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Old 11-18-2012, 03:52 PM
 
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He sure doesn't sound like a friend, a true friend would be happy for you -- I'd just let the relationship drop and move on to better people as friends.
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Old 11-18-2012, 04:20 PM
 
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He sure doesn't sound like a friend, a true friend would be happy for you -- I'd just let the relationship drop and move on to better people as friends.
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Old 11-18-2012, 04:27 PM
 
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To be honest, his infidelity has nothing to do with our friendship. That is his business. We dont have a romantic relationship so i do not care about that.
But it does show what kind of person he is -- he's a user and most likely a liar. He's not exactly a good friend to his own wife.

He sounds like a petty jealous loser who resents people who are near him that do better. He probably has to feel superior and now that he doesn't, he's p-o'd about you getting something he didn't.

Probably most of us at one time or another have been disappointed by someone we thought was a friend but we could see they really wanted to keep us in our place -- somewhere they felt was below them.
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Old 11-18-2012, 07:53 PM
 
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Honestly, I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe he's just not that good at expressing himself in an email. Maybe he's a bit of a jerk (though if you've known him well for years, it seems like you'd already know this). Maybe you're thinking too much about these mildly negative remarks.

Because that's what they sound like to me - MILDLY negative remarks, nothing horrible or intentionally hurtful or hateful. I wouldn't think twice about them. Just carry on as usual, but make a note to yourself that he is somewhat lacking in social skills when it comes to congratulating others or being truly happy for them.

If you MUST say something to him, laugh it off and say, "DUDE. I thought you'd be happier for me! What's your problem?" Call his hand. I bet face to face he won't be so negative. If he is, just tell him his response sucks - and don't dwell on it.

I mean, why are you HEARTBROKEN about this, and feel that you've lost this incredibly meaningful friendship? It doesn't sound like a very deep friendship to me -certainly not one to be heartbroken over losing - especially since you probably HAVEN'T lost it, whatever "it" is.
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