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Old 07-22-2012, 10:27 AM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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As far as I know no one has cut me out of their lives, I've basically cut them all out. It's not anything personal against them either. So keep that in mind the reason you think it happened to you might not be accurate.
Then why in the world would you cut them out if it's nothing personal?

See, I don't understand that - people leave and either they say nothing, or they say "it's not personal" - well, it IS. It is to ME. You leaving Joe Blow isn't personal, but yeah - when it happens to me and me alone, I tend to take it very personally.
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Old 07-22-2012, 12:23 PM
 
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I don't know that it was because my behavior was toxic. It was more like they couldn't handle the fact that I dared to disagree with them about politics, religion, etc. and wouldn't sit there listening silently to their endless preaching.

I've also had friends who chose racist, sexist, bigoted morons over me--and then came back a few years later and said, "Gah! What was I thinking? You were right!"

And one time, I told a friend point-blank that she was acting like a tramp with being this one guy's hook-up for years on end, while he always had real girlfriends, lived with someone, etc. A mutual friend of ours got angry with me. Okay, maybe it was poor form to just blurt it out like that, but come on. This went on for YEARS and when the guy finally married someone else, the doormat was heard to say, "It wasn't supposed to happen like that. It was supposed to be me."

All I could think was, "Really?"

So I guess if people have cut contact with me, it's because they can't handle differing opinions or they can't handle the truth. Which is really not my problem, when you think of it.
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Old 07-22-2012, 01:04 PM
 
Location: New Jersey
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Then why in the world would you cut them out if it's nothing personal?

See, I don't understand that - people leave and either they say nothing, or they say "it's not personal" - well, it IS. It is to ME. You leaving Joe Blow isn't personal, but yeah - when it happens to me and me alone, I tend to take it very personally.

.....I said it's not personal because it's not. I don't 'hate' or 'dislike' my former friends. I have all kinds of anxiety disorder and depression, Aspergers and NO desire to hold on to friendships with other people. They live totally different lives then I do and I saw no point in continuing on with their company and making everyone uncomfortable. They can find tons of other friends that they have things in common with and that live 'normal' lifestyles. I offered you a possible explanation which you didn't like -- so take it personally then, even though it may not be. *shrugs*
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Old 08-14-2012, 06:43 PM
 
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Yea I'm prett sure I've been cut out of a good handful of people's lives. I just don't have time for everyone. I'd rather have quality over quantity. People come and go and that's fine. I'd rather have a group of keeper friends than mediocre convenient friends!
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Old 04-15-2013, 08:37 PM
 
Location: OCNJ and or lower Florida keys
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Because I am so Awesome and they are not!! Psyche!! its usually me being a butt head!
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Old 04-15-2013, 08:55 PM
 
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Default hmmm...

I had it happen to me 40 years ago by my closest of friends. It still breaks my heart when I think of it, which is quite often. She found Christ, I didn't (at that time). I was no longer friend material and it happened, literally, overnight. Even letters to her as recent as last year go unanswered.
Koale
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Old 04-15-2013, 09:35 PM
 
Location: Planet Woof
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I and my partner were cut out by some friends and family when we experienced a long-term period of poverty due to unemployment and illness.

It's true, you really find out who cares when you fall on hard times.
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Old 04-15-2013, 10:01 PM
 
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I had it happen to me 40 years ago by my closest of friends. It still breaks my heart when I think of it, which is quite often. She found Christ, I didn't (at that time). I was no longer friend material and it happened, literally, overnight. Even letters to her as recent as last year go unanswered.
Koale
Oh yeah... typical of those "born again Christians", isn't it? Such hypocrites.
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Old 04-15-2013, 10:42 PM
 
Location: Lone Star State to Peach State
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My husband.
He tells it like it is, and has an odd sense of humor.
I know I have been cut out by things he has said to them.
This is why I have more friends on my own than he has on his own.
Together we have about 3 couple friends.
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Old 04-16-2013, 07:01 AM
 
Location: USA
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Oh yeah... typical of those "born again Christians", isn't it? Such hypocrites.
By all means....FEEL FREE to stereotype an entire group based on the actions of *one* person.
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