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One of my best friends has game night every Sat. The last few month or so there has been a new person at game night. I have many gays friends male/female. It turns out that this guy is gay for the past few weeks he's been making sure that I know I he is NOT intrested in me by insulting me in front of my friends. For those who don't know me I am straight. I let it slide the first couple of times. The person who has game night at her place told the guy that he needs to stop it or I'm going to punch him in the mouth. Out of respect for my friend & the fact that it is her place I kept my mouth shut. The old me would of broke his nose in front of everyone not respecting my friends house. The question is how do I handle this without punching this guy in the mouth?
I know it sounds crazy reed067...but I think he's more attracted to you than he wants to be...thus he puts you down..just to reafirm in HIS mind that you can't be desirable...I don't know how you should handle it though....though I do know that when someone is insulting someone like he is...it really only makes THEM sound and look bad.
Handle it the same way you'd handle anyone else making rude comments to you. I would say, "Are you always this rude and insulting to people you don't know very well? There is no need for it. If you have a problem with me, you need to talk to me about it, instead of acting out with childish insults and making everyone here feel uncomfortable."
this is good....maybe ask him this in front of the others.
OP, if all you have done so far is drop hints, it's time to be more direct. There are tons of strong but respectful responses people have suggested in this thread. Memorize a few and have them ready for the next time. Say it immediately, in front of the group, don't wait until later. And smile.
OP, if all you have done so far is drop hints, it's time to be more direct. There are tons of strong but respectful responses people have suggested in this thread. Memorize a few and have them ready for the next time. Say it immediately, in front of the group, don't wait until later. And smile.
I agree but I have to laugh because I'm now picturing the OP pulling out some index cards with some of the responses on them and reading them to the jerk! It's kind of funny...
I know it sounds crazy reed067...but I think he's more attracted to you than he wants to be...thus he puts you down..just to reafirm in HIS mind that you can't be desirable
As stated before this guy like younger guys boarding on jailbait. He's only like 23ish himself. The guys he likes are 17,18.
Next time he's nasty to you, blow him a kiss and pretend to flirt with him....see if he gets embarassed.....then just laugh and let him see you are not bothered about him acting nasty and can see through it. That he is indeed attracted to you but trying to hide it.
I'd punch him in the mouth if it happens again. Then he'll learn to keep his mouth shut next time. Scryew your friend. She needs to step in as it's HER friend insulting you. You gave her the chance and it didn't work. Time to take matters into your own hands.
Another thing is we all like to think we are good looking and attractive to other people...
Did he say or imply that you are not good looking?
Or did he say or imply that you are too old?
If he did, perhaps that hurt your feelings?
It doesn't hurt my feeling that he doesn't think I'm attractive not in the least. I'm 44 so I'm no where near what he likes. I don't care who does & who doesn't find me good looking in the least. If you don't like what you see then move on.
I don't think I'm going to go to the next couple of game nights. The friend who runs the thing wil take notice I'm sure. My friend did warn him that I was getting miffed & he needs to shutup.
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I know it sounds crazy reed067...but I think he's more attracted to you than he wants to be...thus he puts you down..just to reafirm in HIS mind that you can't be desirable...I don't know how you should handle it though....though I do know that when someone is insulting someone like he is...it really only makes THEM sound and look bad.
