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I think they THINK they have it good, but they're missing out on loving relationships, and the satisfaction that comes from actually being good to people.
All you are focusing on is the surface, people that dont treat others well are not happy people. I have learned as I got older that eventually things catch up to people. My husband's youngest sister is really a trip. I think the reason she has been given so many opportunities is because she is attractive. She has lied, stole, manipulates, is rude and well...I could go on and on. Great things just seem to fall in her lap. When she does wrong, it all just seems to work out in her favor. Its kind of amazing really. I spent quite a few years feeling bitter towards her, then I realized things are not what they seem. Sure she lucked out and had great opportunities but she is one miserable person. She has some mental issues, has been in therapy for over 5 yrs, always on the brink of divorce, hates her job and her kids have major problems. If you met her though, you would think she has it all.
What is there to handle? Life is random. Part of growth is gaining wisdom and learning what is and isn't worth sweating over.
You need to nurture your own garden.
Great advice! Focus on yourself first. Try to learn and improve yourself and not try to measure yourself to other people as it just doesn't work or make sense as you never know all the details so to speak.
As you grow older, more of this makes perfect sense. I would try to stay away from toxic people as well as all they do is bring you down to their levels.
I know a lady who has herpes and sleeps with guys but doesn't tell them she has it. So far, no one has come back to tell her she has passed it on, or at least she hasn't said anything about it. She used to be on match dot com and would lie about her age to get younger men. The fact that she slept with guys so quickly, made those guys happy but none of those guys stayed very long.
This same lady is aways talking about people and uses her position to find out stuff about people's salary (she is an executive secretary). I know this because she has told me.
It just seemed to me that she pretends to be friends with people only to get information that she can use against them.
I know a lady who has herpes and sleeps with guys but doesn't tell them she has it. So far, no one has come back to tell her she has passed it on, or at least she hasn't said anything about it. She used to be on match dot com and would lie about her age to get younger men. The fact that she slept with guys so quickly, made those guys happy but none of those guys stayed very long.
This same lady is aways talking about people and uses her position to find out stuff about people's salary (she is an executive secretary). I know this because she has told me.
It just seemed to me that she pretends to be friends with people only to get information that she can use against them.
Wow, that's just sick! I would report her to the health department. That's playing with peoples lives.
The wrong guy might take it in his own hands for payback on something like that.
But what really gets me is seeing people who are mean & cruel & rude, have good things happen to them.
I've heard of good people having bad things happen to them, but what about bad people having good things happen to them?
How do you all handle this?
catlink answers these questions perfectly. besides just because you judge someone to be unworthy doesn't make it universally true. most people have both a good and a bad side, with one that outweighs the other.
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Originally Posted by cat_link
What is there to handle? Life is random. Part of growth is gaining wisdom and learning what is and isn't worth sweating over.
You need to nurture your own garden.
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Originally Posted by luckygirl15
I know a lady who has herpes and sleeps with guys but doesn't tell them she has it. So far, no one has come back to tell her she has passed it on, or at least she hasn't said anything about it. She used to be on match dot com and would lie about her age to get younger men. The fact that she slept with guys so quickly, made those guys happy but none of those guys stayed very long.
This same lady is aways talking about people and uses her position to find out stuff about people's salary (she is an executive secretary). I know this because she has told me.
It just seemed to me that she pretends to be friends with people only to get information that she can use against them.
what does this lady have to do with the op? did she win the lotto? how is it your business how many men she sleeps with? how this lady handles her sex lif is not your business. hopefully she uses protection, should she tell? sure she should. but unless you are sleeping with her then the only thing you can do when it comes up is to remind her to tell her partners and make sure she uses protection. as for lots of people on match dot come lie about their age or their height. big deal my bet is lots of human resource and others in positions with access look up and see all kinds of things that are personal.
if you don't like someone for their moral values don't hang out with them. easy
what are your thoughts on life not being fair? how do you handle what you see as unfairness?
What's there to handle? Mind your own business. You have no idea the truth of other people's lives, so keep your eyes to yourself.
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my bet is lots of human resource and others in positions with access look up and see all kinds of things that are personal. 
