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I would wonder what his/her choice in friends said about him/her. Might this point to some aspect of his/her personality that you're not aware of? What has he/she said about the friends' reaction to you? I might not consider this a red flag, exactly, but maybe a yellow flag.
well, what if you didn't want to talk to or in any way have anything to do with them and your SO was upset about that fact? Simply put I sent a youtube video about health to my GF, she viewed it in front of friends, her friends said they were shocked that I sent my GF such a video as it was inappropriate and implied that my GF had bad health or overweight (a huge stretch of the imagination here)...pure nonsense. They also said that they would be very hurt if they received these types of videos from their boyfriends (if they had one - they are single!). This has offended me personally and I think they are jealous of our successful relationship (we never have fought so far) and I personally think they are acting out of malice which is extremely despicable behavior to me.
These friends also have very poor depiction of men...they talk about "training boyfriends" etc. which is also offensive to me.
Since these are her very best friends something tells me that if I dislike them it will affect our relationship as well eventually... best to get out of this situation or is it possible to take her friends out of the picture and have nothing to do with them?
Last edited by ducviloxi; 05-30-2012 at 09:58 AM..
well, what if you didn't want to talk to or in any way have anything to do with them and your SO was upset about that fact?
If I were your SO I'd be upset by that too. You can't sit there and play nice on occasion in order to make someone you care about happy? If not, I'd end it now. These people are important to her.
Still kind of general. Still not necessarily a deal breaker. This sounds like an issue between you and SO, and not you and the friend. Your SO either will be able to accept you and the friend won't be friends, or the SO won't accept it.
Your edit just confused me. If all her friends found the video inappropriate, I really want to know what it was now. And you think they did so with malice -- why? Have you had issues with them in the past? Has your girlfriend complained to them about you before?
@aragx6, as I said the video was about the detrimental effects of sugar, it was a health video. My GF is a bit overweight...her friends are trying to link the video with the implication that I am commenting on her weight which is nonsense. Me and my GF talk about this kind of stuff all the time and she is hugely into losing weight...infact my GF talks more about weight than I do.
What I found inappropriate and unacceptable was how her friends deemed it necessary to make a big ado about nothing, then put bad images about me in my GF's head without any reason...this leads me to believe that they are malicious individuals.
Obviously I don't want to have anything to do with people who are a negative influence in my life (a policy that I subscribed to many years ago and has made my life much better
You are the company you keep - if I found someone's friends obnoxious and didn't like them then that says something about my SO that they like being around those kinds of people.
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