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Old 11-19-2012, 10:50 AM
 
Location: Brooklyn,NY
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Well, I am going to have lunch with him after the Thanksgiving holiday. He can pick the place. Ain't paying for it though. Thanks to all for the replies and input.

Let's hope I don't get food poisoning! Weird irony tends to happen to me.
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Old 11-19-2012, 10:59 AM
 
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I wouldn't say sorry. You did nothing wrong. If he told me I should have picked a safer place, I would have told him to kiss my ass.
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Old 11-19-2012, 11:31 AM
 
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Only if you had cooked the meal would it be your fault. Remember your friend and I hope that you remain friends, and both put this behind you.
Destrella
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Old 11-19-2012, 02:14 PM
 
Location: Colorado
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Dear OP:
I had to laugh at your original post. Many years ago, when I was in college, I took my mother to a local Chinese restaurant that had always served great food. We'd already argued about where to go. I'd made the suggestion, she was very obviously reluctant to go but kept on saying "No no, it's fine" (super passive-aggressive) while I was saying, "No really, let's go somewhere else, I don't mind!". Anyway, of course this was the one night that the food was awful! Mum sat there, being a good little martyr, doing the I'm-so-disgusted-by-the-food-but-I'm-not-going-to-say-anything-but-make-it-really-obvious-I'm-hating-it. The next night she called me, "Oh darling, I didn't want to say anything last night and ruin your evening but honestly, the food in that place was disgusting, I don't know how you can go there." Gee, thanks Mum!

I proceeded to tell her exactly what I thought of her behaviour the night before and this conversation and hung up the phone. We didn't speak for almost a month.

My point is, there's no way this evening was your fault and if your friend is still trying to blame you, maybe it's time you pointed that out. If you trusted the place and they had one bad night, it's not down to you. Sent a Get Well card, offer to take them somewhere else, let them pick next time - but don't feel bad. You didn't do anything wrong.
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Old 11-19-2012, 02:28 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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Sounds like you really lucked out in the friend department!


Blames you?? What an absolute-100%-proof-positive...J-E-R-K!

His situaton--which you were trying to ease, is probably somehting he is blaming someone else for as well.
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Old 11-19-2012, 02:38 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn,NY
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Originally Posted by picklejuice View Post
Sounds like you really lucked out in the friend department!


Blames you?? What an absolute-100%-proof-positive...J-E-R-K!

His situaton--which you were trying to ease, is probably somehting he is blaming someone else for as well.
He can be a bit sensitive as I described from some of my posts earlier here, And has had a very rough year that is not easing much at all. he likely feels like the whole world is against him situation-wise. I actually know that feeling myself from the past so I have patience and we are good to go at the present time. He is however picking the lunch place himself.

Or maybe just have a beer or 2 instead.
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