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Old 03-05-2012, 07:35 AM
Location: Monnem Germany/ from San Diego
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"Was it a mistake to skip the invite for a friends' bachelor party trip to Amsterdam?"


Love A-dam but if you want red light it is touristy and overpriced. Red Light in Rotterdam is better. Favorite Coffee Shop is in Maastrich.

That is not what I go to Holland for though. Love the county and people but hey ya gotta do the District at least once :-)
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Old 03-05-2012, 07:48 AM
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Originally Posted by unseengundam View Post
A while back I made a couple of new friends, which was good thing since I only have few close friends. These guys were excited to tell me their plans for a wild bachelor party trip to Amsterdam and invited me to join them. Honestly, that probably would have been a chance make some closer friends and maybe have some fun. However, I ended up skipping the offer since the trip seemed quite out of my comfort zone.

Their main plan revolved around taking advantage of legal marijuana and prostitution over in Amsterdam. The idea was to spend week smoking weed in cafes and finding hot girls for sex in clubs and the red light district.
I never have done illegal drugs and definitely wasn't sure about the escort idea.

They did try convince to me come along with saying it would great change for me. They even mentioned since I don't have much luck with girls, the trip would be a great way to solve my problem. But, I actually thought it was kind of usual that even groom to be was going have sex with multiple different girls (including prostitutes) just a few weeks before the wedding. I guess maybe it just getting it out of his system before he settles down with one girl?

Anyhow, I do wonder if made the mistake of rejecting their invite. Maybe I am just not being adventurous enough? I could have possibly gone and had the time of my life. That is the way they described after they came back from Amsterdam and said they can't wait for next wild trip. However, I doubt I will get an invite to their next trip since they hardly talk to me anymore...
i think you made a good choice. i mean, i have a totally different idea of what it means to be "adventurous."

Originally Posted by D217 View Post
I originally took it as hyped up 'guy-talk'. I bet they didn't even smoke weed or get laid there.
i went with some of my buddies, not too long ago. the whole "drugs and hookers" thing in amsterdam is overhyped. i smoked plenty of weed, didn't touch any hookers, but all in all it was a novelty that wore off quick. the hookers are unappealing, and there's nothing particularly fun about getting high in europe. I found that coffee shops around amsterdam (and rotterdam) were full of sketchy tourists and arabs, mostly dudes, where nobody would really "mingle." You're not really around "dutch" people, but rather, global degenerates who just get baked and sit there, zoned out on really potent weed.

Originally Posted by unseengundam View Post
I think main problem it seem taking thing a bit too out of my league, I really am not much of party person. Last time there a bachelor party at Strip club, I actually went even though I am usually uncomfortable at clubs. Getting lap dances and some drinks isn't considered that bad when telling your adventures to others. But honestly I don't know anyone would feel comfortable telling people they smoked weeds and had sex with prostitutes!
i wouldn't look at it like that. they aren't 'out of your league.' any loser with a plane ticket can go do what they did.

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Old 03-05-2012, 05:06 PM
Location: Murphy, TX
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Originally Posted by himain View Post
"Nice" group of friends...How old are they??? Sounds like pathetic ass guys who can't get laid here in the USA and have to travel overseas to do it. Not to mention the main POS is getting married and pulling that stunt?? Obviously his soon to be wife is a complete stupid bytch for allowing that trip to take place in the first place. W T F

I give the marriage 6 months
Originally Posted by xiansheng_g View Post
I'm not questioning your values, but how did you become "friends" with a bunch of guys who are so different from you? And now that I think about it, your association with these guys could be considered friendly, but I don't think you were friends in the truest sense. I say that because you would have been aware of the way they like to have "guy fun;" which includes smoking dope and chasing women/P4P. Furthermore, it stands to reason that they don't speak to you anymore because they don't want you to talk to their SOs about their well planned and probably well executed holiday debauchery.

Anyway, you probably made the proper choice by not going on the trip.

Honestly, I don't think his finance or rest guys wives/girlfriends never knew the exact details of the trip. Probably, that why they didn't get stopped in the first places.

What xiansheng said kind of make sense to me. I am pretty sure they wouldn't want telling their SO what exactly did!

Originally Posted by burgler09 View Post
That was exactly what I was thinking. Me and my buddies are the same exact way.. now we'd surely smoke if we were there, but would we get a prostitute if we were in a relationship or married... nope. Would we talk about it, probably so
I actually believed they would since supposedly last time one of them got married they got escorts for their bachelor party. Supposedly the pimp/bodygaurd came along with the hookers. They each could negotiate price for "special service". I would they would at least attempt to do since had small list of places to check out already.
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Old 03-05-2012, 05:56 PM
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It's not a big deal, they want to do that, and you don't. You would've just slowed them down if you went along and whined.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:05 PM
Location: Las Vegas
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I would have gone...and seen Amsterdam. It's a great city. I would have done some things with them and ducked out for others.

These "Guys" are no big loss as friends. Any group of supposed men who want to go to Amsterdam for a week of sex and drugs are not quite grown up yet. You can get sex and drugs on any street in the US. Why spend all that money to go to the Netherlands? Sounds like it was just an excuse to get away from home and behave badly.

I could easily spend a week in Amsterdam just walking around seeing things. Yes, I've been to the Coffee Bars to check it out. It was different to see drug use openly in public places. It was a novelty and just one thing on my list.
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Old 03-06-2012, 04:07 PM
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Amsterdam is overrated. I mean the Rijksmuseum and Anne Frank's hideout is cool to see, and the canals. But as Foadi stated, for this type of "vacation" there is better destinations
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