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Old 10-29-2012, 01:42 PM
 
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I'm not a regretting type of person, it isn't productive. I'm more a learning one, gained knowledge is useful.
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Old 10-31-2012, 07:40 AM
 
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How do you handle past regrets?

I married someone years ago that I knew I shouldn't have, but I did it anyway because I didn't know what else to do. Actually I was too afraid to say how I really felt.

I wasn't a kid, I was 30.

That's just one of things I regret and wish I could change. There are many.

People will say that you learn from mistakes but it seems like I just keep making these mistakes.

I have accepted jobs that I knew I didn't want. And failed miserably at them. I had jobs that started out good but then changed. I should have left but felts "trapped" and stayed until I was finally laid off with everyone else.

I do think of people like Arnold Schwarzenegger, who had a marriage and family, but never let anyone get close. Plus, he cheated on Maria. Now at 65 he is getting a divorce. If he didn't make those mistakes with those women, and if he had let Maria get close to him, he could still be married and enjoying his family.

Of course, I'm not Arnold or anything, but it just makes me see that anyone can make a big mistake.

My question to you, if how to handle these life mistakes? Losing someone you really love, giving up a child, giving up on a career, friends, family, whatever.

I mean, how do you go on and be ok with life and what's happened in yours?
Self examination goes a long way. Ask yourself what, at the core, contributed to these situations and make the necessary changes. Accept that you were who/what you were back then and work on forgiving yourself. I don't think you can if you haven't actually made those changes. Both are liberating.
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Old 11-01-2012, 01:21 PM
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Location: Phoenix,AZ
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I've made mistakes and learned from them.

My only regrets are the people that I've told.
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Old 11-01-2012, 01:42 PM
 
Location: Mammoth Lakes, CA
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How to handle these life mistakes? Losing someone you really love, giving up a child, giving up on a career, friends, family, whatever.
Everyone in life makes mistakes. There's no exception to this. While it's true some people make HUGE mistakes, everyone regrets some things in life. The trick is: move on and don't regret the past, it's a total waste of time.
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Old 11-01-2012, 09:42 PM
 
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You have to quit making the same mistakes because you're supposed to learn from your mistakes.

The problem with regrets is that you really cannot go back into the past and change anything. And what you did that was a mistake probably seemed right or at least at the time, it was further knowledge that proved it wasn't. Hindsight is 20-20 they say. And someone else maybe have done the exact same thing and had it work out - so really there's no real point in regretting, life is too short for that.
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