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Old 10-03-2012, 04:58 PM
 
Location: Northern NH
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I don't know if this is a gift or a curse, but, I find many many people just totally open up to me. I have lots of people tell me in a short verbal exchange that their parent, spouse or loved one is an alchoholic or that they are in an abusive relationship. I have co-workers just that I don't know well start telling me how their step father sexually abused them and I'm pretty surprised at how much he spilled out to me. I guess I really don't mind at all and I try and be loving and caring and offer good advice and tell them to get some proper help. This happens to me at least three or four times a week....anybody else experience this
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:47 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn,NY
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I don't know if this is a gift or a curse, but, I find many many people just totally open up to me. I have lots of people tell me in a short verbal exchange that their parent, spouse or loved one is an alchoholic or that they are in an abusive relationship. I have co-workers just that I don't know well start telling me how their step father sexually abused them and I'm pretty surprised at how much he spilled out to me. I guess I really don't mind at all and I try and be loving and caring and offer good advice and tell them to get some proper help. This happens to me at least three or four times a week....anybody else experience this
I often get this as well, And people seem comfortable with me for the most part. It's usually typical stuff about their problems, And less often deep secrets. part of this phenomenon is that they are less worried about a stranger of someone not close to them making judgements I think.

I never repeat things with what they tell me though. I value privacy highly so I apply this for that situation. Not a gossip person.
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Old 10-03-2012, 05:49 PM
 
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Yes, I have had strangers tell me all kinds of deep stuff. That happens a few times a week.
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Old 10-03-2012, 06:33 PM
 
Location: Somewhere out there...
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I don't know if this is a gift or a curse, but, I find many many people just totally open up to me. I have lots of people tell me in a short verbal exchange that their parent, spouse or loved one is an alchoholic or that they are in an abusive relationship. I have co-workers just that I don't know well start telling me how their step father sexually abused them and I'm pretty surprised at how much he spilled out to me. I guess I really don't mind at all and I try and be loving and caring and offer good advice and tell them to get some proper help. This happens to me at least three or four times a week....anybody else experience this
This has been my burden for years, maybe I'm too nice to ignore them, they start unloading their whole life and I don't really care, but I'm dumb enough to listen.
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Old 10-03-2012, 06:54 PM
 
Location: Austin
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I don't know if this is a gift or a curse, but, I find many many people just totally open up to me. I have lots of people tell me in a short verbal exchange that their parent, spouse or loved one is an alchoholic or that they are in an abusive relationship. I have co-workers just that I don't know well start telling me how their step father sexually abused them and I'm pretty surprised at how much he spilled out to me. I guess I really don't mind at all and I try and be loving and caring and offer good advice and tell them to get some proper help. This happens to me at least three or four times a week....anybody else experience this
All the time. People are always telling me I'm easy to talk to and that they feel better after talking to me- even people I don't know. It can be exhausting sometimes but I leave that vibe open to people.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:25 PM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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This has been my burden for years, maybe I'm too nice to ignore them, they start unloading their whole life and I don't really care, but I'm dumb enough to listen.
Me too. It seems I'm always the one people are coming to with their problems lol.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:30 PM
 
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Offtopic: I also have animals that do not belong to me follow me and befriend me.

I wear earbuds in public when I want to be left alone because unwanted confessions wear me out.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:31 PM
 
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Absolutely; it used to happen constantly. Then I realized that people I don't even know were confiding some of their most personal stories to me. It became draining- to the point I realized I didn't want people laying their trips on me anymore. (Some of the stuff they'd confess was much too disturbing)
So now I put on my ice cold ***** face in public. It doesn't happen as often anymore, thank God
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:48 PM
 
Location: Yucaipa, California
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For some reason strangers or people i barely know tell me about their personel life (in person/face to face). Im a good listener but i rarely give advice even when asked.
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Old 10-03-2012, 10:19 PM
 
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Nothing that personal but I do get people who like to be chatty with me. I'm usually just very agreeable and I think I have that look about me.
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