarette up

Geez. Some people! 40 bucks between "friends" is nothing. Some of my friends owe me more than 1000 coz they got under the water in this economy. I haven't spoken one single word to this day. That's why they will always spread the word - "Dude's the most awesome guy"

I have this concept. Never lend. Never borrow. But when asked, part with it. Do not expect back. That's the reason God's put you in a position to give and them in a position to borrow. But be warned, if you are ever in a position where you need money, all these friends will disappear. Don't ask me why. That's how the world works.

As a corollary, if you are so concerned of repayment, never lend. Simple.

Couldnt agree more.

[mommabear2]

Never let friends or family borrow money. That should be a life rule. If you do it, just be sure you understand that you may not ever see the money again.

With that, when a family member comes to me to "borrow" money (and they have), depending on how much they want I say, "$200? Sure, I need my living room/hallway painted" or whatever miscellaneous work that they can do to earn the money. They'll grudgingly accept but let me tell you... no one has asked me for money again once that story circulated.

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by Houston3

It cost $40 to get a haircut in Brooklyn, NY ?

No, LOL. I gave all the cash I had on me. Which was $40. Figured he would need it. $12 on average out here.

[KatieCountrycm]

you're losing sleep and stressing over $40.00? Just think of it as a good-bye gift and cut ties with him if it was that big of a deal

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by KatieCountrycm

you're losing sleep and stressing over $40.00? Just think of it as a good-bye gift and cut ties with him if it was that big of a deal

The disappointment hurts. I though we were going to be like brothers again. Thought he would be back in my life on a regular basis. My fondest memories exist with him and his family. Almost 30 years knowing someone is a long time. Every day i get up, And hope he calls despite me wanting to move on if he is gone for good.

My family is very small, And lives far away in Las Vegas and I am closer to my friends cause I was orphaned very young. This is nothing negative against my own family. They were never here though. Always moving around. Florida, New Mexico, California, and finally settled in Vegas.