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Old 11-20-2012, 11:30 AM
 
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I figured I'd give this a try. My Dad is the hardest person to shop for. Maybe there are more guys out there like him who can give me gift ideas of what they'd want for Christmas. All the stores (real and online) have these "gift ideas for Dad" but none of them fit my Dad.

Dad is in his late 60s, retired, in good health.
No real hobbies, no golf, will watch Philly sports, but not really a big Eagles or Phillies "fan," so no jerseys, etc.
Not into any kind of exercise or sports.

Very handy--can fix anything in the car or house--but he already has nearly every possible tool. I've gotten him all kind of power tools, screwdriver sets, pocket multi-tools. Those damned Leatherman tools are guaranteed for like 75 years, so all the ones I've bought him will outlast him and not need replacing any time soon (should have gotten him cheap ones, right?)

Very simple in his clothing, and will say he doesn't need any clothes. My mom, sister, and I have already bought him a complete wardrobe over the years, from Eddie Bauer, L.L. Bean, and he lives in plaid flannel shirts and jeans or khakis. We've already gotten him nice leather belts, and he has a pretty new wallet.

Not into high-tech things. Doesn't use a computer (no interest). Uses a very simple cell phone and doesn't want a "fancy" one. Likes oldies music (50s and 60s) but no interest in an ipod or a music collection.

Will drink a beer once in a while when at a restaurant, but not a big "beer guy."

Definitely not into pipes/cigars/tobacco.

Loves Consumer Reports, but already has a subscription and an indexed file of back-issues.
Likes car magazines, but I've already gotten him Motor Trend and Car & Driver subscriptions for his birthday or Father's Day.

No cologne/after shave. He's very simple and doesn't like "smelly" toiletry supplies. Ivory soap, Barbasol, that's about it. No personal grooming devices like nose hair clippers or ear hair trimmers. He goes to a barber regularly and has everything neatly attended to.

Likes duct tape. He's probably the guy all the duct tape jokes could be about. But we've already gotten him every comedy/joke book about duct tape, and duct tape in every color and pattern.

Spends his time puttering with the cars, fixing little things in the house, watching my sister's kids (being a Grandpa), eating at restaurants with my Mom, and watching TV. Reads the newspapers (actual paper version, already has subscriptions), watches DVDs (finally replaced his VCR a few years ago) takes care of the dogs, picks up dog poop in the back yard (already got him some innovative mechanical pooper-scoopers).

Already got him some DVDs--likes mob movies, the Sopranos, Dexter, any police-related TV series, Rodney Dangerfield comedies from the 80s, Abbott & Costello. Lately he's been into watching Pawn Stars, American Pickers, and Storage Wars, so we bond over that. I was thinking maybe buying him DVDs of TV series' he might never have seen, but that are in his genre. Not sure what though...

Last year I got him some special super-duper windshield wipers that were supposed to be the coolest invention since rocks, but I think they are still int he package on the peg board over his workbench 11 months later. Again, he doesn't like "fancy" or high-tech, "It's just more stuff that can break."

He's super-organized, but I think I've already gotten him a bunch of organizational/storage supplies. He does like the Brother P-Touch label maker I got him a few years ago (finally gave up the dymo punch-label maker from the 70s, even though "it was still perfectly good.")

He always says he doesn't need or want anything when holidays come up. He's very generous with all of us, so it sucks that we can never think of good gifts for him.

My sister has it easier, since she has kids. She just has to have calendars and mugs made with pictures of the grandchildren for him, and digital photo frames that will magically show pictures of the grandkids. B*tch. I don't think pictures of my dogs and cats would have the same effect.



I'm a lot like my Dad, but I at least have hobbies, and people always know what to get for me.

HELP!!!!!!!!

There must be other guys out there like my Dad! Advice please???????????
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Old 11-20-2012, 11:49 AM
 
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I figured I'd give this a try. My Dad is the hardest person to shop for. Maybe there are more guys out there like him who can give me gift ideas of what they'd want for Christmas. All the stores (real and online) have these "gift ideas for Dad" but none of them fit my Dad.

Dad is in his late 60s, retired, in good health.
No real hobbies, no golf, will watch Philly sports, but not really a big Eagles or Phillies "fan," so no jerseys, etc.
Not into any kind of exercise or sports.

Very handy--can fix anything in the car or house--but he already has nearly every possible tool. I've gotten him all kind of power tools, screwdriver sets, pocket multi-tools. Those damned Leatherman tools are guaranteed for like 75 years, so all the ones I've bought him will outlast him and not need replacing any time soon (should have gotten him cheap ones, right?)

Very simple in his clothing, and will say he doesn't need any clothes. My mom, sister, and I have already bought him a complete wardrobe over the years, from Eddie Bauer, L.L. Bean, and he lives in plaid flannel shirts and jeans or khakis. We've already gotten him nice leather belts, and he has a pretty new wallet.

Not into high-tech things. Doesn't use a computer (no interest). Uses a very simple cell phone and doesn't want a "fancy" one. Likes oldies music (50s and 60s) but no interest in an ipod or a music collection.

Will drink a beer once in a while when at a restaurant, but not a big "beer guy."

Definitely not into pipes/cigars/tobacco.

Loves Consumer Reports, but already has a subscription and an indexed file of back-issues.
Likes car magazines, but I've already gotten him Motor Trend and Car & Driver subscriptions for his birthday or Father's Day.

No cologne/after shave. He's very simple and doesn't like "smelly" toiletry supplies. Ivory soap, Barbasol, that's about it. No personal grooming devices like nose hair clippers or ear hair trimmers. He goes to a barber regularly and has everything neatly attended to.

Likes duct tape. He's probably the guy all the duct tape jokes could be about. But we've already gotten him every comedy/joke book about duct tape, and duct tape in every color and pattern.

Spends his time puttering with the cars, fixing little things in the house, watching my sister's kids (being a Grandpa), eating at restaurants with my Mom, and watching TV. Reads the newspapers (actual paper version, already has subscriptions), watches DVDs (finally replaced his VCR a few years ago) takes care of the dogs, picks up dog poop in the back yard (already got him some innovative mechanical pooper-scoopers).

Already got him some DVDs--likes mob movies, the Sopranos, Dexter, any police-related TV series, Rodney Dangerfield comedies from the 80s, Abbott & Costello. Lately he's been into watching Pawn Stars, American Pickers, and Storage Wars, so we bond over that. I was thinking maybe buying him DVDs of TV series' he might never have seen, but that are in his genre. Not sure what though...

Last year I got him some special super-duper windshield wipers that were supposed to be the coolest invention since rocks, but I think they are still int he package on the peg board over his workbench 11 months later. Again, he doesn't like "fancy" or high-tech, "It's just more stuff that can break."

He's super-organized, but I think I've already gotten him a bunch of organizational/storage supplies. He does like the Brother P-Touch label maker I got him a few years ago (finally gave up the dymo punch-label maker from the 70s, even though "it was still perfectly good.")

He always says he doesn't need or want anything when holidays come up. He's very generous with all of us, so it sucks that we can never think of good gifts for him.

My sister has it easier, since she has kids. She just has to have calendars and mugs made with pictures of the grandchildren for him, and digital photo frames that will magically show pictures of the grandkids. B*tch. I don't think pictures of my dogs and cats would have the same effect.



I'm a lot like my Dad, but I at least have hobbies, and people always know what to get for me.

HELP!!!!!!!!

There must be other guys out there like my Dad! Advice please???????????

Write down some of the "gifts" / memories he has given to you in life (teaching you to ride a bike, etc.), then thank him in a real meaty way. End this 'gift' with those priceless words: I LOVE YOU! Guaranteed to hold more value than anything else you could do/buy/come up with!
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Old 11-20-2012, 12:10 PM
 
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Get him a bird. Not some little tweety thing, but a real parrot he can have a relationship with. They are expensive (thousands) in pet stores, but you can find them on Craigslist or through rescues for a few uhundred dollars, usually including a thousand dollar cage. You need to make certain he might want it thugh. PEt surprises are often a bad idea.

Aquarium.

Roomba vacuum cleaner thingy or a robot lawn mower. Neither one is all that practical but fun.

Get hom ont of those flying things you control with a smart phone and it realys video back to you. Super neato thing costs $300. (Brookstone, or various Cell phone companies - I know Verizon sells them).

Bird feeders. We have been buying day bird feeders for 20 years. I think he has about 60 of them.

One year we got together and cleaned out and organized his garage. It took two weekends and several evenings and cost about $600 for supplies, shelves, etc. He was really happy about it.

Get the whole family together for anything (pizza party, a boat ride, anything), but plan ahead and make sure everyone loves each other at least for that evening even if you dont.

Ask him to help you fix your car (not fix your car for you, but help you fix it with him).

If you live in a cold place, you could put together an emergency kit for his car. Shows you care for him and took the time to asseble the things that may be needed (hand crank flashlight, non perishible food, water, flares, tool kit, gloves hat emergency blanket etc. Be warned though it gets expensive. ($150 - $300).
There are at least 2 threads on CD on what you might include.

Hammock.
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Old 11-20-2012, 12:41 PM
 
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Something like a Kindle Fire/iPad, maybe? Just make sure to get him a case for it.

One of the important things about getting technology gifts for older people is to show them how to use it to do specific things you know they'll enjoy about it. Don't just hand him an iPad. Show him how to look up household repair videos on Youtube, show him how to use Netflix, etc.

On the cheaper tech side, something like a Roku and Netflix. Again, hook it up to his TV for him, and then show him how to use it.

A minor joke-y gift would be a duct tape wallet.
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Old 11-20-2012, 12:49 PM
 
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How about a nice pocket knife?

Would he like a pocket watch, something vintage like the train conductors used to wear?

A set of binoculars?

They make very small pocket sized LED flashlights that he may like. Check out brands like Fenix.
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Old 11-20-2012, 01:37 PM
 
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Hmmmm, thanks. Keep those ideas coming. He would never want a kindle, or anything that requires a smart phone. His tools and basement (no garage) are already extremely organized (he's like me). A pocket knife would be covered in the leatherman multi-tools I've gotten him over the years. Knives plus other handy stuff. Already got him lots of emergency supplies for the car (and he's gotten a bunch for me too).

I thought about another animal, but they have two dogs, and the grandchildren go there all the time too.

Now I personally like the birdfeeder idea, but I can just see it now: "Who wants a bird feeder in their yard? The damn birds wil be sh*ttin' all over the place and making the dogs bark. Then I'd have to clean up all the damned shells from all the seeds!"

I need to check out the robot lawn mowers....
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Old 11-20-2012, 01:43 PM
 
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Write down some of the "gifts" / memories he has given to you in life (teaching you to ride a bike, etc.), then thank him in a real meaty way. End this 'gift' with those priceless words: I LOVE YOU! Guaranteed to hold more value than anything else you could do/buy/come up with!

Hmmm, meat. Now there's something to consider.

Steaks Online, Prime Beef, and Gourmet Meats - Allen Brothers





But seriously, we're not really a gooey-affectionate family. They would all think I've gotten into drugs or something. I do tell him all the time in lots of ways that I love him and that he and I are alike (unlike my sister and mom).
But after you give a gift like what you describe, what do you give the NEXT year? It's maybe more of a "last Christmas" gift, if ya know what I'm saying. Can't really top it in subsequent years.
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Old 11-20-2012, 01:45 PM
 
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Coupons for free meals at nice restaurants. Tickets to a sporting event, play, concert, to which you will accompany him. If you really want to spring for it, a paid-for weekend at a rental cabin or cottage in a popular vacation area, or even cruise tickets. Tickets to places like the Corvette Museum, or to a NASCAR race. A good camera. Albums or books with family photos or grandkid pictures.

Dog toys or supplies like nice dog beds. New leashes and collars for the dogs. Doggy treats.

What did your father do before he retired? Maybe you could pay for and make reservations for a lunch or dinner with former work colleagues?

There are always donations to worthy charities related to your father's interests and made in your father's honor...perhaps your local humane society, since he's a dog owner.
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Old 11-20-2012, 01:52 PM
 
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A friend got a devise that sent the bird sounds from the feeder are into the home like a baby monitor.

One of my friends started a bee hive hobby and this first year extracted 2 gallons of honey. Wonderful hobby we all enjoy.

But in such cases like your father, consumables are probably best. Is there a specialty food product, restaurant, class he can use? Museum membership?
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Old 11-20-2012, 01:57 PM
 
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Coupons for free meals at nice restaurants. This I've done before, and may do again. He has restaurants that he likes to go to again & again, and he's a "regular."

Tickets to a sporting event, play, concert, to which you will accompany him. If you really want to spring for it, a paid-for weekend at a rental cabin in a popular vacation area, or even cruise tickets.
Dad doesn't like going out to events or shows, and his idea of a vacation is when my Mom goes away with her girlfriends and he gets the house to himself.


Tickets to places like the Corvette Museum, or to a NASCAR race. I can hear Dad laughing now!

A good camera. Albums or books with family photos or grandkid pictures. My sister has cornered the market on these things. It would also be weird for me to give him an album of pictures of my sister's kids. She'd also probably kill me.

Dog toys or supplies like nice dog beds. New leashes and collars for the dogs. Doggy treats. Now you're thinking...

What did your father do before he retired? Maybe pay for a lunch or dinner with former work colleagues? He worked for years in armed security, then when he was older, supervising various security personnel. He keeps in touch with one friend. He's a loner like me. But at least you're thinking outside the box...

There are always donations to a worthy charity related to your father's interests and made in your father's honor...
I may do this again too. He's a big animal lover, and there are lots of charities and rescues helping animals affected by hurricane Sandy.
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