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Yep. That's what it is. It's quite nice, but I still would never want to live there. It's like high school with wrinkles. And lemme tell you, these people are longtime Jersey Shore goers before spray tans and skin cancer were a thing. They did it natural for decades. The swimming pool is more like an alligator pen you'd see in Florida - all that bare leathery skin. Last I visited, I was tempted to throw in a chicken carcass and see what happened.
I don't do the "tanning" thing, so when I visited and was wearing shorts, my mother took me around the poolside area and told people "this is my daughter." and then in a whisper she would add "She's very WHITE" the same way you would say "She's a registered sex offender" - and I am not even kidding.
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I have a female friend in her 60s who is into tanning, has tanning club memberships, and doesn't understand why her younger friends don't care for it. She seems stuck in the past when it was chic to be tanned and nobody would show their bare skin if they were untanned.
I am more content as I was in many relationships before.
And I rather go into a nursing home when I am old and helpless and pay for a nurse changing my diaper than being a burden to my children (if I had any) and ruin their lifes until I am dead.
And I rather go into a nursing home when I am old and helpless and pay for a nurse changing my diaper than being a burden to my children (if I had any) and ruin their lifes until I am dead.
Be careful. This is the US, not Europe. Some people in nursing homes are abused to one extent or another. Perhaps the best situation one can have if they have to go into a nursing home is to also have adult children or other relatives to keep an eye on the nursing home caretakers and their aging relative.
Single, middle-aged and without children? Are you REALLY happy and content?
ahhhhhhh, OMG yes!!!!! Could not be happier if I tried.
It's a real roll of the dice, this having children stuff. I'm not the type person who would even consider walking away from or not plunging non-stop head-on regardless of any issue a child might be born with. Knowing this about myself I chose to not roll the dice. I work with pediatric patients every day and I see it all and I don't know how some parents do it. And yet I am sure I would have been a super responsible and nurturing mom. Too much so.
So please don't look at childless people and feel sorry for them or wonder how could we possibly be happy and content. Because I am both those things and more.
No regrets!
Since then, I was in a relationship for a year with an older woman. Great year mostly. I'm back to being single, but have been someone for a few weeks. It feels good again.
I'll be 32 in a month. I still have no desire to have kids of my own. I might be open to dating a woman with kids older than 5. I don't want to be dealing with babies or toddlers.
I've basically decided that if I still don't want kids by 35-40, I'm having a vasectomy and calling it a day.
Since then, I was in a relationship for a year with an older woman. Great year mostly. I'm back to being single, but have been someone for a few weeks. It feels good again.
I'll be 32 in a month. I still have no desire to have kids of my own. I might be open to dating a woman with kids older than 5. I don't want to be dealing with babies or toddlers.
I've basically decided that if I still don't want kids by 35-40, I'm having a vasectomy and calling it a day.
If you date someone with kids, you are better off bonding with infants/toddlers than teenagers/young adults. Once they get set in their ways, they sometimes don’t want to have anything to do with “step-parents”.
If you date someone with kids, you are better off bonding with infants/toddlers than teenagers/young adults. Once they get set in their ways, they sometimes don’t want to have anything to do with “step-parents”.
I don't want to be changing diapers and stuff. I don't care to be raising the kid from birth. I'm not sure I necessarily want them to think of me as "the real dad."
Be careful. This is the US, not Europe. Some people in nursing homes are abused to one extent or another. Perhaps the best situation one can have if they have to go into a nursing home is to also have adult children or other relatives to keep an eye on the nursing home caretakers and their aging relative.
Do you think it would just be a better idea to kill off all of the elderly people without children or family to look after them so that they won’t have to worry about potentially being abused in nursing homes?
I don't want any kids and I would rather be single and dating than to be tied down with some cheating jerk in a sexless, loveless marriage and miserable until he decides to divorce me and get someone younger.
I'll be 32 in a month. I still have no desire to have kids of my own. I might be open to dating a woman with kids older than 5. I don't want to be dealing with babies or toddlers. .
Any potential partner who has children can become a burden, even if they are over 5. What if she expects you to help finance her kids' college educations, orthodontist bills, cars when they turn 16?
I know a woman who married a man and then moved her adult son (age 30) into their home, and expected her new husband to fully support her adult son. The marriage lasted three years, no surprise there. So if you don't want to play "daddy" to an adult kid, don't marry a person who has any children.
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