Can a Poor & rich friend make it? (female, male, person)

[JohnRoxy]

If you lived in a small $100k house, struggled, but really good nice person met a friend you really liked and she lives in a huge home with new cars new everything. Would you still be her friend? Will it work out? Will you judge her for being successful? She hasn't judged me for being "poor". Seems down to earth, very cool. Wondering why co-workers are wiser to make friends with cause youre (most of time) in the same financial range.
What if I feel intimidated by her wealth?

[AnalyzeThis]

I think "poor" and "rich" are subjective, but I don't think people intentionally segregate by economic status, especially friends. I think what happens is that based on what you can each afford to do, socially, it becomes challenging to hang together. For instance, I have a friend who struggles financially and even going to happy hour or the movies with her is challenging because she would drink water, or not want to go. This made it uncomfortable for both us. On the flip side, I am not really trying to hang out with Kate Middleton because I definitely could not keep up with her lifestyle, or social circle nor would I want to. So by default I end up spending most time with people around my same socioeconomic grouping, which I think is similar for others. I'd say don't let what she has bother you, just don't try to keep up with the Joneses and get yourself into trouble.

[JohnRoxy]

Thanks. Those were points I didn't think of.

[blondiel]

Be yourself and enjoy the friendship. Everybody is not hung up on financial status. I have friends who have much more than I have and some who have less. I do activities that I have to pay for with them based on what I can afford. It is nice to get invited to parties and other activities that I can not afford. My friends are not flashy or braggy, so the difference in finances is not obvious.

[Doll Eyes]

Originally Posted by JohnRoxy

If you lived in a small $100k house, struggled, but really good nice person met a friend you really liked and she lives in a huge home with new cars new everything. Would you still be her friend? Will it work out? Will you judge her for being successful? She hasn't judged me for being "poor". Seems down to earth, very cool. Wondering why co-workers are wiser to make friends with cause youre (most of time) in the same financial range.
What if I feel intimidated by her wealth?

Yes it can work, I've had friends with a lot less then me and a lot more then me....it will become a problem if you start acting 'funny' because of the wealth situation and noticing things that aren't really happening. Some wealthy people can be extremely clueless and say insensitive things to a person that doesn't have the same money advantages as they do. For example, I had a female friend with about a 310 sq. ft closet and she constantly said to other gfs, "I have nothing to wear." I used to get embarrassed. She didn't see nothing wrong with telling something like this to other folks who barely had 3 pairs of jeans to their name. When a wealthy person is this way, very hard to get along with them.

If this girl seems down to earth and cool from the jump and isn't putting on airs about her money then it shouldn't be a problem.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by JohnRoxy

If you lived in a small $100k house, struggled, but really good nice person met a friend you really liked and she lives in a huge home with new cars new everything. Would you still be her friend? Will it work out? Will you judge her for being successful? She hasn't judged me for being "poor". Seems down to earth, very cool. Wondering why co-workers are wiser to make friends with cause youre (most of time) in the same financial range.
What if I feel intimidated by her wealth?

It's just kind of hard to do some activities together - like dining, shopping, vacations, etc.

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

I like poor people who bathe regularly.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by JohnRoxy

If you lived in a small $100k house, struggled, but really good nice person met a friend you really liked and she lives in a huge home with new cars new everything. Would you still be her friend? Will it work out? Will you judge her for being successful? She hasn't judged me for being "poor". Seems down to earth, very cool. Wondering why co-workers are wiser to make friends with cause youre (most of time) in the same financial range.
What if I feel intimidated by her wealth?

Whether or not you would "feel intimidated" is a personal problem/issue, but there is no reason people with income disparities cannot be friends.

[reed067]

Originally Posted by JohnRoxy

If you lived in a small $100k house, struggled, but really good nice person met a friend you really liked and she lives in a huge home with new cars new everything. Would you still be her friend? Will it work out? Will you judge her for being successful? She hasn't judged me for being "poor". Seems down to earth, very cool. Wondering why co-workers are wiser to make friends with cause youre (most of time) in the same financial range.
What if I feel intimidated by her wealth?

Not if they buy me stuff.

[marilyn220]

Originally Posted by Currency Pair Crocodile

I like poor people who bathe regularly.

So do I.