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Old 02-10-2012, 11:19 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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okay so I have a friend who I met last spring. i'll be honest at first I was really into her but i was quickly friend zoned. i made the choice to be friends with her anyway cos she's a cool gal and ever since then I've lost most if not all of that romantic inclination. we had a class last spring and last fall and talked to each other a lot in class, after class, and hung out a few times.

now we don't ahve class together any more and she never seems to wanna hang out. she's always busy, says she'll gimme a rain check and never does... etc. it's confusing. am I her friend or not? this isn't the only person this has happened with either -_-
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Old 02-10-2012, 11:22 PM
 
Location: Utah
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okay so I have a friend who I met last spring. i'll be honest at first I was really into her but i was quickly friend zoned. i made the choice to be friends with her anyway cos she's a cool gal and ever since then I've lost most if not all of that romantic inclination. we had a class last spring and last fall and talked to each other a lot in class, after class, and hung out a few times.

now we don't ahve class together any more and she never seems to wanna hang out. she's always busy, says she'll gimme a rain check and never does... etc. it's confusing. am I her friend or not? this isn't the only person this has happened with either -_-
You are her friend and she wants to keep you that way so she doesn't want to give you the chance for the friendship to lead into anything further because she only values you as a friend so she doesn't want to flat out reject you and then lose your friendship.

However if she has distanced herself from you it is for one of two reasons. She is attracted to you and fears crossing that line for fear of losing you or she really may not like you but doesn't want to be rude and tell you so.
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Old 02-10-2012, 11:30 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Maybe so. If she's attracted well then I guess there's not much I can do unless she tells me she's into me. If she doesn't like me, well, as petty as this sounds why would she "like" stuff that I post on Facebook all the time? I hate to take that stupid website seriously at all but you'd think she'd just ignore it if she didn't like me at all.
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Old 02-10-2012, 11:32 PM
 
Location: Utah
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Maybe so. If she's attracted well then I guess there's not much I can do unless she tells me she's into me. If she doesn't like me, well, as petty as this sounds why would she "like" stuff that I post on Facebook all the time? I hate to take that stupid website seriously at all but you'd think she'd just ignore it if she didn't like me at all.
Sounds like one of my little sisters. She loves to feel in control of men and loves to have guys vying for her attention.
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Old 02-10-2012, 11:33 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Friendships come and go, maybe its as simple as that....IDK.....
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Old 02-10-2012, 11:41 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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okay so I have a friend who I met last spring. i'll be honest at first I was really into her but i was quickly friend zoned. i made the choice to be friends with her anyway cos she's a cool gal and ever since then I've lost most if not all of that romantic inclination. we had a class last spring and last fall and talked to each other a lot in class, after class, and hung out a few times.

now we don't ahve class together any more and she never seems to wanna hang out. she's always busy, says she'll gimme a rain check and never does... etc. it's confusing. am I her friend or not? this isn't the only person this has happened with either -_-
You were less than a friend. You were convenient.

[it happens]
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Old 02-10-2012, 11:41 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Sounds like one of my little sisters. She loves to feel in control of men and loves to have guys vying for her attention.
could be.

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Friendships come and go, maybe its as simple as that....IDK.....
yeah, true. but damn dude it was only like a month without seeing each other. and even after summer vacation which was way longer we still hung out a few teams.
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Old 02-10-2012, 11:47 PM
 
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I do not find this odd although it is painful and confusing to the receiver.

You stated you were quickly in the friend zone and before you had classes together and would hang out..
Well how good of friends were you? And what was the duration of your friendship?
Chances are that with the time lapse even though it has only been a month and now you share no classes?
If it was not a strong friendship she may be meeting and hanging out with new friends or acquaintances.
She may not mean to blow you off but rather found others that share more in common with her?

I do not agree with the poster that stated she may have mixed feeling for you, if that was the case this would make her want to hang out with you more, to explore these feelings, if they are valid or not.
I would not focus on one woman. You are young and this is the time of your life...grasp it with two hands and take off...look for other women.. Plenty of more friends to be had..
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Old 02-11-2012, 12:11 AM
 
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You were less than a friend. You were convenient.

[it happens]
Sad how some people treat others like that.
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Old 02-11-2012, 12:40 AM
 
Location: Planet Earth, USA
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You were just a classmate, someone to talk to or goof around with.

Now that you're not in the same classes, she doesn't feel anything in common with you anymore.
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