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Old 10-31-2012, 02:20 PM
 
Location: On the edge of the universe
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Hell, $200K? This isn't upper middle class or whatever they call it, I'd say that's living the fast life. I don't know why people act like $200K is anywhere near what they used to call a middle class salary. To be honest, most people don't make anywhere near that much. Most jobs pay below $20,000 a year, LOL. This 'professional' friend is going to be a vampire on you, OP. Not trying to be mean or spiteful in saying that but this is trouble. Unless you live in an area where the cost of living is genuinely high (like Manhattan or so), anyone having money problems with a salary over $80K is someone who I'd steer clear from for the most part.
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Old 11-02-2012, 10:17 AM
 
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I know this is a matter of perception, but I'm tired of hearing my friend whine about money. He's in his late thirties and is a single man making 200K with plenty saved and property in several states that he rents out. He's not rich but he's better off than a lot of people. Meanwhile our mutual friend and I (who he also whines to) are busting our asses just trying to pay our rent. We discuss this all the time. He takes 8K vacations and complains about how broke he is when he comes back. He will lose 20K in the stock market and sit in Penn Station crying (LITERALLY), asking me how he can afford his next drink. He permanently damaged his relationship with our mutual friend because she owed him 100 bucks (!) after her wallet got stolen and it took her 3 weeks to pay him back, and he wouldn't stop hounding her. Meanwhile he was bragging to her about taking girls on 2K dinners. Does he not understand how galling that is?

Should I outrightly tell him this behavior is really putting me off? Because I've hinted but I think I need to be more direct.
Yeh xxbabeechick...tell him to go whine in front of a mirror to someone who cares....I've found that people like this "friend" of yours who like to continually whine about money do so because they feel they can use it as an excuse not to pay their fair share when they ARE with friends eg: asking how he can afford his next drink...just don't get sucked in to buying anything for this very inconsiderate, and CHEAP man.
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Old 11-02-2012, 04:33 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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He's already dumped...no way I ever bought him a thing.
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Old 11-02-2012, 04:53 PM
 
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Update: We are no longer friends...gradually ignored him til he went away.

Whatever works. I would have made the little hand gesture for the World's Smallest Violin in the World playing "My Heart Bleeds for You," and told him to put a sock in it with his First-World problems, but that's just me and I can be blunt like that.
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Old 11-04-2012, 12:06 PM
 
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I know this is a matter of perception, but I'm tired of hearing my friend whine about money. He's in his late thirties and is a single man making 200K with plenty saved and property in several states that he rents out. He's not rich but he's better off than a lot of people. Meanwhile our mutual friend and I (who he also whines to) are busting our asses just trying to pay our rent. We discuss this all the time. He takes 8K vacations and complains about how broke he is when he comes back. He will lose 20K in the stock market and sit in Penn Station crying (LITERALLY), asking me how he can afford his next drink. He permanently damaged his relationship with our mutual friend because she owed him 100 bucks (!) after her wallet got stolen and it took her 3 weeks to pay him back, and he wouldn't stop hounding her. Meanwhile he was bragging to her about taking girls on 2K dinners. Does he not understand how galling that is?

Should I outrightly tell him this behavior is really putting me off? Because I've hinted but I think I need to be more direct.

Busting you asses to pay rent?
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Old 11-04-2012, 03:50 PM
 
Location: Up North
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Hell, $200K? This isn't upper middle class or whatever they call it, I'd say that's living the fast life. I don't know why people act like $200K is anywhere near what they used to call a middle class salary. To be honest, most people don't make anywhere near that much. Most jobs pay below $20,000 a year, LOL. This 'professional' friend is going to be a vampire on you, OP. Not trying to be mean or spiteful in saying that but this is trouble. Unless you live in an area where the cost of living is genuinely high (like Manhattan or so), anyone having money problems with a salary over $80K is someone who I'd steer clear from for the most part.
This.

90%-95% make 100,000 or less a year. Most wealth in this country is generally inherited.
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Old 11-06-2012, 01:28 PM
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Location: MA/NH
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This.

90%-95% make 100,000 or less a year. Most wealth in this country is generally inherited.
Right. Mostly in the form of inheriting the parents' house though. Buying real estate is a great way to invest in oneself and then pass it on to the next generation.
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Old 11-06-2012, 01:33 PM
 
Location: DFW
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He may be upside down, in everything and digging the hole deeper to maintain appearances.
That, my friend, is the the problem.
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