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Old 11-14-2012, 03:26 PM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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Yeah, experienced this with a good friend. We aren't friends any longer. I can't stand two faced people.
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Old 11-14-2012, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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Ever have a friend or close family member talk behind your back but smiles and pretends to be your best friend to your face? Did you confront them only for them to deny it and then continue to spread false gossip about you? Was it someone that you just cut off or was it someone who was in your inner circle that you couldn't get rid of so easily?

How did you deal with it? What ended up happening?

Everybody has an agenda. I go by my gut, if they are a toxic person then say bye bye.
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Old 11-14-2012, 11:57 PM
 
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Well, I don't really have an "inner circle" because I don't really know what the purpose of that is. Anyhow, if I found out that I was associating with someone who was two-faced then I would remove them from my life. They would have one less friend in there circle.
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Old 11-17-2012, 01:41 PM
 
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Just about all of my "friends" in life have been fake on some level.

There was one guy who was overly friendly towards me in college and it became clear rather quickly that he was just using me because I had more of a brain than him. He wanted me to do his coursework for him, and that is when I cut off our "friendship." I told him no and stopped talking to him.

The older I get, the less I like people in general. Most people are just putting on a facade when they are around you because they want something. If you have nothing that they want, you are ignored. I'd say maybe 1 out of 20 people I meet are caring and real. For the most part, the other 19 out of 20 are just a bunch of fake a-holes.
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Old 11-17-2012, 02:21 PM
 
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Friendship for many people these days is just a tactic to get close to a person to gain information, or advantage in some way- sad but true that people will go to such lengths to gain some minimal advantage, its apparent in most families.

Its even apparent in Romantic Relationships or marriages, its everywhere - the best thing to do is be clear about who you, what you want in your life, trust your instincts and don't trust anyone completely. Have your own Goals, plans and keep them to yourself.

In a modern society we are confused, on one level our instincts tell us that life is a fight for survival, on another level we have BS fake friends, and general level of falseness that exists at every level of society where you just can't really completely trust anyone.

View everyone as just another Human being trying to survive.
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Old 11-18-2012, 07:11 AM
 
Location: North Fulton
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Ever have a friend or close family member talk behind your back but smiles and pretends to be your best friend to your face? Did you confront them only for them to deny it and then continue to spread false gossip about you? Was it someone that you just cut off or was it someone who was in your inner circle that you couldn't get rid of so easily?

How did you deal with it? What ended up happening?
Try to talk it out with this person as much as possible. If you feel like you cannot talk to them in a candid manner, move on and make friends with someone else.

All I can say is you learn how to deal better with people from your own direct experiences (good and bad). You try to build trust with a few close friends and or even just one. If this person cannot be trusted and you know that deep inside, just take it for what it is and don't confide in him/or especially if you know what you told them in confidence is shared with someone else.
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