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Like someone else said, it depends on where you are. When we moved too a Belen, New Mexico, I found a couple guys in the back of the moving truck helping me unload the truck. They were from the houses on either side of me. Then we were transferred to Tucson. We never met the people on either side of us for three years. Even today, after 18 years we still don't know more than 2 or 3 families. Everyone stays to themselves in this neighborhood.
This is something that has always puzzled me as well. I have never been friendly to my neighbors because I have nothing in common with them other than a common boundary. I avoid eye contact and if they try to talk to me I just wave and try to get away as quickly as possible. Using "OMG, I left the bath running", is always a good way to get out of a difficult situation.
"Why is this man talking to me? Just because he lives next door does not give him any reason to expect I should take time out of my busy day to chat with him. I didn't choose to live next to him. The only reason he is talking to me is he thinks I will talk back because he is a neighbor. This is not the 1950s, I don't have time for this foolishness. I have my own friends to talk to!"
Can you relate? Does my neighbor owe me any conversation because I live near him (manners wise)???
I'm not sure why you even bother trying to chat as it seems you can have a lively and imaginative conversation with your neighbor right inside your own head.
I would hate living in a neighborhood where nobody talks to each other. We have half the neighborhood shorties with us and their pets are welcome as well. One of our neighbors dogs goes crazy if she sees our dog or hears our voice. We have to go and get her so she can come in and visit Howie for a while. I think she wants to live with us. One of our neighbors has a key to our house which has come in handy a couple of times. We ride bikes together, eat out and go to movies. You can never have enough friends.
well, manner wise, it would be good if you know your neighbors and help them in case of emergency.. well, out of humanity.. but it also depends on the area you are living in.. why not start with taking a plate of cookies and great them well in a full gentlemanly style.. not in a one which could annoy them..
I'm not sure why you even bother trying to chat as it seems you can have a lively and imaginative conversation with your neighbor right inside your own head.
I agree with the emergency thing. My neighbor actually called police when he saw burglars leaving my house..of course the cops came to late and didn't even go to the back of my house where the window was broken..but were going the wrong way.GRRRR but he did notify me that he called the police which was kind of nice and he now has my phone number and I have his.
I think that's sad your neighbors don't even say HI or acknowledge you. But it's sad that seems common for some reason especially in L.A ,other cities too i'm sure.
It depends on where you live, and what your neighbors are like.
Your neighbor doesn't "owe" you any conversation. It's polite to acknowledge greetings when made, but nothing is required beyond that. IME, expecting anything more than that is imposing on your neighbors, which isn't really neighborly. Personally, I believe "good fences make good neighbors". If you're dead set on befriending the neighbors, take it slowly, don't rush things, and take the opportunities that come up on their own as they come up.
Well said..
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