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Just curious who has dealt with this and how you reacted??
My father is pretty laid back about it, so no worries there. BUT.. my inlaws, ESPECIALLY my MIL, is pushing!!! She isn't outright saying "when do I get grandkids" - she is more at the hinting stage with comments like "you know, if you had kids, you wouldn't have to worry about a babysitter" or "your uncle mark really likes his grandbaby *big sigh*"
We're no where near ready for children.. we've been together for 4.5 yrs, married a little over 2, have had some major ups and downs, are still getting settled financially, and quite frankly I'm too selfish with my own hobbies / time / freedom to bring a little one into the picture. No worries, preventative measures are also in place! But, every get together or family functions... sure enough, she's right back at 'dropping' hints.
Soooo ... who here has dealt with this.. and how'd you deal?
I havent dealt with it yet, but it sounds like a response such as " You'll get 'em when Im ready" ( said with a smile of course) is in order... if you dont, then its likely going to go beyond just hints.
In my experience, a direct answer to "hints" such as these ( i.e ones poking into your private decisions) is the best way to go to get the hinter to shush.
Hope it helps.
Tell them to eff off. Seriously. What you're typing sounds like the script from some Hollywood "that's life" movie deal. If you do it, fine. If you don't, great.
I personally told her, and my husband's grandmother who is also on this band wagon, to eff off in a nice, polite way. They have both been keeping it mostly quiet around me, but the minute I leave the room they are backing my husband into a corner with it, figuratively speaking of course. He then reports back to me.
I am glad I am not dealing with it directly right now, but they will come back around to addressing me directly soon enough. My husband has been taking the stance of "you'll just have to wait until we're ready," but it does bother me that they are being persistant about it. They just won't leave it alone, and I have told him that he'll have to keep putting up with them until he really puts his foot down.
Try to keep in mind that they're from a different generation and they don't mean any harm. They probably don't realize how pushy they're being. This may be their way of telling you that they think a lot of you, that they're happy you married their son, that they think you'll make beautiful babies. Tell them you want to be sure your finances are secure before having kids. That kind of thinking tends to appeal to older folks.
Tell them when you are ready they'll get an invitation to the conception See how many blinks before they get it.
Seriously, since they are using the divide and attack tactics, I'd suggest a united front. Both of you sit down with them and lay out the boundary that you'll have a kid if and when it's right for you. Until then the topic is not to be discussed. You might also lay out penalties for breaching the rule: something like an extra month putting it off for each time they nag you.
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But, every get together or family functions... sure enough, she's right back at 'dropping' hints. 
