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Old 11-01-2012, 02:57 PM
 
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Remember the Old Movie called "Mean Girls" where all the really pretty girls in a High School all stuck together and everyone else gained or lost status if the pretty popular girls talked to them?

Do very physically attractive women in their 20s and 30s play that game too? Would a really beautiful woman befriend a plain overweight woman if the personal chemistry was right or would they lose status among their crowd for letting the plain overweight woman in the circle?

I get a kick out of seeing groups of women together at the mall, generally they are like clones of each other, especially the real pretty ones even up to forty years old. Do you see the same thing or do you disagree?
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Old 11-01-2012, 03:09 PM
 
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I don't know. I never fed into those clicks. I am almost 39 and a friend of mine is 41. We are about the same weight and height but we are quite different people.

Both with dark hair and eyes but hers is curly and she wears make up, mine is straight and I do not. She is a girly girl and always wears dresses. I am not and I wear jeans and a t shirt and harley boots.

I have visible tattoos and she does not. We are very different but enjoy spending time with one another.

I am not much on judging people by what they look like, but for who they are. I know not every one is this way.
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Old 11-01-2012, 03:23 PM
 
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I'm thinking if you're a shallow person who picks who you'll be friends with based on looks then possibly yes...
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Old 11-01-2012, 03:36 PM
 
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I'm thinking if you're a shallow person who picks who you'll be friends with based on looks then possibly yes...
Then there are lots of shallow people out there because I see lots of clones together in public places. I RARELY see a fat plain girl with a group of thin pretty women. Do you?
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Old 11-01-2012, 04:36 PM
 
Location: Buenos Aires, Argentina
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Do very physically attractive women in their 20s and 30s play that game too? Would a really beautiful woman befriend a plain overweight woman if the personal chemistry was right or would they lose status among their crowd for letting the plain overweight woman in the circle?
NO!
This question is so weird I ve never thought of how another woman looks to see if i would be friends with her, just personality/ common interests.
And i ve never met someone who did.

who does this anyway??
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Old 11-01-2012, 05:46 PM
 
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NO!
This question is so weird I ve never thought of how another woman looks to see if i would be friends with her, just personality/ common interests.
And i ve never met someone who did.

who does this anyway??
Usually just young teens who don't even know themselves what they want...Older people are less likely I'm thinking to be that way because by then they've hopefully realized that it's the "cake" that matters, not the "icing", if that makes sense.
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Old 11-01-2012, 06:30 PM
 
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My friends don't care about that sort of thing, but I've seen groups of girls I suspect only befriend other pretty girls. It just can't be coincidence when you see a group of friends who are all pretty, all dressed alike, all talking alike. They're the kind of girls who only want to be around people who are just like they are.
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Old 11-02-2012, 07:05 AM
 
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I've known insecure pretty girls who befriend a plain one just as an ego boost. It's probably subconscious but when the guys routinely choose the pretty one over the plain one, it makes the pretty girl feel validated.
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Old 11-02-2012, 09:32 AM
 
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I guess if you are really shallow this might apply. Maybe I am not connected to reality, but I don't think your scenario describes most women. I am in my 30s and have friends of all shapes, sizes and looks. We have a daughter who would be considered beautiful and is a super fit varsity athlete; her best friend is very obese. There are superficial people in every walk of life, but I believe more are not concerned with these things than those that are.
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Old 11-02-2012, 09:36 AM
 
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Since I wrote the question yesterday the whole topic caught my interest and went over to a number of public places where 20-40 year old women hung out in groups and it was amazing how much the women who were together were alike both in attractiveness and weight and style and hipness factor. Most people outside of a few city data types hang out with people who are clones of themselves.
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