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CaAriz, I know just what you mean. My Dad is in the middle stages of Alzheimers, and while it is sad not to be able to relate to him about matters in the present, I have been pleasantly surprised by what I am learning about him now that he is opening up. He was always very private and never talked about his past or his feelings, but now he is unguarded. Even when he gets angry and frustrated, I feel like I learn something about him. I am really getting to know my dad for the first time in a lot of ways. It is a true gift.
zentropa...Thanks for your post. I'm glad that you have a chance to learn more about your Dad and his past too...It's hard to live with a parent who tends to be "closed" so much of the time. (When we're "hungry" and curious to know more about them.)
Sounds like a real drag. If you've tried to talk to him and he still does it, just limit your contact with him. Why if you are in your early 20's hanging out with a dude in his 50's.... seems like a pretty big age gap anyways, might not have much in common anyways....
I'd just like to say to the person who used the Rating website to call me "sad" and "lonely" as a result of my comments on this forum: Get stuffed.
Must be the same person who told me I had "many regrets" and "feel guilty". LOL Nothing could be further from the truth, although I do...once in a GREAT while...think about 'some' of my regrets. I bet they didn't leave their name for you either.
Must be the same person who told me I had "many regrets" and "feel guilty". LOL Nothing could be further from the truth, although I do...once in a GREAT while...think about 'some' of my regrets. I bet they didn't leave their name for you either.
Don't be silly
I don't believe in regrets. After all, you can't do anything about the past - just make sure you don't make the same mistakes in the future .
I have a friend who does the same thing. He's in his early 30s and our high school yearbooks come out almost every time I'm at his house and he recounts the same stories, most of which I was there for the first time they happened! I think for some people high school/childhood was the best time of their life and they can't move beyond it.
There is nothing wrong with reflecting on your past. Your childhood and teenage years are not called your "formative years" for no reason. The first things we see and experience and the unique environments where these things take place have a great bearing on what type of adults we become. Whether you realize it or not, the child you were helped make you the young adult you are today.
In our culture, childhood nostalgia holds a great importance because the world is constantly changing around us. For my generation of 80's babies, we cling to retro images of old school Nintendo games, The Fresh Prince of Bel Air, old school Nike shoes from the 80's and early 90's like Air Jordans and Reebok Pumps, Ducktales, Ninja Turtles etc. We hold these things near and dear because they take us back to a time when most of us had no worries or responsibilities. As children, we were the adored center of attention. Our parents and teachers told us we were special. Fast forward to 2012 and over half of recent college grads can't get jobs and youth unemployment is sky high worldwide. Now do you understand why we long so much for the past?
Childhood nostalgia and the storytelling that comes along with it is central even to popular culture today. Millionaire rappers Jay-Z and Nas made fortunes rhyming about their childhood experiences in crack-ravaged New York City ghettos on their critically acclaimed classic debut albums. To this day, Nas and Jay-Z are 40-ish older men who won't shut up about growing up in New York City public housing in the 80's. Yet, people all around the world hang on every word uttered by these aging 40 year old Yankee hat wearing guys who moved out of the ghetto eons ago. This shows you that what goes on in your formative years is very important.
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