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Well done, honesty is one of the "six core values"
we should all carry on with.
Btw, I love your hello hello / goodbye 'Getaway phrase", it works for me,
I'll have to remember some tonight, lol.
Practice makes perfect! Picture yourself saying them...they will just slide off your tongue
like you were as charming as George Clooney saying it!
America has to learn, to stop interfering in the lives of others....
i.e. I get up at 4 a.m., and at work we have a work your hours system...
so, people ask me, with a face, "What the heck time do you get up?" When I tell them, they act as if I'm some alien....and then talk about it, like I've just committed a crime. that is the sickness in people....
they are incapable of allowing others their belief systems and life styles, if it doesn't align with theirs.
I've gotten up early all my life....and love the quiet of early morning before sun rise, when the moon, is sinking to the west and the sun is awakening in the east....so what, so, that makes me a bad person.
I swear, the gossip in America is pathetic....people know more about the stars, or dancing with the stars, then they do their own political system.
I always look foreward to evening, especially late when most people have called it a day and might watch the ten oclock news. I'm just reving up. I love writing and when its dead of night its the best time. Everything is quiet, and its dark and the energies are awesome. I am a dedicated loner and introvert, and don't have anyone I'd call a good friend where I live. But I have friends scattered around who like to talk on the phone. Yes, I can talk for four, five hours. But that's with people I've known for years and its just as good as being in the same room. And I used to go to the street faire (where I used to live) where I knew one of the merchants (she did henna tattoos). But the energy of the crowd was so comfortable. Few crowds are like that. Most are too full of anger and impatience and pushyness. I like distance.
I sit back and watch everyone hurry to nowhere, and worry about how other people see them, and that their 'stuff' is acceptable. But they'll never see the moon as the sky lightens and feel its beauty or appreciate what they have and so I figure those of us who don't buy into that are actually the lucky ones.
I always look foreward to evening, especially late when most people have called it a day and might watch the ten oclock news. I'm just reving up. I love writing and when its dead of night its the best time. Everything is quiet, and its dark and the energies are awesome. I am a dedicated loner and introvert, and don't have anyone I'd call a good friend where I live. But I have friends scattered around who like to talk on the phone. Yes, I can talk for four, five hours. But that's with people I've known for years and its just as good as being in the same room. And I used to go to the street faire (where I used to live) where I knew one of the merchants (she did henna tattoos). But the energy of the crowd was so comfortable. Few crowds are like that. Most are too full of anger and impatience and pushyness. I like distance.
I sit back and watch everyone hurry to nowhere, and worry about how other people see them, and that their 'stuff' is acceptable. But they'll never see the moon as the sky lightens and feel its beauty or appreciate what they have and so I figure those of us who don't buy into that are actually the lucky ones.
that was a beautiful post....nice to read, thank you....I feel the same way about early morning...it is lovely...and BTW, I get to see the moon as well... while it's getting ready to go to sleep. lol
used to go to the Bahamas by myself, and loved it...those sunsets are to die for....
Right now, both my cousin and I, (and we didn't plan this) are purging toxic people from our lives...I cannot handle the stress any longer, nor do I want to....
At one point in my life I was truly a workaholic had a few close friends..after 21 yrs I ended my marriage after being blindsided. Unfortunately I miss the flow of 2 children,who have gone on to live with their girlfriends, and the reassurances of a husband in my life.
I am still a loner but such a dramatic change while caregiver to both parents,1 having passed now... I found myself okay for 3 or 4 days and then suddenly lonesome and uncertain of my purpose. An interaction with old friends once helped but I see through alot of that and realized them validating themselves came at my expense. Hurtful comments and demands about coordinating their calendars with mine became about them,with subtle inuendos about what I should be doing. Eliminated all of that and have no regrets. I do get a high being myself with strangers as an exchange takes place...it's short brief and over when you get into your car. Lengthy exposures to infrequent gatherings leave me exhausted and relieved it's over.
I am truly an empath and literally feel everyones joy or pain which is a gift but exhausting.
Can't decide how I am going to get back to my happy place. Don't think I can comprise and still grieving my dad's death and the death of a complacent marriage.
Shocked that after living thru 18 yrs single, intentionally and wanting/needing me time that those feelings aren't like then. Suppose having 3 men in the house and the support system you become dependant on is a major shock to the body, blows my mind that the old mindset isn't kicking right in. 60 and single appears to take another slant on things big time. No trouble attracting men, my personality is contagious just can't decide which way to turn . Maybe my point is age and the wisdom to see through the bull can place you in another dilemma, once an introvert when time allowed is not necessarily a good thing over the course of a lifetime. Any thoughts? Forgive any autocorrect issues,cell phones have so little space to view the bit your typing.. so not proofreading is easier then losing entire note with one wrong keystroke!
I very much enjoy being alone, but not all of the time. I love my family and family gatherings. My sisters and one brother are my best friends and they're all I need to fulfill the friendship "gap" that is pretty much acquaintances in life that I sometimes do see.
I can't stand phony people or people that put on airs. I was married for 21 years, so I don't miss that. I've come to a point in my life that I'm just happy with what I have and the people that love me and have always had my back and I theirs.
I was trying to work in my yard this summer and my neighbors kept taking me from my work. I eventually had to cut them off because they're more than annoying. I love when they go away to their other home!
Yes, I like being alone. I never became too fond of people. There's too many followers trying as hard as they can to be average. What a waste of a life and what a bore to talk to. But what really makes most people annoying is the hostility towards anyone who isn't "normal." Sheep aren't content unless everyone else is a sheep. Everything needs to be as boring and average as possible, which is why it's so pointless to try to converse with them about anything that isn't the weather, sports, dating/sex, drinking, or the latest youtube video.
While I love being alone, there is one bad thing that comes with it. Most people are so insecure that minding your own business is an insult to them. When you look genuinely comfortable by yourself that's when it irks the followers the most. They'll try to find something "wrong" with you (because who in their right mind doesn't want to talk about nothing of substance, right?!?), and if they don't find anything then they'll get confused, mad, or even scared of you. And heaven forbid you excel at something, because then they'll never stop trying to "befriend" you (read: fake friends), especially when you make it known that you want to be left alone.
I guess this goes back to why I never liked people that much in the first place. I've overheard people talking bad about me and then come to my face, smile, and expect me to open up to them. Then go away and continue their ****-talking about how wrong it is that I'm so antisocial.
Yes, I like being alone. I never became too fond of people. There's too many followers trying as hard as they can to be average. What a waste of a life and what a bore to talk to. But what really makes most people annoying is the hostility towards anyone who isn't "normal." Sheep aren't content unless everyone else is a sheep. Everything needs to be as boring and average as possible, which is why it's so pointless to try to converse with them about anything that isn't the weather, sports, dating/sex, drinking, or the latest youtube video.
While I love being alone, there is one bad thing that comes with it. Most people are so insecure that minding your own business is an insult to them. When you look genuinely comfortable by yourself that's when it irks the followers the most. They'll try to find something "wrong" with you (because who in their right mind doesn't want to talk about nothing of substance, right?!?), and if they don't find anything then they'll get confused, mad, or even scared of you. And heaven forbid you excel at something, because then they'll never stop trying to "befriend" you (read: fake friends), especially when you make it known that you want to be left alone.
I guess this goes back to why I never liked people that much in the first place. I've overheard people talking bad about me and then come to my face, smile, and expect me to open up to them. Then go away and continue their ****-talking about how wrong it is that I'm so antisocial.
Excellent and so true.....
I rise early in the morning and go to bed early, but when someone hears me say that, they look at me like I'm nuts. Most people do not have the ability to crayon outside the lines.
I often get accused of being anti social or keeping myself to myself - I enjoy chatting to someone if there is a purpose to the conversation, I enjoy doing a sport with other people, or a party, a wedding - having passing conversations etc with people at work - but not sitting down for lunch everyday making small talk when I could be surfing the net or reading an interesting book.
I Find that after an hour or so with a person - I pretty much know what there all about, their attitudes, personality, what type of things there going to say - They become predictable/boring to me, and any further conversation is unnecessary unless I am interested in talking further - I feel like I can read them like a book quite quickly.
To be honest I find too much close contact with other people annoying - as soon you get too close to them at some level there trying impose themselves on you, use you, intrude on you, manipulate you, control you - get information on you, find a weakness or just generally annoy you and take out their frustrations on you. They will start of friendly and then push and push to see what they can get away with.
I find that many people who have lots of friends, people at work they socialize with, are in fact surrounded by frenemies but they remain friends for the social contacts etc - and they are just mutually using each other.
Its not that I don't like other people, I just like to keep it at a distance and enjoy my own space. I am polite and friendly as possible.
I realize this is limiting me, and my potential - therefore I need to make friends with people I genuinely interested in, like and not just tolerate.
Man look, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone. If you're not social, own that; embrace it even. I love the true friends that I have, and they're understanding of me needing to be solo at times. The irony is that I feel the same way you do. Most people get close to you to see what they can get out of you. This is why you have to build a wall of some sort. Read people, give them the 3rd degree and any slight discomfort about a person's presence, x them out immediately.
I often get accused of being anti social or keeping myself to myself - I enjoy chatting to someone if there is a purpose to the conversation, I enjoy doing a sport with other people, or a party, a wedding - having passing conversations etc with people at work - but not sitting down for lunch everyday making small talk when I could be surfing the net or reading an interesting book.
I Find that after an hour or so with a person - I pretty much know what there all about, their attitudes, personality, what type of things there going to say - They become predictable/boring to me, and any further conversation is unnecessary unless I am interested in talking further - I feel like I can read them like a book quite quickly.
To be honest I find too much close contact with other people annoying - as soon you get too close to them at some level there trying impose themselves on you, use you, intrude on you, manipulate you, control you - get information on you, find a weakness or just generally annoy you and take out their frustrations on you. They will start of friendly and then push and push to see what they can get away with.
I find that many people who have lots of friends, people at work they socialise with, are in fact surrounded by frenemies but they remain friends for the social contacts etc - and they are just mutually using each other.
Its not that I don't like other people, I just like to keep it at a distance and enjoy my own space. I am polite and friendly as possible.
I realize this is limiting me, and my potential - therefore I need to make friends with people I genuinely interested in, like and not just tolerate.
You aren't anti-social you just haven't found the right person to talk to.
I don’t like social situations because I feel most “groups” of friends have an hierarchy where the “leader” must be cow towed to in various ways. I’m horribly independent and resent feeling like I must act a certain way to please the “leader”. I am more comfortable around men (less Scheming, gossiping and drama in general) so this usually annoys the queen bee in some way. I’ve always been a Tom boy and enjoy talking about building things or philosophying or whatever. Don’t have kids so the endless hours of “Bella did this and Bella went to Disney and look at these photos of Bella...” are just too much for me. It’s like people who have kids cease to have any life of their own. Also people love to complain endlessly and if you offer a solution they get an expression of exasperation and say “yeah I don’t know”. Exhausting. Also if you do meet someone who is willing to share something about themselves it’s usually just them trying to impress you with their accomplishments or possessions. Boring!
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