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Crap happened last night. This "friend"...(I dunno if I can really call him that anymore or if he was just always trying to use me and screw me over) and I went to a club last night with his cousin and we got really drunk. I was also very drunk but very able to control myself and remember important details well. Before I got drunk, I remember very clearly 110% that I gave him $140 which was my share for the large bottle of Jack Daniels. We got our drink and started drinking. Aren't we supposed to pay for it fully first and then our drink??? I even saw the bartender give him the bill and seeing him pay.
What happened later in the night was, maybe it's because I'm so inexperienced with getting drunk or clubbing, he decided to tell me that there was $30 missing from my share. Was he trying to take advantage of my drunkness and get more money out of me or what??? He tried to pull from behind so we can fight or something, or make me pay..it wasn't really hard I think he was just trying to scare me. The bartender even told me there was $30 missing and when I asked her how much was in his share, she pretty much said she didn't care how much was in who's share. She just care that there was $30 missing. I dunno if she was taking advantage of my drunkness too. My "buddy" and his cousin pretty much left before I had asked her, cuz he was mad at me that I wouldn't pay.
I ended up leaving easily on my own, finding a taxi and everything all while drunk. I didn't even end up paying what I didn't believe I owed. What do you guys think of this situation? Was he trying to use me??
Crap happened last night. This "friend"...(I dunno if I can really call him that anymore or if he was just always trying to use me and screw me over) and I went to a club last night with his cousin and we got really drunk. I was also very drunk but very able to control myself and remember important details well. Before I got drunk, I remember very clearly 110% that I gave him $140 which was my share for the large bottle of Jack Daniels. We got our drink and started drinking. Aren't we supposed to pay for it fully first and then our drink??? I even saw the bartender give him the bill and seeing him pay.
What happened later in the night was, maybe it's because I'm so inexperienced with getting drunk or clubbing, he decided to tell me that there was $30 missing from my share. Was he trying to take advantage of my drunkness and get more money out of me or what??? He tried to pull from behind so we can fight or something, or make me pay..it wasn't really hard I think he was just trying to scare me. The bartender even told me there was $30 missing and when I asked her how much was in his share, she pretty much said she didn't care how much was in who's share. She just care that there was $30 missing. I dunno if she was taking advantage of my drunkness too. My "buddy" and his cousin pretty much left before I had asked her, cuz he was mad at me that I wouldn't pay.
I ended up leaving easily on my own, finding a taxi and everything all while drunk. I didn't even end up paying what I didn't believe I owed. What do you guys think of this situation? Was he trying to use me??
Multi-part suggestion:
1) Don't drink so much.
2) Hang with a better class of friends.
3) Remember that, when everybody is drunk, nobody remembers what happened to the money.
4) Never trust a bartender to give you correct change.
It could have been he either miscalculated because he was drinking or misplaced the money because he was drunk and didn't realize it. Which still doesn't make it right, but in his mind, he may have thought you didn't pay the correct amount.
As for the bartender, she's just dealing with the total bill so I can see her reaction. I worked as a waitress in a bar for awhile. Unless someone asks for separate tabs, people who work at a bar don't know or care who owes what, they just have to ensure the tab is paid. And it's really not their business or their job to keep track of what the customers owe each other for a shared tab. It's hard enough making sure everyone is served promptly and their orders are correct on a busy night.
I would wait and see if he apologizes for accusing you of not paying your fair share. If he doesn't, do you need to see him again (classes, work or mutual friends)? If yes, then I'd let him know you didn't appreciate being accused of not paying your fair share. If no, you can either confront him or just drop him as a friend, it's up to you.
Even if he does apologize, I'd watch the behavior going forward. I'd suggest non-alcoholic activities like movies or activities where alcohol is less of a factor, such as dinner. If he behaves well, then maybe another bar or nightclub trip, but I'd stay away from places with table/bottle service and stick to places with a regular bar. You can run separate tabs or take turns buying rounds.
1) Don't drink so much.
2) Hang with a better class of friends.
3) Remember that, when everybody is drunk, nobody remembers what happened to the money.
4) Never trust a bartender to give you correct change.
Best answer. One of the symptoms of having too much on a night out is a mush lighter wallet then expected. I might suggest an envelope with a budget of what you can expect to spend. That's your cash for the night. That runs out-Nights over. Have a separate trans fund to get home if applicable. Because "one More" on a night out esp when young does not mean that. Be safe.
$140 for a bottle of Jack Daniels??? Are you joking?
I'm not sure how old you are but I'm guessing fairly young so take this however you'd like....
Don't spend too much time clubbing and drinking. It is a road that leads nowhere, and fast. Forget about the money, forgive your friend and carry on with a life well lived.
Maybe I'm stupid, but I still don't understand what happened, except that you and your buddies skipped out on paying the full bill. Of course, i think I'm still ok with being my kinda stupid, simply because I'd never actually pony up $140 for PART of a bottle of booze.
Is it too much to hope that you might use this incident, however insignificant, to re-evaluate your priorities?
Here's my advice -- if you have the kind of money that $140 is nothing, and you can afford a taxi, then what's $30 more? Do you really want to risk loing your drinking buddies over a mere $30?
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