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Old 08-16-2012, 12:08 AM
 
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I have my 10 year high school reunion coming up in a few weeks. While I won't be able to attend, because I live half way around the country, I saw the FB list of all of my peers attending and I started the FB stalking...

All of the girls I had crushes on in high school are taken. Most are married, many with kids. All of the cool and popular guys I wanted to be like had beautiful girls in their profile picture, had impressive work titles like "Director of Sponsorships" or "Senior Project Manager." No one that was attractive got fat. Most that were socially awkward, still looked socially awkward. The nerds still seemed like nerds and the jocks still seemed successful.

I'm single. No kids. Moved out to LA two years ago and work as a marketing guy at a music venue. I make $50k year. I have a fun life, but definitely want to accomplish more.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is that looking at all of these profiles of my old classmates, who had the exact same amount of time I had after high school, I feel so unsuccessful and kinda like I wasted my 20s. Are these normal feelings? Did anyone else experience this?
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Old 08-16-2012, 09:57 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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I think that the 10 year reunion is the worst one. A lot of people need more than 10 years to finish college and get set in a career and to find the "love of their life". By the 20 or 30 year reunion people are more established. Some of the early achievers will have even "crashed and burned" and some of the earlier "happy marriages" have ended.

Don't worry about it. Don't compare yourself to others (who may even be exaggerating on FB). Enjoy your life at your pace.
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Old 08-16-2012, 07:25 PM
 
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I have my 10 year high school reunion coming up in a few weeks. While I won't be able to attend, because I live half way around the country, I saw the FB list of all of my peers attending and I started the FB stalking...

All of the girls I had crushes on in high school are taken. Most are married, many with kids. All of the cool and popular guys I wanted to be like had beautiful girls in their profile picture, had impressive work titles like "Director of Sponsorships" or "Senior Project Manager." No one that was attractive got fat. Most that were socially awkward, still looked socially awkward. The nerds still seemed like nerds and the jocks still seemed successful.

I'm single. No kids. Moved out to LA two years ago and work as a marketing guy at a music venue. I make $50k year. I have a fun life, but definitely want to accomplish more.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is that looking at all of these profiles of my old classmates, who had the exact same amount of time I had after high school, I feel so unsuccessful and kinda like I wasted my 20s. Are these normal feelings? Did anyone else experience this?
sounds like the total reverse of my 10 year reunion. All the Jocks w/fat and bald and basically losers, all the hot chicks were either fat and/or pregnant...I on the other hand had used those 10 years to my advantage... any of us with any brains bailed out of town and never looked back...
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Old 08-17-2012, 04:42 AM
 
Location: "Daytonnati"
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I went to mine and it was sort of awkward (mine was in 1987, before FB, etc)...the thing I thought was neat was that the people I thought were hoods or tough kids turned out OK. I overheard one girl say 'even the nerds are looking good'. So at 10 years....yeah we were all young adults back then still, prime of our lives, and things were looking up mostly....

But that was then and this is now.

25 years on from the 10 year reunion, I got on FB recently and found my HS site, and I think I posted elsewhere here that I didnt recognize anybody. Names sounded familiar, but they are all grizzled old rednecks or big haired country gals now. Realize I had nothing in common with these folks in HS and have even less in common with them now.

My life went in a radically different path, but they lead what I'd call normal lives. Fine with that but no reason to connect with them anymore.
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Old 08-17-2012, 11:31 AM
 
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Don't waste your time. Even more so, because there is FB. I have heard that, at the 10, it's all about putting on airs. Fortunately, a flight from Atlanta back to LA wasn't worth it for me, so I didn't go. I did go to the 20, and quite a few a-holes were in attendance but, at least, I was back on the West Coast by then. I found it disappointing that a Catholic HS could be so chock-full of a-holes. The apathy level at that school was legendary because there were 225 seniors who were so splintered, even when we were going to school. They barely got the 80 cut-off needed for the 20 year to get the hotel ballroom. They no longer have my address and I'm not on the HS FB page, so this is a closed chapter.
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Old 08-17-2012, 11:56 PM
 
Location: Montgomery County, MD
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My 10 yr was not too long ago and I skipped it. There were maybe 3 girls out of a hundred I would nail soberly and my good friends werent there. Don't see a point in being around people who I was stuck with for 4 years. I think having all the girls be busted played a big part, if there were some hotties, I'd have gone.
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Old 08-18-2012, 12:49 AM
 
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I have my 10 year high school reunion coming up in a few weeks. While I won't be able to attend, because I live half way around the country, I saw the FB list of all of my peers attending and I started the FB stalking...

All of the girls I had crushes on in high school are taken. Most are married, many with kids. All of the cool and popular guys I wanted to be like had beautiful girls in their profile picture, had impressive work titles like "Director of Sponsorships" or "Senior Project Manager." No one that was attractive got fat. Most that were socially awkward, still looked socially awkward. The nerds still seemed like nerds and the jocks still seemed successful.

I'm single. No kids. Moved out to LA two years ago and work as a marketing guy at a music venue. I make $50k year. I have a fun life, but definitely want to accomplish more.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is that looking at all of these profiles of my old classmates, who had the exact same amount of time I had after high school, I feel so unsuccessful and kinda like I wasted my 20s. Are these normal feelings? Did anyone else experience this?
I guess it depends on how one defines success. I don't believe in classes of people or the American dream. I also don't believe the way to happiness is only when laced with "success" like a beautiful spouse or an impressive business title. Happiness comes from within. I never climbed a corporate ladder or owned my own company or made a lot of money. My wife will never be mistaken for a Playboy Playmate and we're going to have a very meager retirement. Rather than European vacations we slip to the coast for a few days in a cheap condo for $65/night.

But ya know what? I 'm 50 pounds overweight, we're very happy and satisfied and love each other dearly. I'd say that makes me a huge success where it counts most.
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Old 08-18-2012, 01:50 AM
 
Location: North Texas
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I skipped my 10 year reunion; I don't care what 95% of my old classmates are up to. I only kept in touch with the ones I liked but I try not to torture myself by constantly comparing myself to them.
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Old 08-19-2012, 07:52 PM
 
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I didn't go to my 10 year reunion

I didn't go to my 20 year reunion

And the 30 year is coming up and I'm not going to it either simply because I don't care. Of all my current friends, I went to school with '0' of them.The irony of it all is most of my former classmates who have friend requested me on FB are the very ones I didn't talk to in HS.
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Old 08-19-2012, 11:41 PM
 
Location: Oakland, CA
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I went to mine. It was pretty funny. Some of the people that ignored me (and I really had no opinion on) came to congratulate me on my success, and apologize for being mean. But I seriously didn't remember interacting with them, which makes it even more hilarious.

Anyway, it was like the stereotype. But there were some great stories.....like the guy who became a gay porn star. And the valedictorian disappeared off the face of the planet to a reservation in Arizona..... and the jock that everyone liked basically became even more perfect. (In high school he was like the ultimate catch: tall, blond, handsome, football player, wrestler and he sung in the glee club which just got him more girls.) He went to John Hopkins for med school and just got better looking. Hahaha.

The best thing was I got to reconnect with my high school best friend, and we are back to being good friends!
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