gift for my grandchild living with her cousin(not related to me) (person, present)

[mmmrr]

Finding myself in awkward situation; my son's daughter (was living with her maternal grandmother as my son not presently able to care for her/ her mother died when she was 3). Grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year, and her ex-son-in-law took my granddaughter(age 10) in as he cares for his own daughter (age 12). I have not been given access to call her but am able to send a Christmas gift. I have bought a few small gifts for the girls to share, but also wanted to give my granddaughter some books and $50 gift certificate as when she went to live with her cousin did not take many of her belongings and feel she may need or want some things that were not provided. I don't know if they are given equal gifts by the family there and I don't want to do the wrong thing by giving my granddaughter some extra gifts. They are a large extended family living in Florida I just have the one son and granddaughter. I must send gifts in the next few days to get there by Xmas Would welcome advice asap -thanks

[Mattie]

I see nothing wrong with your plan. You aren't ignoring the other girl, but are recognizing that your granddaughter may have needs above and beyond what she is being provided. I'd send gifts to both, and include something extra in a card to the granddaughter.

[tottsieanna]

Go ahead and send your granddaughter the gift. Sounds like you are a very thoughtful person.

[xPlorer48]

Bless you for your kindness. I hope you will be able to visit someday.

[mmmrr]

Thanks to all of you. That is exactly what I am doing. Now if Amazon will cooperate - they are already late with one of the books - 2 day shipping NOT! Yet they say it was delivered in my mailbox NOT! Now my favorite part- wrapping the gifts.