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Old 09-29-2013, 03:27 PM
 
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Isn't it funny that most people in a country that prides itself on being independent can't stand being alone?
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Old 10-03-2013, 02:32 PM
 
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I'm an introvert. Nothing wrong with it. I don't like small talk, drama, or pointless conversations. I prefer to talk to people who can teach me something or tell me something interesting. I also don't mind teaching people in return, or helping them. I'm not just one sided.

When they start telling me about what their friends did or how their family is doing, I zone out and can care less. It's made dating a bit rough, giving the perception I don't care. Truthfully, I don't care.

I also don't share my thoughts as much, show emotions, etc. When people ask me about myself - I just say a basic one liner. When they ask what I'm like growing up, I really don't answer or say much.
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Old 10-03-2013, 02:35 PM
 
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Isn't it funny that most people in a country that prides itself on being independent can't stand being alone?
Humans are not designed to be alone by nature. We need some emotion/social interaction. It's natural to us.

Being independent can mean financially and emotionally. Meaning we can be friends, but no emotional attachment if they are no longer in our lives.
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Old 10-03-2013, 06:14 PM
 
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I hate socializing. I don't care about you or your life.
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Old 10-03-2013, 06:25 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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Humans are not designed to be alone by nature. We need some emotion/social interaction. It's natural to us.

Being independent can mean financially and emotionally. Meaning we can be friends, but no emotional attachment if they are no longer in our lives.
I really don't believe this. In a hunter/gatherer society a solitary individual can do quite well. Do you ever wonder why, when very old skeletons are discovered by archaeologists there is rarely more than one or two found at a time?

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Old 10-03-2013, 06:27 PM
 
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Isn't it funny that most people in a country that prides itself on being independent can't stand being alone?
I don't think independence should result in loneliness.

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I hate socializing. I don't care about you or your life.
That is cool but is that the only possible outcome of socializing? I thought one aspect of socializing was to get to know the people around you which, to me, is not the same as caring or "liking."
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Old 10-05-2013, 05:26 AM
 
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I also can relate to the whole "fake friend" thing. You may be a sensitive being who can easily see through people and their intentions. You don't like manipulation, and you can spot it a mile away....that is what puts you into disgust mode. I have cut off a lot of people because of this.....a lot of these same people cannot understand why they have been cut off...and it's even hard for me to explain why I cut them off...but deep down inside, I know it is because I see the negative traits in a person that they don't even see in themselves. If I can give any advice, it would be this:
I guess there are a lot of unassertive people out there who just can't assert themselves properly, say what they want, and be open and honest - There happy to be passive aggressive, fake friendly, backstabbing - and at same time cannot handle anyone else asserting themselves and attempt to crush other people attempts at asserting their goals, desires etc. You can't have an honest conversation with these people.

There happy to spend their time around people they hate and oppose, and play a sort of frenemy game for most of their lives.
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Old 10-05-2013, 07:28 AM
 
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That is cool but is that the only possible outcome of socializing? I thought one aspect of socializing was to get to know the people around you which, to me, is not the same as caring or "liking."
I don't care enough to get to know you. Socializing is pretty much saying that you will invest your time because I care enough to know you. There are other ways to do that without socializing.
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Old 10-06-2013, 06:01 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I don't care enough to get to know you. Socializing is pretty much saying that you will invest your time because I care enough to know you. There are other ways to do that without socializing.
Most people are a pain in the azz. I have a few select friends that I have known for a long time, people that I can count on. Not to mension family. Thats enough for me. People cant be trusted nowdays.
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Old 10-07-2013, 12:48 AM
 
Location: Europe, in the Land of the mean
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Lots of nice, deep, non-fake people around here
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