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Old 12-02-2012, 02:41 PM
 
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Not so much being a loner in terms of ( Oh woe is me, no one wants to be my friend) but more so, enjoying being by myself most of the time? I'm 22 years old, and to be perfectly honest, I prefer being alone in many cases. To give myself a little more background, yes, I'm a bit socially awkward, although some of my friends and family would describe as "eccentric". I'm able to socialize well with people when it calls for it (in school, etc) but I feel much more happier being by myself. However, I realize that people are social creatures who need to socialize and work with others in many situations. Which brings up the question, " Do you think wanting to be a loner is mental illness?"
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Old 12-02-2012, 02:42 PM
 
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I hope, not! I am loner
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Old 12-02-2012, 02:49 PM
 
Location: Australia
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Not so much being a loner in terms of ( Oh woe is me, no one wants to be my friend) but more so, enjoying being by myself most of the time? I'm 22 years old, and to be perfectly honest, I prefer being alone in many cases. To give myself a little more background, yes, I'm a bit socially awkward, although some of my friends and family would describe as "eccentric". I'm able to socialize well with people when it calls for it (in school, etc) but I feel much more happier being by myself. However, I realize that people are social creatures who need to socialize and work with others in many situations. Which brings up the question, " Do you think wanting to be a loner is mental illness?"

Noooooo!!!!!

You are blessed if you enjoy your own company.

I do, but I also have a social streak, and it's led me to have some horrible so-called friends over the years.

They have all come and gone, and now I'm back to one BFF that I've known forever, my family, and a handful of acquaintances. The rest are just vague memories of varying good times and regrets.

Enjoy it, revel in it, refuse to be judged. I only wish I was an island. Needing people is a flaw, for me at least. Other people have caused me so much grief in my life, I honestly pray for the day when I can rely on myself completely.
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Old 12-02-2012, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Of course not! As long as you are happy - that's all that matters!
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Old 12-02-2012, 02:55 PM
 
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No not at all. I prefer to be alone than with some moron(s)
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Old 12-02-2012, 03:07 PM
 
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Noooooo!!!!!

You are blessed if you enjoy your own company.

I do, but I also have a social streak, and it's led me to have some horrible so-called friends over the years.

They have all come and gone, and now I'm back to one BFF that I've known forever, my family, and a handful of acquaintances. The rest are just vague memories of varying good times and regrets.

Enjoy it, revel in it, refuse to be judged. I only wish I was an island. Needing people is a flaw, for me at least. Other people have caused me so much grief in my life, I honestly pray for the day when I can rely on myself completely.
Reading your post I feel the same way sometimes, I find it so easy to hate people but I keep it to myself. Yeah I have one friend (she's actually my ex which is ironic) who I trust and talk to about everything. I keep in contact with people with Facebook and Instagram. I'm the exact opposite of my brother, who is a social butterfly ( he feels the same way about people like I do). To be completely honest I can't wait to start my career and achieve a life of solitude.
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Old 12-02-2012, 03:31 PM
 
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There is nothing wrong with being a loner, so long as it's not anti-social. It can be so peaceful and cathartic. The only disadvantage is that those potentially dating you view this is a negative, in that you don't have a large circle of friends, aren't connected to produce more fruits form your professional endeavors, and other practical considerations. If it is just the way you roll, and it's not tied to a personality disorder, then they shouldn't have an issue with it, and should be able to work around it if they really cared for you.
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Old 12-02-2012, 03:32 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Nope absolutely not!

I'm the same way. I know a lot of people and can socialize but I prefer to be myself or with my wife and baby.
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Old 12-02-2012, 04:06 PM
 
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Not at all.

You answered what I wanted to know. You said you like your own company, you're happy with it. You said you can be sociable when neccessary, you just prefer being a loner.

So, as long as you don't have a gloom, despair and agony on me thing going on, then by all means....

....Enjoy your space.

I certainly do mine.
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Old 12-02-2012, 04:09 PM
 
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Not so much being a loner in terms of ( Oh woe is me, no one wants to be my friend) but more so, enjoying being by myself most of the time? I'm 22 years old, and to be perfectly honest, I prefer being alone in many cases. To give myself a little more background, yes, I'm a bit socially awkward, although some of my friends and family would describe as "eccentric". I'm able to socialize well with people when it calls for it (in school, etc) but I feel much more happier being by myself. However, I realize that people are social creatures who need to socialize and work with others in many situations. Which brings up the question, " Do you think wanting to be a loner is mental illness?"

Not a thing wrong with you at all, I am very much a loner when my husband is gone working and he can be gone for a few hours to several months at a time. We have a close circle of friends and know a lot of people and socialize when we can with friends and family but overall when he is home we spend our time with each other but you have to understand we don't have much time together to begin with.
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