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Old 10-26-2012, 12:01 PM
 
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I was talking to this guy who lived 3 hours away and we were going to hit the 1 week of knowing each other mark. But since I had a bad day yesturday and told the guy I felt worthless and not worth his time he took that seriously and said I was pushing him away and was hurting him. So he stopped talking to me altogether.

Another problem is my mom keeps bugging me to go out and get a job. BUT here's the thing I GOT NO EXPERIENCE I have OLD retail experience that was a week to 2 months long and is from years ago.

Now I just got magazine writing experience and since I don't got a degree no higher quality magazine or newspaper is even going to look my way no matter the amount of experience I have there.

So I pretty much give up on life. I have applied and tried time and time again with dating guys and applying for work etc. And nothing is coming up right I think positive and happy but still nothing works.
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Old 10-26-2012, 12:58 PM
 
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You'll never get anywhere by just thinking happy, positive thoughts. You have to go out and DO SOMETHING.

Are you afraid of rejection or just afraid of work?
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Old 10-26-2012, 01:21 PM
 
Location: Wonderland
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You're grown, right? Do you think that any well rounded, adult male is going to be interested in someone who isn't working, doesn't even try to find a job, is living at home and has bouts of depression? How many red flags can you wave in the air at one time?

Get up, get a job - ANY JOB - get out of that house. Get a physical and see if you need to be on some sort of meds to handle your depression. My hunch is that your depression is a NORMAL reaction, though, to a life that is simply not developing. No one can do this for you. You have to take charge of your life yourself.

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Old 10-26-2012, 01:33 PM
 
Location: Austin, TX
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What magazine could you possibly write for?
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Old 10-27-2012, 02:56 PM
 
Location: USA
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I was talking to this guy who lived 3 hours away and we were going to hit the 1 week of knowing each other mark. But since I had a bad day yesturday and told the guy I felt worthless and not worth his time he took that seriously and said I was pushing him away and was hurting him. So he stopped talking to me altogether.

Another problem is my mom keeps bugging me to go out and get a job. BUT here's the thing I GOT NO EXPERIENCE I have OLD retail experience that was a week to 2 months long and is from years ago.

Now I just got magazine writing experience and since I don't got a degree no higher quality magazine or newspaper is even going to look my way no matter the amount of experience I have there.

So I pretty much give up on life. I have applied and tried time and time again with dating guys and applying for work etc. And nothing is coming up right I think positive and happy but still nothing works.
You can get some experience by volunteering. People can usually get hired at nursing homes to be nurse aides.....get certified as a CNA and you can get a job...good luck
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Old 10-29-2012, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Austin
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I was talking to this guy who lived 3 hours away and we were going to hit the 1 week of knowing each other mark. But since I had a bad day yesturday and told the guy I felt worthless and not worth his time he took that seriously and said I was pushing him away and was hurting him. So he stopped talking to me altogether.

Another problem is my mom keeps bugging me to go out and get a job. BUT here's the thing I GOT NO EXPERIENCE I have OLD retail experience that was a week to 2 months long and is from years ago.

Now I just got magazine writing experience and since I don't got a degree no higher quality magazine or newspaper is even going to look my way no matter the amount of experience I have there.

So I pretty much give up on life. I have applied and tried time and time again with dating guys and applying for work etc. And nothing is coming up right I think positive and happy but still nothing works.
When you tell a guy you hardly know or even one you really know that you feel worthless and not worth his time it's a red flag. Unless he has the savior mentality it's going to turn him off. As for the job thing, don't be picky. Take any job. Also try a temp agency. These won't be glamorous jobs but they will give you money and experience. Try school. University, community college, trade school- something. Oh and you sound depressed. Get help for that.
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Old 10-29-2012, 09:26 AM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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You have a lot of good suggestions on here and it's imperative that you take heed. Taking care of your depression will assist you in making decisions and getting out from the trap you've made for yourself. You cannot live off your parents forever. Doing so traps them as well as yourself. One of my friends has a 29-yr-old daughter at home who's never wanted to work, but she couldn't bring herself to push the girl out the door. Now she's raising a grandchild as well.
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Old 10-29-2012, 09:35 AM
 
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you seem too negative..... just stop being so hard on your self. life is hard enough. keep trying and one day your get it right.
may god bless you and see let you see that you are not worthless.
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Old 10-29-2012, 02:44 PM
 
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I was talking to this guy who lived 3 hours away and we were going to hit the 1 week of knowing each other mark. But since I had a bad day yesturday and told the guy I felt worthless and not worth his time he took that seriously and said I was pushing him away and was hurting him. So he stopped talking to me altogether.

Another problem is my mom keeps bugging me to go out and get a job. BUT here's the thing I GOT NO EXPERIENCE I have OLD retail experience that was a week to 2 months long and is from years ago.

Now I just got magazine writing experience and since I don't got a degree no higher quality magazine or newspaper is even going to look my way no matter the amount of experience I have there.

So I pretty much give up on life. I have applied and tried time and time again with dating guys and applying for work etc. And nothing is coming up right I think positive and happy but still nothing works.
Why would you tell him you are worthless and not worth his time if you wanted to keep talking with him? What did you expect him to do? Were you just playing some game, expecting he would heap praise on you for saying that?

I agree with others who suggest getting any job. Retail and magazines aren't all that's out there. Start with that. A job will make you a more interesting person, even to yourself. If you are productive and doing something with yourself, you won't feel as worthless and wouldn't be so apt to inform others of your worthlessness. If you really can't find a paying job, then volunteer with something.
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Old 10-29-2012, 04:24 PM
 
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What magazine could you possibly write for?
I'm so glad someone else was thinking that.

Back to the OP. Guess what? Happiness is not a state of being. Instead, it needs to be an action verb. If you don't get up off your butt, convince yourself that you have value, take care of yourself, and keep trying to find gainful employment, then your bad self-esteem becomes self-fulfilling.

The world rewards people who try and punishes those who don't. I wish I could sugar coat matters, but that's just the way it is.
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