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Personally I think you made a great choice staying true to who you are and what you do and don't do. In my opinion the fact that you did not go since you do not do illegal drugs and chose not to be with multiple women is a great sign of inner strength and confidence.
I would be happy that they don't talk to me much anymore, do you seriously want those guys in your life?
I'm not saying they are bad guys, what they choose to do is their own choice. All I am saying is if you have different ideas of how you want to live your life would you not be better to surround youself with others who have the same ideas?
I second this post. I think it's disgusting that a groom would've had sex with other women right before his wedding. Doesn't sound like he has too much respect for his fiance and doesn't necessarily bode well for their marriage.
If you're invited to do something that's completely against character for you, then you shouldn't do it, unless it's something you're truly dying to do. However, this event could become a recurrence before each one of these guys gets married, in which case they'd want you to do the same before you got married. And your fiance would probably dump you. Honestly, I'd never get involved with a guy who went on this kind of bachelor party escapade. They sound like a bunch of creeps. I've been to Amsterdam and didn't smoke weed, but I checked out the Red Light District out of curiosity. It's just gross. Maybe because I'm not a guy, but I just found women in windows kind of sad.
Stick with who you are. If they want to be your friends, they'll still be your friends, regardless of you not wanting to smoke weed or have sex with prostitutes. I have never smoked weed and have plenty of friends who have never smoked it. You're just fine.
I originally took it as hyped up 'guy-talk'. I bet they didn't even smoke weed or get laid there.
That was exactly what I was thinking. Me and my buddies are the same exact way.. now we'd surely smoke if we were there, but would we get a prostitute if we were in a relationship or married... nope. Would we talk about it, probably so
If I were a guy, I would of said yes in a New York second. Honestly, I think everyone is responsible for their own behavior and if the guy getting married wants to be a dog, that's his problem, I'm not the one marrying him.
Now you sound like you are not into this experience. That just means you are more interested in doing other things. These guys are not the group you should be hanging with.
I'm not questioning your values, but how did you become "friends" with a bunch of guys who are so different from you? And now that I think about it, your association with these guys could be considered friendly, but I don't think you were friends in the truest sense. I say that because you would have been aware of the way they like to have "guy fun;" which includes smoking dope and chasing women/P4P. Furthermore, it stands to reason that they don't speak to you anymore because they don't want you to talk to their SOs about their well planned and probably well executed holiday debauchery.
Anyway, you probably made the proper choice by not going on the trip.
A while back I made a couple of new friends, which was good thing since I only have few close friends. These guys were excited to tell me their plans for a wild bachelor party trip to Amsterdam and invited me to join them. Honestly, that probably would have been a chance make some closer friends and maybe have some fun. However, I ended up skipping the offer since the trip seemed quite out of my comfort zone.
Their main plan revolved around taking advantage of legal marijuana and prostitution over in Amsterdam. The idea was to spend week smoking weed in cafes and finding hot girls for sex in clubs and the red light district.
I never have done illegal drugs and definitely wasn't sure about the escort idea.
They did try convince to me come along with saying it would great change for me. They even mentioned since I don't have much luck with girls, the trip would be a great way to solve my problem. But, I actually thought it was kind of usual that even groom to be was going have sex with multiple different girls (including prostitutes) just a few weeks before the wedding. I guess maybe it just getting it out of his system before he settles down with one girl?
Anyhow, I do wonder if made the mistake of rejecting their invite. Maybe I am just not being adventurous enough? I could have possibly gone and had the time of my life. That is the way they described after they came back from Amsterdam and said they can't wait for next wild trip. However, I doubt I will get an invite to their next trip since they hardly talk to me anymore...
No, you made no mistake. You made a moral decision, welcome to Adulthood Stick to those values, for the rest of your life you will be very glad you did. And, find different friends. Have you seen some of the prisons overseas....You do not need to go to that extreme to have fun, and if they do....there is something seriously lacking in their moral beliefs.
amsterdam seems like an awful choice for this sort of trip. if i were you i would have tried to talk some sense in them and change the destination to medellin colombia where you could have had some real fun.
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Stick to those values, for the rest of your life you will be very glad you did. And, find different friends. Have you seen some of the prisons overseas....You do not need to go to that extreme to have fun, and if they do....there is something seriously lacking in their moral beliefs.
