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The information is out there.
Most children who are sexually abused, are sexually abused by someone who is a family member/friend of the family, etc. A theoretically and technically "safe" person.
Most sexual predators are male.
The sexual abuser is most often a family member, or someone "in charge", i.e., a coach, a priest, a minister, a mentor....someone who can hide behind the cloak of being a "respectable" person.
As I said, no, I am not referring to my own family. I have a teenaged daughter and a teenaged son - neither of whom, I might add, has been sexually abused.......because I was vigilant about their safety, because I taught them about inappropriate touching, etc., and because I realized and dealt with the realities of the situation. No, I'm not a "perfect" mother (there is no such thing), but I did my best.
The information is out there.
Most children who are sexually abused, are sexually abused by someone who is a family member/friend of the family, etc. A theoretically and technically "safe" person.
Most sexual predators are male.
The sexual abuser is most often a family member, or someone "in charge", i.e., a coach, a priest, a minister, a mentor....someone who can hide behind the cloak of being a "respectable" person.
As I said, no, I am not referring to my own family. I have a teenaged daughter and a teenaged son - neither of whom, I might add, has been sexually abused.......because I was vigilant about their safety, because I taught them about inappropriate touching, etc., and because I realized and dealt with the realities of the situation. No, I'm not a "perfect" mother (there is no such thing), but I did my best.
And I kept them safe.
Since there was never a threat, what makes you feel you kept your children safe?
Your statement makes it sound like all parents are slackers if their children are victimized. You might think about that a bit - as even though I know you are proud that you warned your children about such things as "inappropriate touching," your attitude comes off as somewhat condescending towards those folks who HAVE been victimized.
No one can keep their children entirely safe. Your earlier statements make me wonder if your high level of concern about molestation meant your children missing out on what could have been important and valuable relationships in life.
So who do you let around your children?! Based upon your logic not even their father can be around them.
I was (mildly, it could have been worse) sexually abused by my 4th grade teacher, and my DH worked sex crimes, and we are not as cautious as you, and we cautious.
I can't imagine not letting the kids hang with their uncles and other family members. Did you not allow male teachers?
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