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I was on Facebook today and I saw a whole bunch of photos of people doing Memorial Day stuff out and about. I had a chance to go out today but passed. But often Facebook makes me feel like my social life is lacking.
I also noticed that there are some guys on the internet who claim to have zero real friends, male or female.
Quite polar opposites to some of the people I know and I say I'd fall somewhere in between. I've had busier social periods but I'm in a lull for a couple of reasons.
So ... the question is ... Do you think more social people are generally happier?
Yes, I believe they are happier. I think that people who are not social, are not social because of some problems (for example, they got hurt by people and now try to stay away), or they were born with fear of people.... These are disabilities. We were made to be together, to interact. But our disabilities prevent that. And so the people with disabilities (the reserved ones) are not as happy because they are not doing what they were meant to be doing (which is to be a part of ONE big group of people and to interact)
Being social has its own set of problems. When people take photos they say.. "Smile". It does not demonstrate a true indication of the mental or emotional happiness of the person.
Just like anything else, there are some social people who are happy and some who are not. I am not a social person *at all* and I am usually pretty happy. I don't miss interacting with people. I get more than enough of that on my job.
I believe its true. The extreme introverts seem to be the ones always depressed and miserable. The people that go off shooting into crowds or schools always turn out to be introverts with social disorders. I'm a shy/quiet person but recognize as I came out of seclusion that my life has been more enjoyable. Its healthy for people to think about something other than themselves all the time which is what introverts always do is obsess about their own comfort level and eventually go crazy because they will eventually realize they have no friends and nobody cares about them. Its healthy to get out some. Doesn't have to be a big crowd, just find a good friend to spend time with.
I had a funny kind of epiphany about this yesterday. I was hanging out with a small group of friends and a man that I am acquainted with showed up. I know him from a dance group that I engage with every week and he's one of the few that always has a frown on his face and he's a bit snappish, though a very good dancer. Yesterday he had a big smile on his face and we were all so surprised that we asked him what he'd been doing. He'd just gotten off work! And my epiphany was that the man is so introverted that socializing at a dance is miserable for him, though he must do it for the love of the dance, and he must love his job. Funny about people.
haha, facebook makes everyone's social life look boring in comparison. I think a super crazy social life is depressing. You become obligated to all these people and run the risk of letting soemoen down.
Uh, what?? lol
I don't think it's depressing whatsoever. I have a pretty dang good social life, I'm out close to every day I would say and no where does that make me feel depressed or make me think of letting someone down... I don't know anyone who thinks like this lol
I went through a phase where I chose to stay in and pretty much ignore most people and not go out. Those were the most depressing days of my life. The more social I am the happier I am.
Check out the Events and Adventures Singles Club in San Francisco. They do lots of events and take lots of pictures. Everyone seems so damn happy and engaged. I say that this is contrived fun that exists on purely a superficial level. Looking over those pictures, I spotted one woman who is privately an absolute basket case. She can't spend time with herself. She needs to attend events and pretend to be a part of the group, to keep herself from committing suicide. She stands there with the rest of the group, with a smile, but privately, she hates herself and thinks often about ending this life.
Facebook to me is a medium for teenagers and kids. As an adult, I require a great deal more substance and meaning in my interactions. I would rather be alone, practicing my violin, practicing a martial art, reading, writing, hiking, cycling, listening to music alone with my thoughts while cruising the coast, and so forth, than prancing around an event with a bunch of acquaintances who I couldn't count on if my life depended on it. So I don't feel that people who appear more social are happier, but then again, some are.
I overwhelmingly prefer spending what free time I have with people who matter in my life: me, my wife and kids, anyone in my family, and a small group of close and trusted friends. You won't see this on facebook either.
Check out the Events and Adventures Singles Club in San Francisco. They do lots of events and take lots of pictures. Everyone seems so damn happy and engaged. I say that this is contrived fun that exists on purely a superficial level. Looking over those pictures, I spotted one woman who is privately an absolute basket case. She can't spend time with herself. She needs to attend events and pretend to be a part of the group, to keep herself from committing suicide. She stands there with the rest of the group, with a smile, but privately, she hates herself and thinks often about ending this life.
Facebook to me is a medium for teenagers and kids. As an adult, I require a great deal more substance and meaning in my interactions. I would rather be alone, practicing my violin, practicing a martial art, reading, writing, hiking, cycling, listening to music alone with my thoughts while cruising the coast, and so forth, than prancing around an event with a bunch of acquaintances who I couldn't count on if my life depended on it. So I don't feel that people who appear more social are happier, but then again, some are.
I overwhelmingly prefer spending what free time I have with people who matter in my life: me, my wife and kids, anyone in my family, and a small group of close and trusted friends. You won't see this on facebook either.
Check out the Events and Adventures Singles Club in San Francisco. They do lots of events and take lots of pictures. Everyone seems so damn happy and engaged. I say that this is contrived fun that exists on purely a superficial level. Looking over those pictures, I spotted one woman who is privately an absolute basket case. She can't spend time with herself. She needs to attend events and pretend to be a part of the group, to keep herself from committing suicide. She stands there with the rest of the group, with a smile, but privately, she hates herself and thinks often about ending this life.
Facebook to me is a medium for teenagers and kids. As an adult, I require a great deal more substance and meaning in my interactions. I would rather be alone, practicing my violin, practicing a martial art, reading, writing, hiking, cycling, listening to music alone with my thoughts while cruising the coast, and so forth, than prancing around an event with a bunch of acquaintances who I couldn't count on if my life depended on it. So I don't feel that people who appear more social are happier, but then again, some are.
I overwhelmingly prefer spending what free time I have with people who matter in my life: me, my wife and kids, anyone in my family, and a small group of close and trusted friends. You won't see this on facebook either.
What does facebook have to do with being social? lol
Your life would be a lot less happy if you were sitting inside all day and never got out of the house. Is this what happened to people these days? They stopped thinking about their own lives and having fun and are spending time looking a pics of other people? hahah
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She stands there with the rest of the group, with a smile, but privately, she hates herself and thinks often about ending this life.
