Sister-in-law Wants to Wash/Dry Family Laundry Before Going Home (money, feel)

[Thursday007]

If the OP thinks she's got it bad - this whole thing reminds me of this old thread. I about wet myself laughing so hard at the OP's listing of things her house guests did. Enjoy:

What is acceptable when it comes to the behavior of guests in your home?


Am I being too picky? My guests, who are staying with me for 2 days and have 3 small children, have:

1. Dumped an entire bottle of expensive shampoo all over the floor & said nothing to me about it.
2. Done 5 loads of laundry, including putting several shoes in the dryer (I never do that). (It's only 2 days, why did they have to do 5 loads of laundry in my house????)
3. The kids have ransacked all my drawers and cabinets and made my own personal stuff their "toys" of the moment.
4. They didn't like the music I played or the candles I burned, so they hid my candles, and turned off the stereo whenever I left the room.
5. They did not like how loud I put on the TV so they grabbed the remote, again w/out asking, and turned it way down.
6. The 4-year-old boy peed all over the floor and the parents did nothing about this.
7. One of the adults let the 4-year-old use my NEW computer; of course the 4-year-old was banging on the computer as if it were a toy.

And other annoying stuff. I said nothing, as I don't want to be viewed as being rude.

I cannot imagine behaving this way in someone's home, even if they are family. My parents raised me to never touch anything in someone else's home, and that if you need something, to ALWAYS ask permission first.
Am I just supposed to roll over and let family and friends do whatever they want in my house? Is this the price to be paid if I want family/friends as houseguests?

(There's even more stuff within the thread)

[stan4]

Definitely think it's weird to do all your laundry before going home.

Think it's also weird to make a fuss about it.

Both are weird.

[D217]

Originally Posted by Thursday007

If the OP thinks she's got it bad - this whole thing reminds me of this old thread. I about wet myself laughing so hard at the OP's listing of things her house guests did. Enjoy:

What is acceptable when it comes to the behavior of guests in your home?


Am I being too picky? My guests, who are staying with me for 2 days and have 3 small children, have:

1. Dumped an entire bottle of expensive shampoo all over the floor & said nothing to me about it.
2. Done 5 loads of laundry, including putting several shoes in the dryer (I never do that). (It's only 2 days, why did they have to do 5 loads of laundry in my house????)
3. The kids have ransacked all my drawers and cabinets and made my own personal stuff their "toys" of the moment.
4. They didn't like the music I played or the candles I burned, so they hid my candles, and turned off the stereo whenever I left the room.
5. They did not like how loud I put on the TV so they grabbed the remote, again w/out asking, and turned it way down.
6. The 4-year-old boy peed all over the floor and the parents did nothing about this.
7. One of the adults let the 4-year-old use my NEW computer; of course the 4-year-old was banging on the computer as if it were a toy.

And other annoying stuff. I said nothing, as I don't want to be viewed as being rude.

I cannot imagine behaving this way in someone's home, even if they are family. My parents raised me to never touch anything in someone else's home, and that if you need something, to ALWAYS ask permission first.
Am I just supposed to roll over and let family and friends do whatever they want in my house? Is this the price to be paid if I want family/friends as houseguests?

(There's even more stuff within the thread)

OMG, They killed Kenny! Those Bastards!

[D217]

Originally Posted by Kibbiekat

I agree

It is interesting to me that several people think the OP is being a bad host or, not being generous for his/her feelings about this. What about the SIL? IMO she's not being a good house guest. It is one thing to wash a few things if you run out before the visit is over. Washing everything you brought for 5 people is just rude and unnecessary. I have never done that, never expected to do that, nor ever had a house guest ask to do that.

Definitely.

It also really messes up any plans for the last day of visiting since, well....they're stuck in the house all day waiting on laundry...May as well just leave a day early and do their crap @ home like a normal person.


That's like 8 hours of laundry!

[SPECFRCE]

Originally Posted by Thursday007

If the OP thinks she's got it bad - this whole thing reminds me of this old thread. I about wet myself laughing so hard at the OP's listing of things her house guests did. Enjoy:

What is acceptable when it comes to the behavior of guests in your home?


Am I being too picky? My guests, who are staying with me for 2 days and have 3 small children, have:

1. Dumped an entire bottle of expensive shampoo all over the floor & said nothing to me about it.
2. Done 5 loads of laundry, including putting several shoes in the dryer (I never do that). (It's only 2 days, why did they have to do 5 loads of laundry in my house????)
3. The kids have ransacked all my drawers and cabinets and made my own personal stuff their "toys" of the moment.
4. They didn't like the music I played or the candles I burned, so they hid my candles, and turned off the stereo whenever I left the room.
5. They did not like how loud I put on the TV so they grabbed the remote, again w/out asking, and turned it way down.
6. The 4-year-old boy peed all over the floor and the parents did nothing about this.
7. One of the adults let the 4-year-old use my NEW computer; of course the 4-year-old was banging on the computer as if it were a toy.

And other annoying stuff. I said nothing, as I don't want to be viewed as being rude.

I cannot imagine behaving this way in someone's home, even if they are family. My parents raised me to never touch anything in someone else's home, and that if you need something, to ALWAYS ask permission first.
Am I just supposed to roll over and let family and friends do whatever they want in my house? Is this the price to be paid if I want family/friends as houseguests?

(There's even more stuff within the thread)

1) Why are people so worried about being rude? They are in your home and you have a say-so of the happenings within your walls.
This is why America is so PC. Just say what you mean, Passive Aggressiveness looks quite ugly on everyone. Rude would be on their behalf from your post.

2) I Never do laundry at the families, Never!

[Ceece]

My family stayed with an aunt once and the last day, while she was at work, we not only washed our clothes but also the sheets and towels we had been using, made up the beds, and baked cookies for her to have after we left. Yes, we cleaned up in the kitchen too.

That's being a good host/guest/family in my world. I don't know about everyone else but I suppose everyone has their "things" that make them weird.

[Kibbiekat]

Originally Posted by D217

Definitely.

It also really messes up any plans for the last day of visiting since, well....they're stuck in the house all day waiting on laundry...May as well just leave a day early and do their crap @ home like a normal person.


That's like 8 hours of laundry!

I was going to bring that up too. what if you wanted to actually go out and do something that day? Would she day "no, I have to do laundry?" It makes no sense to me. Who wants to spend their vacation doing laundry?

[stan4]

Originally Posted by Ceece

My family stayed with an aunt once and the last day, while she was at work, we not only washed our clothes but also the sheets and towels we had been using, made up the beds, and baked cookies for her to have after we left. Yes, we cleaned up in the kitchen too.

That's being a good host/guest/family in my world. I don't know about everyone else but I suppose everyone has their "things" that make them weird.

YUP.

I also pay for all the meals when we go out when I am a guest.

[SouthernBelleInUtah]

Sounds like SIL is a bit OCD, can't have dirty laundry touching her clean stuff - even if it's in a plastic bag. I have only asked to wash something when it got stained and I thought it might get set if not washed now. I take enough clothes with me for the trip. Of course, I am only 1 person, I can see if there are kids involved there might be a problem taking enough clothes. Still, if I were going to tie up the laundry for the entire day, I would ask first or go to the nearest laundromet.

[stan4]

The number one reason I wouldn't wash my clothes at someone else's house is that the only chance they have of making it out of my suitcase when I get home is when I dump 'em into the laundry pile. LOL!