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This wasn't a save the date (she actually sent those out in August)...this WAS the actual invitation. She wants people to RSVP now (so that they can't make excuses later). So I have to say yes or no now.
I had another friend from the same location that I used to work with who invited me to her wedding the week I was moving here. I tried to kind of politely say I'd already be in my new city by then, but she acted like that was nuts and there was no problem with me driving back up there for the wedding. I also had a friend in town (from my home state) and she said I could just bring her with me instead of a date if I wanted, which I felt would be incredibly awkward for all people involved. When she sent the actual invitations out, I just said "no" on my RSVP and she promptly quit speaking to me. Some mutual friends later told me that she was apparently extremely hurt...just didn't want a repeat of that!
Say no now. Mail the RSVP to her with your regrets. This wedding is in Summer or Fall 2013? Who knows what will come up for you between now and then. You don't have to spend the weekend driving a total of 5 hours, spending money on a hotel and gas, and spending a day at a wedding and reception with no close friends feeling awkward and uncomfortable if you don't want to.
If you want, next year you can send her a card and gift.
I just said "no" on my RSVP and she promptly quit speaking to me.
That one-word response does seem like a cold slap in the face! A more graceful response would have something along the lines of "I'm sorry but I'm afraid I'll be unable to attend. My very best wishes to you and your future husband."
You don't respond until you receive a formal invitation in the mail. If you have received one, hold onto it. After you receive the invitation, or held onto this one for 10 months, decline the invitation and don't send a gift. You don't have to explain yourself. In the unlikely event that she does call you and ask you why you're not coming, just say, "Oh, I'm so sorry. I just can't."
This wasn't a save the date (she actually sent those out in August)...this WAS the actual invitation. She wants people to RSVP now (so that they can't make excuses later). So I have to say yes or no now.
Okay. That's weird. Just write back saying, "I'm not sure if I can commit to a date that far ahead. However, thanks for thinking of me and best wishes."
That one-word response does seem like a cold slap in the face! A more graceful response would have something along the lines of "I'm sorry but I'm afraid I'll be unable to attend. My very best wishes to you and your future husband."
It was online and you either checked "yes" or "no." There was no space for comments. I was not living in town by then so wasn't going to see her in person. I'd already told her last time I saw her in person that I just didn't think it was going to work out and that if I could have scheduled my friend to visit during another week, I would have.
It was online and you either checked "yes" or "no." There was no space for comments. I was not living in town by then so wasn't going to see her in person. I'd already told her last time I saw her in person that I just didn't think it was going to work out and that if I could have scheduled my friend to visit during another week, I would have.
OMG Are we talking an "event" like on facebook?? Check No....end of story.
An online wedding invitation is not a SERIOUS wedding invitation. Ignore it.
Sheesh, unbelievably tacky and trashy.
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