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Old 04-06-2012, 09:23 PM
 
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I'm generally a whimsical person, I see life in terms of complexity and nuance. Due to these reasons, I feel uncomfortable around autistic/hyper-rational people.

Is this bad or normal?
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Old 04-06-2012, 09:55 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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I take it you are talking about high-functioning Autism. Someone very close to me has it, and I see it as a different way of understanding and learning. Not really having the ability to lie and saying exactly what's on their minds can be daunting, but it somewhat inspires me to try being more direct.

I loved the movie The Invention Of Lying with Ricky Gervais. They weren't autistic but it made me very aware of how much we lie on a regular basis to meet social expectations and sometimes more than we should.
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Old 04-06-2012, 11:07 PM
 
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All 3 of my sons have Asperger's, which is a high functioning form of Autisim. My sons are so loving and so accepting. I think I am a better person myself because of them.
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Old 04-07-2012, 12:12 AM
 
Location: California
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Can't speak to autism itself since I don't really know anyone that I'm sure has it, but I'm uncomfortable around socially awkward people. I have NO patience or desire to have patience.
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Old 04-07-2012, 12:39 AM
 
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Can't speak to autism itself since I don't really know anyone that I'm sure has it, but I'm uncomfortable around socially awkward people. I have NO patience or desire to have patience.
And what is it about socially awkward people that makes you uncomfortable?
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Old 04-07-2012, 12:40 AM
 
Location: Florida
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I have a lot of respect for high-functioning autistic people. There are typically little to no pretenses with them. What you see is what you get.

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Old 04-07-2012, 01:36 AM
 
Location: Kansas City, MO
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Can't speak to autism itself since I don't really know anyone that I'm sure has it, but I'm uncomfortable around socially awkward people. I have NO patience or desire to have patience.
What is it about socially ackward people that bothers you? Can you describe what you mean by socially ackward? And what if you find yourself in a situation or amongst a group in which you are ackward, wouldn't you want some compassion?

Luckily there are slower-paced places where folks have more time for one another, so people who aren't as socially gifted don't get left behind. I know it's been said before, but people in conservative areas do seem to be more "liberal" on a micro/person level.
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Old 04-07-2012, 04:30 AM
 
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I have never been around one but I'd imagine I'd be fine with it if I knew ahead of time. It's the non-autistic people who dismiss emotion who I feel uncomfortable around.
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Old 04-07-2012, 06:34 AM
 
Location: Kansas
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I think it is not unusual to be uncomfortable around people who have attributes that you do not understand. I have an adult son with Down syndrome who is lower functioning and I can see that just his presence makes some uncomfortable while others easily adapt to his functioning level and include him in conversations, often one sided, and activities. I would have to admit that around some people, it takes awhile to be comfortable. I don't understand a lot about autistic people but the ones I have seen are lower functioning. If I were going to be the company of someone that had a condition, any condition, I would learn what I could about it and then be more comfortable around that person.
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Old 04-07-2012, 07:22 AM
 
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I'm generally a whimsical person, I see life in terms of complexity and nuance. Due to these reasons, I feel uncomfortable around autistic/hyper-rational people.

Is this bad or normal?
It is not bad or normal, but more like insensitive. I find that every person has something to offer and I always give them the opportunity to be included when I am in their presence.
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