Friend borrowed cash and disappeared. (husband, sister, Christmas, person)

[dubyanumberone]

Consider it a blessing.

About 6 years ago I lent a friend $500.00. Was supposed to be for a few days and then he would immediately pay me back. At the time I was really doing well and he and his fiance' were ina real jam so I helped them out and besides, it was only supposed to be for a week or two tops.

Well, of course everytime I inquired about repayment something would come up and six years later I'm still waiting.

[skel1977]

Originally Posted by D. Scott

Well it's been on my mind for 2 months. I am stumped.

Have a friend who i have known for almost 30 years. We grew up together, And though we did not hang out all the time we still had contact. Caught up from time to time with some pints.

fast forward: 2 years went by, And heard from him 5 times by texts and 2 short calls. Late last year he got into a jam. Was being evicted from his apt as he was not on the lease(long story) and his girlfriend lost her job. Started to hear from him more, Asking for money. At the time i had none to spare. Anyway, He lost the court case and had to move. On Dec 4th he called saying he had a job interview and had no money for a haircut. I offered some ($40) And 2 other job leads. Went to see him for the first time in 2 years. He seemed appreciative and apologized for not seeing me for so long. Said he was grateful and would pay me back. had an hour long conversation with him the next day. He would likely be moving to his mom's and would have no phone at that point but would contact me to give me an update on the job leads in a few days.

The dude is gone. No call, no nothing. No clue where he is. I feel used, And am trying to let it go. I think this is unfair. I blogged about it, And its keeping me up at night. Anyone been in this situation before? I never have been. it's not the money at this point either...

He borrowed money from a loan shark, spent it on booze and couldnt pay back the money. He is now swimming with the fishes.
The last time you saw him is the last time you will see him

[steel7]

If you know where he lives go pay him a visit & talk to him.

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by steel7

If you know where he lives go pay him a visit & talk to him.

I think he is at his mothers not far away. His mother did not want his girlfriend there and all 3 are unemployed so that sounded like a bad situation to begin with. I though of that, But it feels weird to have to do this.

As for the other poster mentioning the loanshark, I do not think he did that. He borrowed money from others though, And me be hiding out.

Yikes!

[Just One of the Guys]

You got off cheap for only $40.00. I did the same 30 years ago lending someone $150.00 and I feel I got off cheap too.

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by Just One of the Guys

You got off cheap for only $40.00. I did the same 30 years ago lending someone $150.00 and I feel I got off cheap too.

Indeed. That was the contents of my whole wallet at that point after getting dinner. I am not suffering over $40 thankfully.

[Shankapotomus]

Originally Posted by D. Scott

Well it's been on my mind for 2 months. I am stumped.

Have a friend who i have known for almost 30 years. We grew up together, And though we did not hang out all the time we still had contact. Caught up from time to time with some pints.

fast forward: 2 years went by, And heard from him 5 times by texts and 2 short calls. Late last year he got into a jam. Was being evicted from his apt as he was not on the lease(long story) and his girlfriend lost her job. Started to hear from him more, Asking for money. At the time i had none to spare. Anyway, He lost the court case and had to move. On Dec 4th he called saying he had a job interview and had no money for a haircut. I offered some ($40) And 2 other job leads. Went to see him for the first time in 2 years. He seemed appreciative and apologized for not seeing me for so long. Said he was grateful and would pay me back. had an hour long conversation with him the next day. He would likely be moving to his mom's and would have no phone at that point but would contact me to give me an update on the job leads in a few days.

The dude is gone. No call, no nothing. No clue where he is. I feel used, And am trying to let it go. I think this is unfair. I blogged about it, And its keeping me up at night. Anyone been in this situation before? I never have been. it's not the money at this point either...

I can top this: My mother took my money without asking and didn't have the decency to disappear but is still in my life! And I haven't even started a thread on it!

Edit: wait...actually I think did start a thread on it awhile ago.

Nevermind.

P.S. it was WAY more than 40 bucks.

[Percentage]

Originally Posted by Shankapotomus

I can top this: My mother took my money without asking and didn't have the decency to disappear but is still in my life! And I haven't even started a thread on it!

Edit: wait...actually I think did start a thread on it awhile ago.

Nevermind.

P.S. it was WAY more than 40 bucks.

There is clearly a difference between a mother, that nursed you and probably raised you to be who you are now...and a friend that has no blood connection.

[D. Scott]

Originally Posted by Percentage

There is clearly a difference between a mother, that nursed you and probably raised you to be who you are now...and a friend that has no blood connection.

Exactly, I mean..it's mom. Sorry to hear this though.

[bellakin123]

Originally Posted by D. Scott

Well it's been on my mind for 2 months. I am stumped.

Have a friend who i have known for almost 30 years. We grew up together, And though we did not hang out all the time we still had contact. Caught up from time to time with some pints.

fast forward: 2 years went by, And heard from him 5 times by texts and 2 short calls. Late last year he got into a jam. Was being evicted from his apt as he was not on the lease(long story) and his girlfriend lost her job. Started to hear from him more, Asking for money. At the time i had none to spare. Anyway, He lost the court case and had to move. On Dec 4th he called saying he had a job interview and had no money for a haircut. I offered some ($40) And 2 other job leads. Went to see him for the first time in 2 years. He seemed appreciative and apologized for not seeing me for so long. Said he was grateful and would pay me back. had an hour long conversation with him the next day. He would likely be moving to his mom's and would have no phone at that point but would contact me to give me an update on the job leads in a few days.

The dude is gone. No call, no nothing. No clue where he is. I feel used, And am trying to let it go. I think this is unfair. I blogged about it, And its keeping me up at night. Anyone been in this situation before? I never have been. it's not the money at this point either...

Look at it this way...you did something nice for someone who was in need. Maybe he's a little embarassed that he was down on his luck and feels ashamed seeing or communicating with you. He may not intentionally be avoiding you. You're a good person and helped someone. Don't sweat it. Sometimes this is how we really get to know how someone is, if he's avoiding you because he doesn't WANT to pay you back. Karma works in mysterious ways. If he's avoiding you, I'm sure he'll have his own payback in some shape or form. Just remind yourself that you helped someone when they needed it